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Why Asian Guys Can’t Get White Girls

By Mike | Tuesday, August 14, 2007 | Comments


I couldn’t resist not posting this. First, there was Why Asian Girls Go For White Guys, then there was a response.

Now, here’s the flip side: Why can’t Asian guys get white girls?

This totally awesome and totally hilarious response comes from Philip Wang and his Wong Fu Productions. Nice job guys!

So why do you think Asian guys can’t get white girls?

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  • Claire
    I just attracted so much attention laughing out loud that coworkers stepped into my office to investigate. I thank you.
  • Heh... amusingly enough, I have something scheduled for that... I find it a lot easier to find white girls than Asian girls... being an Asian guy.
  • Asian guys can. And they do.

    Omigosh I'm *SO* doing yet another follow-up on this theme! lollll
  • This topic is like a never-ending fountain of follow-ups and blog entries!

    Hey darkmoon, if you write something about that, let me know! That would be an awesome topic - and I'll do another follow-up-follow-up!
  • to which I'll do a follow-up of the follow-up-follow-up!
  • or not. *blink blink* i'm bored. remember? typical asian girl. attention span of a chihuahua.
  • joe
    UCSD represent!!!
  • lol.... my followup will be posted today from the other link.. should have a trackback. I'll post here too. That Wong Fu stuff is hilarious. This is opening my eyes to a bunch of other stuff I never got to read. It was out there, but hard as heck to find. Thanks for being out there guys/gals. lol.
  • Bertie
    asian guys can get and do get white (and other) girls. anyone who tells you otherwise is a modelminority.com troll, who never leaves his computer and therefore, has never spoken to a real girl in his life.

    the end.
  • What the heck is a modelminority.com troll? I checked out modelminority.com (for the first time). What's wrong with that site? Looks pretty good to me from my quick 30 second glance.
  • Bertie
    Akrypti:

    I suggest signing up and reading the forum... thoroughly.

    http://www.modelminority.com/bb

    However, I suggest lurking. If you even mention you're a female of Asian descent and even speak to non-Asian males, you will be immediately hanged, drawn and quartered and called a "Whoriental."

    Hope this helps.
  • Bertie
    (I attempted to stand up for my Asian female filmmaker friend once, whom they were inexplicably calling a "whore" (and that was one of the nicer words), and I was summarily told to "Suck a white cock." Also check out the rampant homophobia, misogyny, and Anti-Semitism. Sometimes I think people from Stormfront post at that site posing as Asian males just to shake things up. The Modelminority.com forum is a borderline hate site.)
  • Ahhh yes, what it means to be white; good credit, collegiate legacy and the pick of the asian litter.
  • lol. re: Stormfront.
  • Hey Mike:

    Check out "Dating the Asian Woman: Chemical Attraction," http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CkBNuMVxbwo and one of its sequels, "The Cookie Story: Loving your Asian girlfriend," http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OZ7ZOYtjJ5o&... or, heck, just any of the videos at all posted by the user Channakajima at http://www.youtube.com/user/CHANNAKAJIMA.

    WARNING: Creep factor here is extremely high. Do not proceed without paper bag to vomit in handy. Scalding shower and scrubbing with heavy duty soap after watching to rid yourself of the disgust also recommended.
  • Bertie:
    Ok I registered for an account and logged into the discussion forum at ModelMinority.com. Basically, unproductive exchanges of ranting by like-minded intellectually-homogenous users clutter the categories, but I haven't really seen any patently offensive comments of the type you described above. In fact, it kind of reminds me of 8A, lol. People present issues and questions, provide links to interesting articles, and then everyone else jumps in with their two-cents, albeit most of the two-cents found at MM no rational individual would pay two cents for.

