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I couldn’t resist not posting this. First, there was Why Asian Girls Go For White Guys, then there was a response.
Now, here’s the flip side: Why can’t Asian guys get white girls?
This totally awesome and totally hilarious response comes from Philip Wang and his Wong Fu Productions. Nice job guys!
So why do you think Asian guys can’t get white girls?
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yippee1999
this site sucks. I just typed a whole message, clicked post comment, then signed in using google and poof, message disappeared.
anyway, long story short, so long as we continue to see clear 'trends' in I/R dating, even in a melting pot such as NYC, it's clear that there's still lots of stereotyping and self-hate going on...people deciding who to date, and who NOT to date, based on race. If that were NOT the case, we'd see more variety in the I/R couples out there. But you don't....it's the same old trends, esp in the yuppie/hipster nabes.
NaricyDu
yippee1999 plese do write your 'long story' here again. we want to share it!
Observer
LOL. Jealous guys of other races trying to stop us getting White, Black, and Latina, girls. Take the good, and leave out the bad.
TKO
WTF! I am a Thai american living in the OC area, and I get white girls,latino, and black girls. Wanna Know Why? I try, repeatedly and there are no colors in the pursuit of happiness.
It doesn't matter what the media has stereotyped us asian to be like because I know I am not weak and feminine like those fictional figures. I do understand that about 1.89 in 5 asian guys that I see are skinny, feminine looking(girly hair cut), and passive, and feel sorry for them for living the stereotypical life of an asian. At least work out chopsticks! They are who they are, but it doesn't forced me to conformed to that group.
If all skinny asians work out the stereotypes will vanished. Why bub? Working out will give you more confidence, more muscles, more authority, and a better view of the beach( I made that one up, the meaning is for you to figure out). Now, all the white girls will think "Big muscle, Big house, Big Car, and Big wallet" instead of small dick or fag( that's what my gfs(asian too) tell me about their first impression of asian and me HA!).
Blah, blah, blah. I go for all girls that has a balanced of intelligent and looks, no matter their race because I am not solely attracted to race but to attraction itself. I will do what ever I please to make myself happy. I will not be limited and forced to live an asian life: asian+asian= again. Instead,
asian+ who ever i want = My Happiness.
My point is: Your life, Your move Sucka! ---> dont ask me what this mean either, because it sounds good and fits with the points I have made.
Observer
As an Asian-American Male myself, in my opinion, there is nothing wrong with the fact that more Asian Males are increasingly starting relationships with White Females. The number of Asian Male-White Female couples that people see on the street are increasing as time goes by as Asian Males increasingly develop the self-confidence, character traits, charisma, and other qualities in men that women value to be a steady provider and someone skilled enough with people to keep a long-term relationship going, to start relationships with White Females. And also the numbers of Asian Male-White Female couples will gradually increase as White Females find out that yes, many Asian men are interested in them and White Females in turn become unafraid to take the initiative and show their interest in Asian Men and/or to return the interest shown by Asian Men in them.
The number of Asian Males starting relationships with White Females and females of other races will only increase as more and more Asian Males develop the bravery and courage to overcome their previous fears and get the guts to just go for it and ask women of other races out on dates whether they succeed or fail at first. And it will also increase as enough Asian Males develop enough adaptability skills to figure out the reason why they failed if they did not succeed at first in getting a date with a women of another race and so then change themselves so that they grow as people and improve themselves so that they take a different approach so that they succeed the next time, and as they develop enough persistency to keep on trying even if they do not initially succeed at first.
