Comments on: I know you want it Asian Princess

By: Asianmania

Asianmania — Thu, 07 Jun 2007 06:34:06 +0000

I think the question was from a girl who is assuming white IBankers are obnoxious yet she was surprised that Asian bankers were. She wasn’t exluding asians as people, just obnoxiousness..They arent initially obnoxious.. That is my take It’s usually the white aryan pricks..Believe me I know!

By: Mike

Mike — Wed, 23 May 2007 20:29:50 +0000

Oh duh, oops, I didn’t realize you were quoting from the article. Ha. Stupid me. I shoulda known too, seeing as I friggin wrote about that article…

By: courageous kiwi

courageous kiwi — Wed, 23 May 2007 19:56:54 +0000

To Mike:

You missed my point. Yes, “arrogance” and “obnoxiousness” are universal qualities among all people. Why did the writer have to explicitly say that Asians are included when talking about “people”?

Because, by default, we aren’t.

By: Mike

Mike — Wed, 23 May 2007 05:16:43 +0000

@courageous kiwi,

Sadly, arrogance and obnoxiousness (is that a word?) know no racial/cultural/ethnic bounds. Even the Smurfs had Grumpy Smurf, and… oh wait, there’s no Grumpy Smurf. Drat. Well, I’m sure if you look hard enough, you’ll find an arrogant and obnoxious blue person somewhere too.

By: Akrypti

Akrypti — Wed, 23 May 2007 01:54:07 +0000

Three words: white sexual imperialism.

By: courageous kiwi

courageous kiwi — Sat, 19 May 2007 20:27:50 +0000

FTFA:

QUESTION: I have traveled back and forth from the United States and Asia most of my life. I recently landed a job in a high profile investment bank. Not only do I not have time to meet people due to long hours at work, but I ‘m not really interested in the ones I work with. They are so arrogant and obnoxious, even Asian guys. What would you suggest?

WTF?

By: AKS

AKS — Fri, 18 May 2007 16:35:11 +0000

I’m Jewish, and my wife is Chinese. I think that when it comes to interracial relationships, the important thing is to recognize and respect cultural differences and be open to sharing them. If you don’t want to be with someone outside of your race because you want to live within your original culture, then that’s one thing, but don’t write people off based solely on the color of their skin.

If I was strictly observant, and kept kosher, I would never have dated a woman whose ethnic cuisine includes a lot of pork. (Likewise, if I were still dating, I would not want to date an observant Christian, because her culture would conflict too much with mine.) Our son is being reared as a Chinese-American *and* as a Jew, and all three of us have a richer life for it. But we understood going in that we would be sharing our cultures rather than trying to change one of us from one to the other.

Last night I met a Chinese woman who’s married to an American (but I didn’t meet her husband). She was very impressed that I know a few Chinese words and even that I can use chopsticks! I thought that was a little weird — you marry a Chinese woman (based on her accent I don’t think she’s been in the US all that long), but you don’t even learn to use chopsticks?

By: James

James — Fri, 18 May 2007 13:33:15 +0000

Native born Asians are probably going to be more interested in people they’re used to, namely Asians they grew up around (most Asian countries are vastly homogenous in terms of race). But, looking at the statistics, a staggering 54% of third gen. Asian Americans marry outside their race. I could bet that the majority of those Asian Americans are female.

By: Tan

Tan — Fri, 18 May 2007 11:18:43 +0000

Interracial dating is OK but the serious stuff should be kept within the bounds of your race. I must mention that native-born Asians contribute the least percentage of interracial dating/marriage(http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200301/race). I guess they feel that a similar language and culture is very important in a serious relationship. I think “I love you” in English is not the same as “I love you” in Vietnamese.

By: Patti

Patti — Fri, 18 May 2007 01:54:14 +0000

OK… Let me tell ya all summin you’ll all get when you grow up.. All this shit aint gonna matter what so ever.. It all ends up to whom you end up with and how happy you are with that person… nothing else.. it is all between you two… period.