    Mike:
    Haha, has it been that long since you've been back to smalltown, USA? I thought you grew up in the suburbs like me. I'm back in my hometown now, population 10,000, and one of the first things I noticed right away was how all the local Asian American males were dating white females, and above-average in beauty white females, too. Having been in big and diverse cities for too long now, all I'd been seeing were Asian females and white males. It cannot be denied that this definitely is more frequent than the Asian male-white female relationship in L.A., NYC, or the bay area.
  • The Asian male - white female relationship on a whole is picking up though. Over the last five years, I've seen a severe ramp up on this type of relationship on a whole. I'd say that in the last two or three years has really picked up. I think in another couple years, it shouldn't be much more than the whole black-white white-black type relationship mark. Being in such a relationship, it's still amusing to me the amount of staring/double takes that goes on. I'd be curious if this would happen at all in the big cities even though they have a smaller percentage of it.
  • Bertie
  • Whoa - I saw a "Kill Whitey" comment in ModelMinority.com.

    @Akrypti, odd, I didn't hear any audio to those YouTube videos. Do they have audio, or was my computer just screwing up? And if they're funny, ooo I smell another follow-up video! ;-) (jk)

    And yea, I haven't been back to smalltown USA in a while. Wanna hear something funny? As I was growing up as one out of three Asian guys in my hometown, I naturally had a thing for white girls. This worried my Mom, who ever-so-subtly would show me Asian magazines, point to the Asian female models, and say, "Do you think she's cute? How about this one? Don't you think all these girls are cute?"
  • Mike: Would your mom had a cow if you responded with: "Dang, she's so fine...." and pointed at a black model. lol.
  • HAHAHAHAHAHA....gasping..for..air...hahahahaha..ow, sides are splitting....

    With that said, my mother recently told me I should date white because white men don't have crazy overbearing codependent Asian mothers who still refuse to cut the umbilical cords to their sons even though said son, whom they refer to as "bao bao" or "bao bei" or "little treasure," is 30 years old and counting.

    And my parents had no problems at all with me or my sisters dating Black.
  • Hey... my mom isn't overbearing codependent! Or else she would have a cow about me dating a white girl... (she did at one point.. haha).

    I still have my nickname from when I was little, but who doesn't. So Shuddap! *coughs and runs*
  • Darkmoon,

    "have a cow" ??! if using that idiom doesn't reveal your age/generation, i don't know what does. who *says* that anymore? have a cow ?? hahaha. i haven't heard that since Bart Simpson. early 90s. EARLY.
  • @Akrypti, you haven't watched the new Simpsons movie yet, have you? ;-)
  • In all actuality, The Simpsons are still going. Outside of the new movie, there are still new episodes.

    So what does that say about you and your know of pop culture? HUH? HUH??? Yeah... that's what I thought. Now if I said.... "Kris Kross will make you... JUMP JUMP...." then that would be showing my age. Sorta. Maybe. I'd probably prefer Boyz II Men actually... *cough*

    But these days? Give me Gackt, Hyde, Jay Chou, Tank, H.I.M. or My Chemical Romance. haha. You'll never guess now!
  • Responses to random comments:

    I'm fairly up to date with my pop culture where as Akrypti doesn't know who Rain is - who is only appealing when he's topless or is smiling ... or both. And currently for the past year, I've been all about Chae Yeon - rowr, she's HAWT and funny and smart.

    I like beef - preferably medium rare with mashed potatoes and gravy

    darkmoon seems to like it emo-rock-ish

    and just so this comment is in keeping somewhat with this post - Nelly Furtado's daughter is half-Filipino.
  • joe
    I :heart: Chae Yeon since I first saw her on X-Man.
  • nemogbr
    Hello Akrypti,

    I just joined the site to learn more of Americans of South East Asian extraction.

    I know what you mean with the accusations of Whoriental.

    Hope you come back at some point.

    The video and comments are currently being discussed in modelminority...lol
  • Crazy_Ghandi
    All this hate against whorientals is the result of too many single Asian guys. We can argue all day over the cause of this and never agree on the solution. But it is what it is.

    However I'm glad that so many Asian guys are single and angry. This angry pressure will keep building and building until it reaches the forefront of American society. Then it will be interesting to watch what happens when America is forced to face it.