As more and more Asian Males ask White Women and women of other races out on dates, more and more Asian Men will succeed in dating them and more and more Asian Men and White Women and women of other races will see this, and the numbers of couples will build up critical mass and more and more Asian Males and Women of Other Races will do the same thing and it will have a rolling snowball effect. More and more Asian Males will succeed in starting relationships with women of other races, and the numbers of Asian Male-Females of Other Races couples will only increase as time goes by. As the ancient Chinese used to say, sometimes you just have to u00e2u0080u009cjump into the open oceanu00e2u0080u009d. And as the old Western sayings go, u00e2u0080u009cNo guts, no gloryu00e2u0080u009d, and u00e2u0080u009cFortune favors the brave.u00e2u0080u009d
I do think however, that Asian Men should not mind if White Men or other races of men increasingly start relationships with Asian Women, even if there are an extremely large number of such relationships and women of other races donu00e2u0080u0099t reciprocate as readily at first. You can still start relationships with other races of women, you just have to overcome greater odds in order to do so. But let us always keep peace with one another no matter what happens. I believe that this should be true even if this causes many Asian Women to reject Asian Men and to look down on them and to put them down as unworthy of them also. That will never be true for Asian Men and Asian Women and for Asian Men and any other race of women also, or for any woman individually. I do not think that if this happens and Asian Women start making fun of Asian Men, that Asian Men should lower themselves to respond to and fight back against Asian Women who stoop down to that level to do such a thing, because all it means is that if there are no more Asian Women who will start relationships with Asian Men, that Asian Men will have to start relationships with women of other races instead of Asian Women. It may be harder to do such a thing, and Asian Men may have to adjust themselves as people and grow and improve themselves as people in order to do such a thing and you may have to take yourself out of your comfort zone, but, as the increasing number of Asian Man-Women of other Races couples prove, it is possible.
I also do not think that Asian Men should mind White Men and men of other races starting relationships with Asian Women also because for Asian Men who believe in interracial relationships with Asian Men and Women of Other Races, it would be hypocritical for them to be against Asian Female-Men of Other Races relationships. It would be a double-standard and would be forbidding others to do what Asian Men want themselves, youu00e2u0080u0099re supposed to treat others the way you want to be treated in life, and so because it is wrong for Asian Men who are for Asian Man-Women of Other Races relationships to be against Asian Woman-Men of Other Races couples, I do not think that Asian Men should be against it at all. And I think that the Asian Men who are against such a thing and who are so are just stressing themselves out over something that they should not mind at all.
Plus, you could look at the bright side and think of it this way, with so many men of other races starting so many relationships with Asian Women, it causes women of other races to think of Asian Men as possible future partners for themselves also, as likewise, many men of their own race have found Asian Women to be compatible partners with them as well. And Asian Women-Men of Other Races couples cause women of other races to start think of starting future relationships with Asian Men and cause them to realize that an Asian partner might make a compatible future mate for them as well. In fact, many White Men even know that this effect occurs, and so they try to stop other races of men from starting relationships with Asian Women so that they can prevent Asian Men from starting relationships with other races of women. So, by being against Asian Women and Men of Other Races couples, you are just taking away other peopleu00e2u0080u0099s freedom of choice which you should respect, being racist yourself, being a hypocrite and practicing, especially if you are for Asian Men starting relationships with Women of Other Races, playing into other peopleu00e2u0080u0099s hands who are completely racist against you without you even realizing it, and just being self-destructive.
And also, if Asian Men prefer other races of Women besides White Women, then they should feel free to start relationships with other races of Women as well, such as Black Women, Latina Women, Native American Women, or non-East Asian Asian Women. Many East Asian Men tell stories on the Internet that say that it is easier to start a relationship with a Black Women or a Latina Women than it is to start a relationship with a White Women, and deep down underneath it all, we are all equal, and are all attractive blessed races with something good to offer to the others, and to benefit others, with none being without worth or value, and it is a personu00e2u0080u0099s own choice after all, and that right should be respected.
Although if an Asian Male prefers only White Females, and of course, if a White Female prefers only Asian Males, then it is their choice, and they both should have the freedom to choose to do whatever they want and they should both have their choices be respected without other people interfering in it.
One thing that I have noticed and I think does have an effect on the interracial dating situation in this country, is that Asian males are on average a bit smaller and a bit lighter than all the other races. In fact for the foreign born Asian male, they are only maybe a couple of inches taller than the average Western Female if not outright shorter. The weight factor is skewed in the same way too. So being Asian means that you are looking for a smaller women than average, and unfortunately this brings up another sore spot for me personally...
Which is that taller dudes tend to gravitate towards the smaller women out there, so the Asian male is basically caught in a demographic squeeze from two different demographic flying wedge formations!!!
Of course for the bigger Asian dudes out there, they have a much larger demographic pool to swim in and frankly the size factor is a huge factor.
