Comments on: Is too much self-esteem bad for you? http://www.8asians.com/2007/07/10/is-too-much-self-esteem-bad-for-you/ A blog for Asian Americans Mon, 13 Feb 2012 20:27:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: joanh http://www.8asians.com/2007/07/10/is-too-much-self-esteem-bad-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-18942 joanh Thu, 12 Jul 2007 10:16:30 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/2007/07/10/is-too-much-self-esteem-bad-for-you/#comment-18942 LOL. Not only did I never get paid for good grades, but also didn't get paid for chores AKA an allowance. oh well. I always thought it was funny that the Kumon smiley face is not very happy. LOL. Not only did I never get paid for good grades, but also didn’t get paid for chores AKA an allowance. oh well.

I always thought it was funny that the Kumon smiley face is not very happy.

]]> By: joanh http://www.8asians.com/2007/07/10/is-too-much-self-esteem-bad-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-135648 joanh Thu, 12 Jul 2007 10:16:00 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/2007/07/10/is-too-much-self-esteem-bad-for-you/#comment-135648 LOL. Not only did I never get paid for good grades, but also didn't get paid for chores AKA an allowance. oh well. I always thought it was funny that the Kumon smiley face is not very happy. LOL. Not only did I never get paid for good grades, but also didn’t get paid for chores AKA an allowance. oh well.

I always thought it was funny that the Kumon smiley face is not very happy.

]]> By: Xxxtine http://www.8asians.com/2007/07/10/is-too-much-self-esteem-bad-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-18784 Xxxtine Wed, 11 Jul 2007 19:56:46 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/2007/07/10/is-too-much-self-esteem-bad-for-you/#comment-18784 I remember watching the press conference with the cast of Brokeback Mountain when it first premiered in Toronto. Actors Jake Gyllenhaul and Heath Ledger were asked about what it was like working with Ang Lee. I found it rather interesting that they were confounded by how little praise they received when they knew they nailed a scene. They called it 'slightly manipulative'. For me, I receive very little praise if any, partially because my parents are all that excited about my wanting a career in the arts and also, they know very little of the industry I work in. Growing up, I was always encouraged to try out and learn new things more so than come home with A's (though that isn't to say they didn't want me to strive for them.) And yes, too much self-esteem is bad.  William Hung was an OK guy before people started deluding him.  Lots of people respected him when he said, "I have no training.  I tried my best and I have no regrets" after he was flatly rejected.  Now people just laugh at the mere mention of his name. I remember watching the press conference with the cast of Brokeback Mountain when it first premiered in Toronto. Actors Jake Gyllenhaul and Heath Ledger were asked about what it was like working with Ang Lee. I found it rather interesting that they were confounded by how little praise they received when they knew they nailed a scene. They called it ‘slightly manipulative’.

For me, I receive very little praise if any, partially because my parents are all that excited about my wanting a career in the arts and also, they know very little of the industry I work in. Growing up, I was always encouraged to try out and learn new things more so than come home with A’s (though that isn’t to say they didn’t want me to strive for them.)

And yes, too much self-esteem is bad.  William Hung was an OK guy before people started deluding him.  Lots of people respected him when he said, “I have no training.  I tried my best and I have no regrets” after he was flatly rejected.  Now people just laugh at the mere mention of his name.

]]> By: Xxxtine http://www.8asians.com/2007/07/10/is-too-much-self-esteem-bad-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-135647 Xxxtine Wed, 11 Jul 2007 19:56:00 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/2007/07/10/is-too-much-self-esteem-bad-for-you/#comment-135647 I remember watching the press conference with the cast of Brokeback Mountain when it first premiered in Toronto. Actors Jake Gyllenhaul and Heath Ledger were asked about what it was like working with Ang Lee. I found it rather interesting that they were confounded by how little praise they received when they knew they nailed a scene. They called it 'slightly manipulative'. For me, I receive very little praise if any, partially because my parents are all that excited about my wanting a career in the arts and also, they know very little of the industry I work in. Growing up, I was always encouraged to try out and learn new things more so than come home with A's (though that isn't to say they didn't want me to strive for them.) And yes, too much self-esteem is bad.  William Hung was an OK guy before people started deluding him.  Lots of people respected him when he said, "I have no training.  I tried my best and I have no regrets" after he was flatly rejected.  Now people just laugh at the mere mention of his name. I remember watching the press conference with the cast of Brokeback Mountain when it first premiered in Toronto. Actors Jake Gyllenhaul and Heath Ledger were asked about what it was like working with Ang Lee. I found it rather interesting that they were confounded by how little praise they received when they knew they nailed a scene. They called it ‘slightly manipulative’.

For me, I receive very little praise if any, partially because my parents are all that excited about my wanting a career in the arts and also, they know very little of the industry I work in. Growing up, I was always encouraged to try out and learn new things more so than come home with A’s (though that isn’t to say they didn’t want me to strive for them.)

And yes, too much self-esteem is bad.  William Hung was an OK guy before people started deluding him.  Lots of people respected him when he said, “I have no training.  I tried my best and I have no regrets” after he was flatly rejected.  Now people just laugh at the mere mention of his name.