    What we are seeing is the beginning of a new movement for Asian Males. They may single angry losers but there are millions of them around the world. It will be interesting to watch these next 10 years.

    Will America's media do a 180 on Asian guys? Or will Asian Supremacy lead to WWIII? These are truly exciting times we live in boys, so enjoy the show.
  • nemogbr
    Definitely need more strong women to join that Forum. Teach them how to properly act towards women.

    Some of them might end up getting dates; rather than just blame the media portrayals and the "Sell-outs".
  • nemogbr ... unfortunately, it's not up to random strong women to teach them how to properly act towards women ... that's their parents job. ... Anyways, it would actually sound like they're already being 'taught' by strong women in real life, which is exactly why they're lashing out online.
  • Akrypti
    HAHAHA to Xxxtine.

    Unrelated Note: Going through MM, I thought the majority of users would be between the ages 13 and 17. Nope. Actually, more than 60% are between ages 20 and 28, and the second largest group of users are over age 35. (There's a thread somewhere on there with an anonymous poll of users' ages.) I'd like to give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they're telling the truth too.
  • nemogbr
    I'm one of those over 35.

    A few sane posters, but the ones who are always onsite seem to be the sad ones.

    In their case, I think they need women to take them by the scruff of their necks and show them who is the boss.

    They do remind me of "Cartman" from Southpark.

    Racist, homophobic and misogynistic, but would not show that side to their mothers who would most likely give them a hiding.
  • nemogbr - perhaps you should mention to the posters that constantly seem to be online ... to get OFFLINE and start talking to real women - as opposed to virtual people. The amount of time they spend ranting about things they're not getting can instead be used to ... I don't know ... getting some.
  • Bertie
    I respectfully concur with the above comment. :)
  • Akrypti
    I'll have to disagree with Xxxtine here...

    I prefer these weirdos online duking whatever they're duking out in their little fishpond at MM than going out there in the real world dating my real fellow Asian women. Imagine one of these folks with your sweet little sister. Yeah. Exactly! I'm slightly leaning toward quarantining them. Is that an evil thought? Sigh.
  • @Akrypti,

    Very evil! What about them 5 Steps to Unity? hehehehe ;)
  • Bertie
    Well, I think the "5 Steps to Unity" only works when you're dealing with rational human beings.
  • perhaps sensitivity training should be an order ... after all, I actually dated a guy just like them who thought all decisions should be made at the barrel of a hand gun ... charming isn't it ... he lasted about 3 weeks.

    What my concern is that they duke it out in a forum that is anonymous and therefore gives them a blank playing field that somewhat absolves them of any form of (obvious) civility and personal responsibility. The more time one spends in such a bubble, the more you lose of ones social skills of the world outside the bubble. It's one of the downfalls of technology, a certain amount of personal effort is lost - but that's another post completely.
  • Bruce
    Not all the people on MM.com are bad. It's just an overgeneralization. It's just the 1% that make the others look bad. There are some that are way over the top and it's unacceptable, but others will speak out to the ones that are over the top to try to add some balance to the conversation. However, if people want to flame, sometimes it's just wise to let them flame out on their own, especially the trolls. Trolls are the worst. Someone on MM.com suggested I check out this site and it was a good suggestion. Any time I get to interact with Asians (albeit on the internet) is always a good thing. Interacting with white people all the time is not healthy, I need a more rounded point of view and you guys do a pretty good job.
  • nemogbr
    Well I just started a thread asking when was the last time the posters had a date with a woman that is not their relative.

    Can't wait for the response.