So in summary it is harder being Asian and smaller than average and being less aggressive generally. But once I hit my thirties, I became much more confident and waded into all the different pools and made out like a bandit. Frankly I gave up on the Asian female pretty quickly after a certain point, because I have noticed that so many of them tend to be spoiled, petulant and frankly one dimensional in more ways than one. I found the love of my life in my favorite country for women and tell all of my Asian friends to not bother with this demographic and just get out there and give everyone else a shot!
Probably because Koreans think that you're overweight. I'm not going to lie, but Koreans prefer anorexic-thin girls, I've had my fair share of stories from Korean friends. I've had Korean friends who calls me fat (I'm 5"5 and 115pounds). Definitely not because of their shyness.
also, i think that in asian cultures, well east asian, the father doesnt show how to get confidence or give the son his must have self-esteem to achieve things in life like girs lol.
3 stereotypical facts about azn guys [not trying to label cuz i am azn too lol]:
1) Shy, emotional, innocent
2) Smallest penis compared to whites and blacks, so no good sex XD
3) Nice guys [The phrase: Nice guys finish last, what a fucking joke and lie!!]
I am Korean and I strongly believe it is based on the INDIVIDUAL, THEMSELVES. If you have confidence, you can get any girl regardless of race, culture, money, cars, religion, money, etc!!
I am Korean and I strongly believe it is based on the INDIVIDUAL, THEMSELVES. If you have confidence, you can get any girl regardless of race, culture, money, cars, religion, money, etc!!
As a side comment, and totally off-topic, the Asian community is ridiculously intelligent. Reading prior posts, It became clear to me that I must take another look at furthering my studies at University, because clearly I'm an idiot. It's pretty bad when I have trouble reading extensive English - lol!
ROFL I'm a White dude, obv, and I saw that video. That is hilarious. Absolutely hilarious. Oddly enough, though, I find myself kinda attractive - I don't have problems getting White chicks, but God damn if Asian girls ever look my way. I play tons of video games, though, maybe I was Asian in a past life? >_>
As a side comment, and totally off-topic, the Asian community is ridiculously intelligent. Reading prior posts, It became clear to me that I must take another look at furthering my studies at University, because clearly I'm an idiot. It's pretty bad when I have trouble reading extensive English - lol!
ROFL I'm a White dude, obv, and I saw that video. That is hilarious. Absolutely hilarious. Oddly enough, though, I find myself kinda attractive - I don't have problems getting White chicks, but God damn if Asian girls ever look my way. I play tons of video games, though, maybe I was Asian in a past life? >_>
Crazy thought, but perhaps you have to take the initiative and make the first move? Maybe they don't know about it, or maybe they're just too shy. I can't really say for sure.
I'm white, female, blond, blue-eyed, smart, slender, pretty. I love men in general, race is unimportant to me. I have a special preference for east-asian men, especially Korean men. I would happily go out with them, but they don't they ask me out. How can I make this happen?
R. is a FOB asian female. First of all westerners tend to use 'Black' instead of 'African'. If you're trying to play the part of a white girl from the US use the term 'Black Guy'. Second your written is english is typical of every FOB asian i know, terrible. You mixed in big words to strengthen your argument with out understanding context. Though in your defense nice try. Thirdly, your peppering of chinese in your posts looks like a smoke screen much like an illusionist. Finally, you're relentless attempts at proving that a romantic relationship with an Asian Man is unlikely screams of bitter asian women. We're on to you.
Asian men can get white girls no problems. I've had white girlfriends and so have my friends. Just got to be comfortable in your own skin and trust yourself.
WHY THE HELL DON'T ASIAN GIRLS LIKE BLACKS?! I wish they did... asian girls are freakin awesome...
WHY THE HELL DON'T ASIAN GIRLS LIKE BLACKS?! I wish they did... asian girls are freakin awesome...
ok, this movie is fucked up!!! And totally not true!! well,
those bitch as white men are jealous that white girlz
like asian men an not them... well most asian men love
and would die to have a white girl especially blonde like me. sexy.
but all i can say thoze two ass hole men dont know what their talkin about and are totally really fucked up lil snitches! fuck this video. plus. ASIAN MEN ARE BETTER AND CUTER THAN
WHITE MEN!!!