]]> By: jenn http://www.8asians.com/2007/07/10/is-too-much-self-esteem-bad-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-18677 jenn Wed, 11 Jul 2007 05:11:19 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/2007/07/10/is-too-much-self-esteem-bad-for-you/#comment-18677 For me, there was definitely never any praise nor was there ever any encouragement to join group events like team sports or girl scouts...ever notice that trend amongst Asian kids? Well, that's a different subject I guess. There was though, the expectation to do well in school. Gawd forbid you should get a "b" in math! I think I spent almost every saturday as a kid in Kumon while my friends got to do cool things like have a lemonade stand or play little league. Oh, the horror of remembering pages and pages of long division and multiplication tables! For me, there was definitely never any praise nor was there ever any encouragement to join group events like team sports or girl scouts…ever notice that trend amongst Asian kids? Well, that’s a different subject I guess. There was though, the expectation to do well in school. Gawd forbid you should get a “b” in math! I think I spent almost every saturday as a kid in Kumon while my friends got to do cool things like have a lemonade stand or play little league. Oh, the horror of remembering pages and pages of long division and multiplication tables!

]]> By: jenn http://www.8asians.com/2007/07/10/is-too-much-self-esteem-bad-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-135646 jenn Wed, 11 Jul 2007 05:11:00 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/2007/07/10/is-too-much-self-esteem-bad-for-you/#comment-135646 For me, there was definitely never any praise nor was there ever any encouragement to join group events like team sports or girl scouts...ever notice that trend amongst Asian kids? Well, that's a different subject I guess. There was though, the expectation to do well in school. Gawd forbid you should get a "b" in math! I think I spent almost every saturday as a kid in Kumon while my friends got to do cool things like have a lemonade stand or play little league. Oh, the horror of remembering pages and pages of long division and multiplication tables! For me, there was definitely never any praise nor was there ever any encouragement to join group events like team sports or girl scouts…ever notice that trend amongst Asian kids? Well, that’s a different subject I guess. There was though, the expectation to do well in school. Gawd forbid you should get a “b” in math! I think I spent almost every saturday as a kid in Kumon while my friends got to do cool things like have a lemonade stand or play little league. Oh, the horror of remembering pages and pages of long division and multiplication tables!

]]> By: Akrypti http://www.8asians.com/2007/07/10/is-too-much-self-esteem-bad-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-18638 Akrypti Wed, 11 Jul 2007 01:19:46 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/2007/07/10/is-too-much-self-esteem-bad-for-you/#comment-18638 lol. I can't recall whether I ever got paid by my parents for good grades, but I definitely got paid for playing the piano. One dollar for every hour I practiced. I know--it's worse than minimum wage. The money added up though. I remember by the time I graduated from elementary school, I had like $250 to my name, which is a HUGE sum to a 11 year old. Anyway, I grew up with neither of the above. My parents never imposed ridiculously ambitious expectations on me nor did they ever praise me. Ever. Instead, they simply encouraged me to try my hardest at whatever I put my energies into. They only expressed their disappointment when it was obvious I didn't try. Other than that, as long as I was happy, they were satisfied. I don't think that's a bad way to raise kids. lol.

I can’t recall whether I ever got paid by my parents for good grades, but I definitely got paid for playing the piano. One dollar for every hour I practiced. I know–it’s worse than minimum wage. The money added up though. I remember by the time I graduated from elementary school, I had like $250 to my name, which is a HUGE sum to a 11 year old.

Anyway, I grew up with neither of the above. My parents never imposed ridiculously ambitious expectations on me nor did they ever praise me. Ever. Instead, they simply encouraged me to try my hardest at whatever I put my energies into. They only expressed their disappointment when it was obvious I didn’t try. Other than that, as long as I was happy, they were satisfied.

I don’t think that’s a bad way to raise kids.

]]> By: Akrypti http://www.8asians.com/2007/07/10/is-too-much-self-esteem-bad-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-135645 Akrypti Wed, 11 Jul 2007 01:19:00 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/2007/07/10/is-too-much-self-esteem-bad-for-you/#comment-135645 lol. I can't recall whether I ever got paid by my parents for good grades, but I definitely got paid for playing the piano. One dollar for every hour I practiced. I know--it's worse than minimum wage. The money added up though. I remember by the time I graduated from elementary school, I had like $250 to my name, which is a HUGE sum to a 11 year old. Anyway, I grew up with neither of the above. My parents never imposed ridiculously ambitious expectations on me nor did they ever praise me. Ever. Instead, they simply encouraged me to try my hardest at whatever I put my energies into. They only expressed their disappointment when it was obvious I didn't try. Other than that, as long as I was happy, they were satisfied. I don't think that's a bad way to raise kids. lol.

I can’t recall whether I ever got paid by my parents for good grades, but I definitely got paid for playing the piano. One dollar for every hour I practiced. I know–it’s worse than minimum wage. The money added up though. I remember by the time I graduated from elementary school, I had like $250 to my name, which is a HUGE sum to a 11 year old.

Anyway, I grew up with neither of the above. My parents never imposed ridiculously ambitious expectations on me nor did they ever praise me. Ever. Instead, they simply encouraged me to try my hardest at whatever I put my energies into. They only expressed their disappointment when it was obvious I didn’t try. Other than that, as long as I was happy, they were satisfied.

I don’t think that’s a bad way to raise kids.

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