Why Asian Girls Go For White Guys

By Mike | Friday, August 10, 2007 | 163 Comments

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So, the age-old question: Why do Asian girls go for white guys?

A friend (who happens to be Caucasian guy and married to an Asian American girl) asked if there really are more interracial couples than intra-racial couples out there. “Asian guys complain about all this interracial dating, but is it really all that common? Or are they just noticing the few interracial couples out there and making a big thing out of it?”

Hmm. So I did an informal poll amongst my friends and found that 27% of them are in interracial relationships, within all of which the girls are Asian American. They all happen to be in the San Francisco Bay Area too.

(BTW, his is a highly unscientific poll and really doesn’t mean squat, except to show that 27% of my friends are in interracial relationships. Do a poll amongst your friends. See what you get.)

(Also check out Why Asian Girls Go For White Guys: A Response and Why Asian Guys Can’t Get White Girls for more juicy coverage.)

So why do you think Asian girls go for white guys?

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jussayin

I’m a korean girl dating a white guy. In my experience a lot of the asian guys ive met have either been church goers, “gangster”, nerds, momma’s boys, or mildly sexist. definitely not saying that all asians are like this, but it certainly narrows the scope when choosing a mate. for fun i usually go out to “indie” shows, and i really cannot tell you the last time i saw an asian guy; my lifestyle tends to attract the white or latino guys (im from la), so my dating history is composed of those ethnicities. really, not all asian girls are superficial and money grubbing!!! i just play my cards in a game where im attracted to those who have similar interests and asian guys generally do not fit that equation. for physical attraction, to be completely honest, i prefer a really tall guy with facial hair= not an easy thing to pull of if you’re asian. also, i think it is exciting to date those outside of your race. i can relate to a korean guy about family values and traditions and talk for hours, but in the end im much more interested in someone who is culturally different from me.

still, it is silly to think that there is no one left for asian men. think about how big korean pop music or korean dramas are. i dont listen to/watch the stuff but i know soooo many asian and non-asian girls who go crazy over the guys. dont take out your anger on the fact that youre single on other interracial couples. dont play up the stereotype where asian guys are either too meek or too chauvinistic: chill out and be the best version of you you can be! be content that you are good at math and art (and every subject really ), because what speaks to girls is honest confidence and charisma. we lap that shit up!
Ed

@jussayin

Hmmmm.. Where do I begin? …..Let me first ask why asian women on the internet find it necessary to regurgitate every stereotypical, archetype, generalization of asian men that exists in western society, frame it with “in my experience…” or “in my opinion…” and still expect it not to be racist and discriminatory?

The fact your from LA only reinforces your racist bias. You honestly can’t expect people to believe there are no Asian guys in that part of the country that fit your “type”, unless that type is a strong Caucasoid preference, which you should have said in the first place instead of adding all of this extraneous crap about personality and intelligence. I suspect the Latino guys you like look closer to Enrique Iglesias then George Lopez.

Asians are not a single monolithic culture. There are huge difference between South Asian, South East Asian and North East Asian cultures and even in an between countries in these regions. But this is a moot point isn’t it? As there are only certain cultures, from certain parts of the world that you are interested.

In short, your message essentially amounts to “I think Asian guys are ok, but White guys are better. Asian guys hang in there”. Hahahaha!

Your views, beliefs, actions, your very existence contributes to the white male hegemony. I like your attempt at delivering advice (laughable really) by repeating the canned, “girls dig confidence” argument, when in fact you still wouldn’t be interested in tall, indie guitar playing, confident, Asian guy with a goatee because ultimately he doesn’t look white. Nothing you’ve said is really of any benefit to Asian males. Word of advice, please do not try to help Asian men out again.
AboutTime

@jussayin

I think it would be a lot easier if you just admit that you are heavily influenced by white media and you believe white standard of the beauty should be the way to go. Let’s face it, in many cases it is all about the race when it comes to WM/AF couples. With a city full of other minorities, AFs just happened to be dealing WMs like 99% of the time when it comes to interracial relationships. You honestly gonna try to tell me that’s just coincidence? I think it would be a lot more believable if you just come out and say you just like white guys better because well, they look white.
asianman

@jussayin so simple, you Asian girls wanna be white. I m so sick of my own people going for another people. I don’t complain if a few, but at least 90% of them are dating white.

Think about if your mother. you kids are living with other people and give you nasty look. How will you feel about it?
Wonwill

My chinese girlfriend had always dated chinese guys and never even thought about dating a foreigner or non-chinese guy before we started dating. And I certainly didn’t go to france with the intention of finding a chinese girl. Just two exchange students, in france of all places, who were able to meet and connect due to a random bundle of circumstances. It just happened, pretty simple and uncomplicated.

I could, however, tell characteristics that she likes about me that none of her other boyfriends had, but I think that’s of little importance seeing as she had been in france for a whole year before me and was never attracted to any other white guys, with or without those characteristics.

I guess I just got lucky that she enjoyed my goofiness as much as I enjoyed being goofy.
Ed

@Wonwill Wow!! In 4 years since this post was originally published, your comment is the only one by either a white male or an asian female that didn’t project any white superiority complex or asian self-hate. Well done and good luck to both of you.
DillonPaule

Ugh…asian women are the worst…it’s funny how white dudes think they’re the best.
DillonPaule

@jussayin Yawn, asian guys get girls…in fact, last night i was in safeway and it was the short asian guys with the hot girls and the white dudes with the ugly girls. The hot girls were not asian by the way:)
DillonPaule

@asiangal are you sure you get looks, or is that your ego giving you hallucinations?
DillonPaule

@Bunni uh…I don’t think they even want you to give them a chance…=/
lfuser1

If you are interested in WMAF, this link is the grand collection on this topic:http://fafast.com/play?white+guys+asian+girls
kevinucsd

I’m a Chinese Canadian and I have only dated White girls four of them in total, one in high school, three at UC San Diego (yes many of this combo here…Yellow Fever ). When I was in high school I was attracted to Asian women and then slowly as I grew up I witnessed more and more interracial relationships between white men and asian women. having lived in NorCal for years and Hong Kong for several years I realised that this combination is very fascinating…sadly to say but because of this, i now am only attracted to White women…and yes I only date hot ones hands down. haha. Anyway…

I suspect much of this has to do with the historical colonialism –> orientalism and the white men domination over the Asian cultures. I have seen some really young Asian ladies with old White men…and sometimes the ladies can’t even speak English well enough to communicate. I mean…is this a social ladder? Of course there are very few ones out there that are truly in love. But my main attempt is: it is either a social ladder, to get into the “higher” class society, money, or a combination of these.

My friend who happens to be Korean American has only dated White men and she dated one of my close friends here in Uni and when one of her friends visited her she mentioned something similar to oh i’m done with white guys, i’m going to go for asians. It sounded as if they dated White men because of reasons other than…love.

But no I’m not sad or anything about this topic…I’m happy. Less Asian women and White men in the way…White girls here I come!
kevinucsd

@suesue Go go go shallow woman. cheap asian women…that’s why i go for white girls haha.