UCSD sucks. Needs more cute girls. You have to go to SDSU for hot girls, even thought they are not as smart...Black's Beach Rocks
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mmmmmmm, snds lk lt f bttr sn mrcn gys wth smll ccks wh hv n scl sklls blmng sn grls fr th sttn thy r n, bt nvr sk t sk th httng qstns bt thmslvs?
Why would white females give a rat's ass about IR disparity? It doesn't affect them. OK, maybe it does when millions of their white men decide to marry an Asian female instead of a white one. Then they might get annoyed. Instead of marrying an Asian male, they will most likely marry a black or Hispanic one.
The best question to ask any woman is whether she would ever date an East or SE Asian man.
If she hesitates (with a response like, ummmm, or uhhhhh) to answer or answers NO, thank her for saving you 20 minutes of fruitless conversation.
Why would white females give a rat's ass about IR disparity? It doesn't affect them. OK, maybe it does when millions of their white men decide to marry an Asian female instead of a white one. Then they might get annoyed. Instead of marrying an Asian male, they will most likely marry a black or Hispanic one.
The best question to ask any woman is whether she would ever date an East or SE Asian man.
If she hesitates (with a response like, ummmm, or uhhhhh) to answer or answers NO, thank her for saving you 20 minutes of fruitless conversation.
Some white females see the IR dating disparity and silently feel bad or sorry about it. The trick is to approach these WFs. If they say no to your overtures, just ask them if they are racist and don't date Asian men? Some will immediately apologize and give you their number or email. It happens!
Some white females see the IR dating disparity and silently feel bad or sorry about it. The trick is to approach these WFs. If they say no to your overtures, just ask them if they are racist and don't date Asian men? Some will immediately apologize and give you their number or email. It happens!
So they love me long time?
So they love me long time?
The vast majority of Americanized Asian females exclusively date white American men. For purposes of this post, Asian = Southeast or East Asian. Yes, there are a few Americanized Asian women who date Asian, Black, and Latino men, but those are few and far between. Go to any mall in any city, sit yourself down at a busy intersection and start observing the racial make-up of couples that pass by. The vast majority of Asian-white relationships, approximately 99.9%, will be Asian female-white male.
Of the two genders of Americanized Asians, the female is much more likely to exhibit racist or dismissive or downright disgusted views of males of her own race. Men of her own race aren't worthy enough in her limited view. Once she feels that she is assimilated herself into the dominant power structure, she feels superior to Asian men; to her, Asian men are part of her FOB/Asian past.
Americanized Asian women have an over-burning desire to fit into the dominant white American culture. Of the racial/ethnic minority groups, Asian women are the ones most likely to exhibit the most obnoxious traits of white American society; loud, obnoxious, xenophobic, over-bearing, materialistic, superficial, and basically your archetypical satire of an over-exuberant cheerleader. You don't see black and Latino women trying so desperately to fit into mainstream white America as you see Asian women trying to do so.
The bottom line is that Americanized Asian women want their children to grow up into the dominant white culture. Over time and with each successive generation, the Asian part of their children's heritage will disappear; that is the goal of Americanized Asian females. To such women, white is seen as the most powerful, the most wealthy, the most likely to succeed. Americanized Asian women crave power and status above all else.
Then you add Madison Avenue and Hollywood making Asian men virtually invisible and the fact that Asian women readily, willingly, and easily buy into these stereotypes of Asian men. Given the pervasiveness of the mass media, why in here right mind would an Americanized Asian female ever want to date someone of her own race?
As a side note, there is no sympathy for white women who complain that Asian women are stealing their men. White women's racist views of non-whites prohibits them from fating
So if you REALLY wanted to test a white woman's racism, simply blindfold her and have several Americanized men of different racial and ethnic backgrounds try and talk to her. (Americanized means no discernable foreign accent, shares American values, and had a typical American childhood.). These men are not allowed to talk about anything that might give away their race/ethnicity. It would be HILARIOUS if the man she responds to is the one who's not white.
The reality is that white women think of themselves as being at the top of the female pecking order. As such, she feels superior to all other races. The only one worthy of her attention is someone of the same race. Pity that white men are much more likely to date outside their race than white women.