    Should be interesting.
  • John A. Wong
    'why asian guys can't get white girls?'...I believe it should be 'why asian guys can't get local girls?'
    I came to Canada in early 1970's as a foreign student with a big dream to go back home to lead the family business after I finished university. 36 years later, I am still here.
    I ended up staying in this country because a local girl captured my heart and she has kept me here ever since. She happened to be Asian and a 3rd generation Canadian of Chinese decent (and with regret, she doesn't speak the Chinese language). Many of my friends who came from the Orient as foreign students married local women, mostly local born Asian and some local born White. With that being said, I noticed that many of my male ABC or CBC co-workers, with professional jobs and good attributes, ended up going to the Orient to find a wife.
    I believe generally it's a situation where people grew up as minorities in a society wanting to be part of main stream society. As a result, the women married into the general population. Also because of this situation, the Asian male grew up to be shy adults; and therefore, percieved as the mommy's boy and more interested in folding laundry than to ask a girl out for dancing and a romanic dinner (I do not mean to be insulting but that came from reliable sources and I apologize as I know I must have offended many respectable Asian men). More importantly, that was in the past, and was in the 1970's and 80's.
    In modern day Canada, and with globalization, my observation is people are becoming more 'colour blind' especially among younger people. As much as I wish my kids marry their 'own kind', I believe that it is more important that they marry someone with the same value, rather than someone with the same colour.
    Lastly, be proud of what and who you are. Dress like a refined gentleman, talk with confidence, walk into the restaurant as if you own the place, be romantic and ..open the door for the ladies...and then ..Watch out!!!
  • I'm really quite taken with Mr. John A. Wong's last paragraph. My fellow Canadian!

    I always say that one should enter the room as if they own it.
  • PlayGOD
    I guess i had enough of asian female stepping on asian guys like dirt and dissing them
    infront of a western guy just for the sole sake of impressing him.
    I’ve read tons of article on how asian females are insulting and degrading their guys of their race just to fit in the white community,something typical i expect
    from those living in america.
    Seems to me that americans are hard up and desperate to fit in the social circle everywhere…
    Foolish human beings..
    Now please,don’t assume nor pass your final judgement to conclude i’m your typical whinny asian male.
    Really,because…
    Because i’m not here to plead on behalf of all asian male for a chance that u girls will accept a date with me…or those asian guys.
    Perhaps to convince u,i’m not even your typical human being for i have no intrest in dating,sex,relationship or fitting in social circle.
    I don’t need any effort to fit in nor do i bother because ppl are attracted to me somehow even though i have a cold personality.
    Let’s admit,human relationship has no value in the eyes of satan agree?
    It’s fallible.
    I’m here not because i want some asian women to give my asian male counterpart a chance to date u but rather,i’m pissed with insults on asian male from u asian ladies.
    By insulting the american born asian male in american using “using asian male”,it is an insensitive and indirect insult to a asian guy in singapore and anywhere.
    Perhaps what i want to acheive here is to whip up the anger and hatred among the asian males reading this message.
    I do envision a day whereby dawn rise an asian politcian who will bring about new reforms to the law.
    A law that will forbid and dictate the dating/marriage and interaction between asian male and asian female.
    Perhaps such law will be hard to accept but with intense hatred residing within the majority of the asian male who have been unfairly judge and put down by their own asian female
    whom the love,i’m sure it will be alot easier.
    And on,they will pass this hatred down to their decents,reminding them of how asian females segregate themselve from their fellow race to fit the media sterotype.
    why,that’s not all.
    When such laws are pass,there will be the minority of asian females who wants to date asian guys but cannot when this laws are being put in place.
    This in turn generate hatred towards the majority of the asian female sellout.
    Such pleasure to witness fighting everywhere.
    I’m sure that’s it’s really sickening to hear asian female dissing asian man and it’s embrassing to see asian man behaving like whinny kids instead of doing something.
    So if u wanna do something,spread this message and hopefully,there will be one asian who’s willing to put this law in place.
    Since asian ladies love the segregation,then i might as well help em segregate to the very end.
    Discrimination…the best punishment would be a mirror effect of one’s action.
    That is my defination of justice and it will not change even after majoring in criminal justice.
    Pleasure comes when i use ppl as my tools to materialise my idealistic agenda taking place.
    U guys must realise that there is nothing special in asian female.
    In my school,i happily reject those asian girls who ask me out and i take pleasure in doing so.
    I believe lovey dovey is sweet but having the strong intent of revenge pulsing through is heavenly.
    Whinny about why the asian ladies are not dating u is pointless for they no longer see them as part of your race.
    Hatred is essential to motivate.
  • PlayGOD: You're one of the many reasons why Asian women criticize Asian men.
  • Bertie
    RE: PlayGOD's post