Bottom line is this: Asian men should categorically write off Americanized Asian females; they simply aren't worth the effort of finding the diamond in the rough. White American women are slightly better, but not by much. Both groups think of themselves as superior to Asian men in all aspects; dating an Asian man would be "dating down." Asian men are much better dating Latino, black or European females who don't typically hold such racist beliefs.
The vast majority of Americanized Asian females exclusively date white American men. For purposes of this post, Asian = Southeast or East Asian. Yes, there are a few Americanized Asian women who date Asian, Black, and Latino men, but those are few and far between. Go to any mall in any city, sit yourself down at a busy intersection and start observing the racial make-up of couples that pass by. The vast majority of Asian-white relationships, approximately 99.9%, will be Asian female-white male.
Of the two genders of Americanized Asians, the female is much more likely to exhibit racist or dismissive or downright disgusted views of males of her own race. Men of her own race aren't worthy enough in her limited view. Once she feels that she is assimilated herself into the dominant power structure, she feels superior to Asian men; to her, Asian men are part of her FOB/Asian past.
Americanized Asian women have an over-burning desire to fit into the dominant white American culture. Of the racial/ethnic minority groups, Asian women are the ones most likely to exhibit the most obnoxious traits of white American society; loud, obnoxious, xenophobic, over-bearing, materialistic, superficial, and basically your archetypical satire of an over-exuberant cheerleader. You don't see black and Latino women trying so desperately to fit into mainstream white America as you see Asian women trying to do so.
The bottom line is that Americanized Asian women want their children to grow up into the dominant white culture. Over time and with each successive generation, the Asian part of their children's heritage will disappear; that is the goal of Americanized Asian females. To such women, white is seen as the most powerful, the most wealthy, the most likely to succeed. Americanized Asian women crave power and status above all else.
Then you add Madison Avenue and Hollywood making Asian men virtually invisible and the fact that Asian women readily, willingly, and easily buy into these stereotypes of Asian men. Given the pervasiveness of the mass media, why in here right mind would an Americanized Asian female ever want to date someone of her own race?
As a side note, there is no sympathy for white women who complain that Asian women are stealing their men. White women's racist views of non-whites prohibits them from fating
So if you REALLY wanted to test a white woman's racism, simply blindfold her and have several Americanized men of different racial and ethnic backgrounds try and talk to her. (Americanized means no discernable foreign accent, shares American values, and had a typical American childhood.). These men are not allowed to talk about anything that might give away their race/ethnicity. It would be HILARIOUS if the man she responds to is the one who's not white.
The reality is that white women think of themselves as being at the top of the female pecking order. As such, she feels superior to all other races. The only one worthy of her attention is someone of the same race. Pity that white men are much more likely to date outside their race than white women.
Bottom line is this: Asian men should categorically write off Americanized Asian females; they simply aren't worth the effort of finding the diamond in the rough. White American women are slightly better, but not by much. Both groups think of themselves as superior to Asian men in all aspects; dating an Asian man would be "dating down." Asian men are much better dating Latino, black or European females who don't typically hold such racist beliefs.
It's funny that Asian American females date white guys to get away from the traditional sex roles that is often commonly thought to exist in Asian-Asian relationships, but according to a survey white males were the only one to think Asian girls as obedient/submissive, quiet/introverted and would follow the traditional sex roles. Now, Asian American females acutally viewed white males and themselves as following equal sex roles and easygoing. Fact is, Asian males are the only group to not believe that Asian girls are obedient/submissive, quiet/introverted and likely to follow traditional sex roles.
Basically, Asian girls exclusively dating white guys to get away from that culture you hate so much are only hurting themselves more. You should really think about because it seems like the joke is on you. According to this result, Asian males have a higher respect for you over white males. (If you didn't recognize that before this then I don't know what to say about you, self-loathing?)
Check out the book, "Relationship Among Asian American Women" edited by Jean Lau Chin.
Here is the survey result from my book that I just scanned.
http://img17.imageshack.us/img17/5610/img021lgd.jp...
It's funny that Asian American females date white guys to get away from the traditional sex roles that is often commonly thought to exist in Asian-Asian relationships, but according to a survey white males were the only one to think Asian girls as obedient/submissive, quiet/introverted and would follow the traditional sex roles. Now, Asian American females acutally viewed white males and themselves as following equal sex roles and easygoing. Fact is, Asian males are the only group to not believe that Asian girls are obedient/submissive, quiet/introverted and likely to follow traditional sex roles.
Basically, Asian girls exclusively dating white guys to get away from that culture you hate so much are only hurting themselves more. You should really think about because it seems like the joke is on you. According to this result, Asian males have a higher respect for you over white males. (If you didn't recognize that before this then I don't know what to say about you, self-loathing?)
Check out the book, "Relationship Among Asian American Women" edited by Jean Lau Chin.
Here is the survey result from my book that I just scanned.
http://img17.imageshack.us/img17/5610/img021lgd.jp...
Awww Phil is a cute guy! :D I'm sure he can get a girl if he wants to. :3 I am a Caucasian girl by the way! Hahaha xD
Awww Phil is a cute guy! :D I'm sure he can get a girl if he wants to. :3 I am a Caucasian girl by the way! Hahaha xD
Edit:
Point 2 should read:
2. Caucasian women (Americanized or Euro) are more likely than Americanized Asian females to date and marry a Asian male.
Edit:
Point 2 should read:
2. Caucasian women (Americanized or Euro) are more likely than Americanized Asian females to date and marry a Asian male.
Here are some facts:
1. Americanized Asian women do not, as a whole, date Asian men regardless of whether the Asian male is Americanized or not.
2. White American women are more likely to date Asian men.
3. Women tend to pick people of their own race to date.
It is quite easy to discern the dating preferences of an Americanized Asian woman.
1. Does she have an burning desire to act stereotypically American?
2. Does she have an obsession with fitting into American culture?
3. Have all her past (and current) BF's been caucasian?
4. Does she always point out caucasian celebrities as being "hot"?
5. Does she never point out Asian male celebrities as being "hot"?
6. Does she criticize, condemn, or complain about FOB's as somehow reminding her of her own ethnicity's stereotypes?
As soon as an Americanized Asian woman opens here mouth and starts to elicit responses, it is actually pretty easy to tell what her biases are.
What Asian men should ask all women, regardless of race is the following question:
1. Would you ever date or marry an Asian man?
If the answer is "No," silently thank her. This woman has saved you minutes of conversation that will lead nowhere.
If the answer is something noncommital like "ummmm...." or "maybe...." or "well...." then her hesitancy to give you an unqualified answer belies her prejudice; she does not want to appear close-minded or does not want to appear offensive. This woman is actually worse to pursue; in his mind, the Asian man equates hesitancy as having a chance, when in fact, her hesitancy equals her desire to not want to date Asian men.
If the answer is "Yes," then the Asian man should explore whether the woman's personality jives with his own.
All women of all races and ethnicities want three things: Power, Status, and Confidence.
If an Asian woman or American woman has no desire to date or marry an Asian man, why would you want to pursue someone so close-minded anyway? Your time is better spent on more open-minded women.
What women profess they WANT and what they RESPOND to are very different. All woman say they want a nice man, but go out and marry jerks. Why is that?
"Jerks" are confident and make women seek their approval. Jerks always think of women as lower status than themselves, and thus, the woman is always constantly trying to measure up. Jerks are selfish pr*cks.
Asian men should not aspire to be jerks, but should probably be two degress shy of being one. A proverbial bad boy who knows how to be nice.
Asian men need to:
1. Stop playing computer games (XBOX, Wii etc).
2. Start interacting with live people.
3. Believe themselves as irresistable, sexually desirable, and high status
4. Learn how to flirt and build sexual tension
5. Exude extreme confidence, poise, and masculinity
6. Not accept second class behavior and treatment
7. Take the lead - women love men who are dominant (as opposes to domineering)
Once you start having more meaningful interactions with caucasian women be prepared for major confrontations from caucasian men, especially American and Australian ones. For many centuries, minority men have simply allowed caucasian men to rule the planet, either militarily, economically, and/or culturally.
Asian men should simply ignore all the Asian females who turn their backs on their own (meaning having a disdain for Asian men or not having their backs, so to speak); their bigotry instantly makes them second-class. Those women are simply not worth expending valuable energy on. The same goes for caucasian females who have no desire to date Asian men. Why pursue a bigot?