    The reason why spell check and grammar check in Microsoft Word was created - or a the result of years of relying on Microsoft Word spell check and grammar check?

    Discuss.

    (I made an attempt to respond substantively, but his post was unintelligible. From what I gather, I think he wants some sort of revolution instituting a planned society for Asian-Americans modeled on a junior high dance, whereby the boys are placed on one side of the room and the girls are placed on another side of the room, and they're not allowed to talk. As a result, justice prevails, wrongs are righted, and bunny rabbits frolic. I award him a 122 on the LSAT scoring scale - He gets two free points for pressing the "submit" button.)
  • HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

    Bertie, you're awful. Dead on correct, but awful.
  • Ray
    Umm, it wasn't *that* funny.

    That being said, what I do find amusing is the statement that Asian women criticize Asian men based on a few fucktards. This whole debate has made me realize two things:

    1.) Asian women are never wrong, shouldn't have to give up anything, react only to the oppression thrown towards them, and shouldn't have to consider others' feelings on the matter. In the old Chinese saying, their "brains don't need to turn around in different directions (to view the situation from all perspectives)"

    2.) Asian men are at fault for everything...including why the woolly mammoth is extinct, the president of the US is an idiot, and why the value of the greenback has been bitch slapped by the Euro.
  • Akrypti
    I'm sorry if you didn't think it was funny, Ray. I laughed. I'm happy. Life is good.
  • Ray
    And the rest of the post?
  • Lynn
    There are plenty of us foreign wives here in Tokyo. Thousands in fact. Asian guys do indeed get white girls.
  • deathlurk
    The thing that Play god wrote is kinda true. I dont' really care if i couldn't get any white gal. but god created man and woman for everything.. Asian females lack in everything.. almost appearance, attitude. Average chinese gals can be so ugly compared to any other gals. And these gals ditching their counterparts. The fact that they say asian man are weak is wrong as well. Some white gals can be really big. but average caucasian gals are much smaller and have much smaller arms. They never seem to be way too big for us to handle. There are some asian midgets but not all of us are weak. If you look back history, Asian warrior fought mercilessly in many battle killing everyone. Samurai warriors, for example, kill themselves if they about to lose and battle which is , they are never meant to be killed by their enemy. All of the most hand-to-hand combact , self-defense methods are founded by asian martial art masters. I don't think asian man are weak and white gals are so big that we can carry around. All i want to say is, i have the same feeling as Play god.. i really do hate asian females and their sucky attitudes. It is natural for white gals not to like asian guys and we cannot say we are weak male being because we can't get them. This issue is started by asian women, ( not white men, not white girls).
  • somedude1
    My 2 cents:

    make no mistake that there are certain disadvantages of being an asian guy, in the western (american) society. however it doesn't mean you can't be successful in whatever you choose, including dating. My personal opinion is that as an asian guy, you probably would better better off if did NOT exclude white women, or latin women or black women. Why? cause way too many asian men focus only on asian women. look, lets be realistic, a large number of them are racist towards asian men (whiggie, etc). so the supply and demand tips HUGE in your disfavor. In fact it's stupid to focus only on a small group of girls where there is a 50% chance they will never go for you, no matter what. kind of self-defeating. go for other girls; you'll find more success.

    I've had descent dating experiences and most girls my whole life, as an asian male. i think i'm descent looking guy, athletic, tall, etc. but i will say this: at one time, 80% of my efforts had been focused on asian girls (they are hot), and 80% of women interested in me were not asian girls.... do you get it now?
  • Obi
    Sheesshh...this is still being discussed?