Here are some facts:
1. Americanized Asian women do not, as a whole, date Asian men regardless of whether the Asian male is Americanized or not.
2. White American women are more likely to date Asian men.
3. Women tend to pick people of their own race to date.
It is quite easy to discern the dating preferences of an Americanized Asian woman.
1. Does she have an burning desire to act stereotypically American?
2. Does she have an obsession with fitting into American culture?
3. Have all her past (and current) BF's been caucasian?
4. Does she always point out caucasian celebrities as being "hot"?
5. Does she never point out Asian male celebrities as being "hot"?
6. Does she criticize, condemn, or complain about FOB's as somehow reminding her of her own ethnicity's stereotypes?
As soon as an Americanized Asian woman opens here mouth and starts to elicit responses, it is actually pretty easy to tell what her biases are.
What Asian men should ask all women, regardless of race is the following question:
1. Would you ever date or marry an Asian man?
If the answer is "No," silently thank her. This woman has saved you minutes of conversation that will lead nowhere.
If the answer is something noncommital like "ummmm...." or "maybe...." or "well...." then her hesitancy to give you an unqualified answer belies her prejudice; she does not want to appear close-minded or does not want to appear offensive. This woman is actually worse to pursue; in his mind, the Asian man equates hesitancy as having a chance, when in fact, her hesitancy equals her desire to not want to date Asian men.
If the answer is "Yes," then the Asian man should explore whether the woman's personality jives with his own.
All women of all races and ethnicities want three things: Power, Status, and Confidence.
If an Asian woman or American woman has no desire to date or marry an Asian man, why would you want to pursue someone so close-minded anyway? Your time is better spent on more open-minded women.
What women profess they WANT and what they RESPOND to are very different. All woman say they want a nice man, but go out and marry jerks. Why is that?
"Jerks" are confident and make women seek their approval. Jerks always think of women as lower status than themselves, and thus, the woman is always constantly trying to measure up. Jerks are selfish pr*cks.
Asian men should not aspire to be jerks, but should probably be two degress shy of being one. A proverbial bad boy who knows how to be nice.
Asian men need to:
1. Stop playing computer games (XBOX, Wii etc).
2. Start interacting with live people.
3. Believe themselves as irresistable, sexually desirable, and high status
4. Learn how to flirt and build sexual tension
5. Exude extreme confidence, poise, and masculinity
6. Not accept second class behavior and treatment
7. Take the lead - women love men who are dominant (as opposes to domineering)
Once you start having more meaningful interactions with caucasian women be prepared for major confrontations from caucasian men, especially American and Australian ones. For many centuries, minority men have simply allowed caucasian men to rule the planet, either militarily, economically, and/or culturally.
Asian men should simply ignore all the Asian females who turn their backs on their own (meaning having a disdain for Asian men or not having their backs, so to speak); their bigotry instantly makes them second-class. Those women are simply not worth expending valuable energy on. The same goes for caucasian females who have no desire to date Asian men. Why pursue a bigot?
Well since people are talking about YELLOW FEVER....
Here's YELLOW FEVER part 2 (Not related to Wong Fu Productions) where an Asian-American explains and tries to defeat the stereotypes.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lj5D2i2O9D0
CHECK IT OUT!
Well since people are talking about YELLOW FEVER....
Here's YELLOW FEVER part 2 (Not related to Wong Fu Productions) where an Asian-American explains and tries to defeat the stereotypes.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lj5D2i2O9D0
CHECK IT OUT!
Perhaps Asian guys should try video dating??
Perhaps Asian guys should try video dating??
Want to know why Asian guys "can't" get white girls? It's because they're really risk adverse and have preconceived stereotypical notions that pretty white girls will reject them for being Asian. Thus, they don't try. This, in turn, causes white girls to have preconceived notions about Asian guys and how they don't' want to date white girls so they never bother to go that route.
Once Asian guys start trying, I'm sure they'll be pleasantly surprised. Like how my cousin's white girlfriend aptly put it:
"Asian guys need to get off the reservation."
I'm inclined to agree.
Want to know why Asian guys "can't" get white girls? It's because they're really risk adverse and have preconceived stereotypical notions that pretty white girls will reject them for being Asian. Thus, they don't try. This, in turn, causes white girls to have preconceived notions about Asian guys and how they don't' want to date white girls so they never bother to go that route.
Once Asian guys start trying, I'm sure they'll be pleasantly surprised. Like how my cousin's white girlfriend aptly put it:
"Asian guys need to get off the reservation."
I'm inclined to agree.
@Ernie:
I for one, am glad you didn't delete her comment, but the last poster was getting into the racist category with one of his comments. Hatred and haters come in many forms.
One poster did mention that perhaps SE-Asian Males do focus on their own ethnic part of the world rather than all the other types of women out there.
I do not and in consequence, have a better dating scene.
For instance, I went to one event. It was a Calendar launch. The modeling agency had a preponderance of mixed women. They also had English women, but only one of SE-Asian extraction. A Taiwanese model. Amongst the guests? One of Vietnamese extraction.
Then there was one of me. A Brit of Flip origin..
Should I have focused on the Taiwanese model? She was quite fetching, but should I have ignored all the other beautiful women, just because they were black, white or mixed?
I did see her being courted by a couple of English guys, but she left early. I hope to see her again.
The mixed girls, had more men focused on them, although the men were abit envious when the girls took my hands when we walked to the bar together.
I had more fun with these three black girls; two were over six feet/two metres tall. Since, I am only 5foot 6, It was interesting dancing with women were your face is in between their breasts...lol.
One did ask if I was "okay? " and I replied. "OHH yes.."
I'm seeing them again in a couple of nights.
In conclusion. The London dating scene would be easier (by a wide margin) for men of our extraction if they did not focus on women of their ethnic origin.
@Ernie:
I for one, am glad you didn't delete her comment, but the last poster was getting into the racist category with one of his comments. Hatred and haters come in many forms.
One poster did mention that perhaps SE-Asian Males do focus on their own ethnic part of the world rather than all the other types of women out there.
I do not and in consequence, have a better dating scene.
For instance, I went to one event. It was a Calendar launch. The modeling agency had a preponderance of mixed women. They also had English women, but only one of SE-Asian extraction. A Taiwanese model. Amongst the guests? One of Vietnamese extraction.
Then there was one of me. A Brit of Flip origin..
Should I have focused on the Taiwanese model? She was quite fetching, but should I have ignored all the other beautiful women, just because they were black, white or mixed?
I did see her being courted by a couple of English guys, but she left early. I hope to see her again.
The mixed girls, had more men focused on them, although the men were abit envious when the girls took my hands when we walked to the bar together.
I had more fun with these three black girls; two were over six feet/two metres tall. Since, I am only 5foot 6, It was interesting dancing with women were your face is in between their breasts...lol.
One did ask if I was "okay? " and I replied. "OHH yes.."
I'm seeing them again in a couple of nights.
In conclusion. The London dating scene would be easier (by a wide margin) for men of our extraction if they did not focus on women of their ethnic origin.
@cognitis:
Well, this was a Christmas surprise. [sigh] Okay, look:
1) Admittedly, the blog post "Why Asian Guys Can't Get White Girls" is a lead-in to the video to act as a springboard as to the topic of Asian guys and interracial dating. Obviously, it has worked a little too well. Is Mike, a blogger who "degrades ethnic minorities to use [on] your site [which] support minority interests?" No. Are the videographers who made the video that Mike embedded on a blog post to use as a discussion? Well, obviously you're upset, and I'm sure you've left a nice little note to the videographers telling them exactly how you feel, because there's really no point to throw heaping amounts of hate at the Editors, because really, if you haven't, then you're directing your ire in the wrong place.
2) I don't know who R is. R could be a white woman or, in your words, "one of those euro [male] homosexuals" or a talking frog for all I care; I don't agree with what she wrote but I didn't 86 her comment for the purpose that it could spawn a rational dialogue.
Obviously, that didn't work.
For the most part, I find 90% of your comments well thought out and intelligent, but you don't have to respond to who you think is a troll by being a troll, which is very clearly what you're being. And it's a damn shame that I had to remove the last comment completely for being Anti-Semitic. Really? Seriously? Because there are plenty of sites on the Internet you can write to if you choose to go that direction, but it won't be here.
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