    Congratulations Somedude1 for widening your horizons.

    I did have a smaller dating pool in "my community" when younger and none attracted me. I ended up dating European women, for the most part. I didn't even date that many British women.

    The obesity rates in Britain are second only to America and I do prefer more athletic women.
  • R.
    I am a White girl and I studied Chinese for 6 years, language is not a problem for me. When I came to Taiwan I was determined to find a Taiwanese guy; actually I have met a friend via internet and have known him for 3 years before I came here. He was a smart student at NTU, and a very nice guy, so no wonder we began to date.

    Why I wanted a Taiwanese? 1. I liked that particular guy, I knew him for a long period of time 2. Asian guys was something exotic for me, I wanted to try an Asian 3. I wanted to improve my Chinese e.t.c. But when we began to date, a lot of problems appeared: he has no self-esteem at all, that was worsened by my libido and his inability to perform sex every day, even several times per week! His penis was small to satisfy me - and though I thought that sex is not the most important thing and that's okay - he lost his confidence and quarelled with me everyday. We splitted. After that I met another Taiwanese, and the first question he asked me was: Wo de hui bi wai guo ren xiao ma? Why the hell do you ask this? Yes, it is smaller, so what? Again, no way: we fell apart. After the third time relationships ended in that manner I desided: no Asian guys anymore! To tell the truth, it is very difficult to have relationships with an Asian guys because in the sex they are not the same as Westerners, I should confess. And they know it and the trouble won't be solved.

    I know some girls from Ukranian or Belorussia married Taiwanese guys, but all the time that was a marriage for money and stable family, not for personal happiness. Because in that countries the majority of men are irresponsible, bad husbands and addicted to alchohol, so it is very difficult for a woman to find a good husband.

    When you write that Asian guys CAN and DO get White women, that's right: as my Taiwanese lovers "got" me (though when they got me, they found out that the troubles only were to begin) or they get these poor women from poor countries. Even women from rich Western countries can go for Asian - to try them, to see what it looks like to do it with an Asian. But for real love - I think, it is extremely rare to happen. The diffeneces are too big. We'd rather date Africans, better for both.
  • nemogbr
    Hello R:

    Not sure what sort of guys you dated and you seemed to have met some emasculated men.

    Growing up and living in London. I have met and dated women of different nationalities. I'm usually the guy pushing my more conservative male friends to broaden their horizons and date outside their race.

    In the case of Libido; I'm like any other man I've met. Size-wise, I've yet to encounter a woman of European or African descent who found it a shortcoming.
  • R.
    Dear bemogbr,

    The guys I dated were the common Taiwanese, they are of an average type. Emasculated or not,it is another issue. As for size, it is the fact that on average Asians' is smaller that of Caucasians and Africans, and I find it not worth discussing, because each nation has its own features,it is not bad and not good. By the way, I NEVER told any man that his "little friend" is little!!! And I believe only heartless or stupid girls could tell it (and it is such an embarassment to confess that you had sex with a "small one" - women are proud of their b/f's size, much like as men are). So, the fact that none told you about your actual "size-wise" means nothing.

    Again, you can date, and you can try - as I did it - but the result is the same:only minority of Asian guys are suitable and only for limited number of white woman and african as well. It is physiology and we can't do anything with it. I know many women from Russian East marry Chinese, but they are always of two types: those with extremely poor living conditions and those who are shy, have many complexes, with low self-esteem and low sex drive.

    I saw a post from a guy who has got a white g/f and is telling that "good times for Asian guys have come". But it is obvious from a photo that this girl is unpopular among Caucasian men,that's why she decided to date a Chinese because there will be no other white guy treated her like this Chinese guy (i believe, this guy really loves her and treats her like a princess).

    Besides, where are all these women of different nationalities now? And were they those admired by white men? I mean, did the beautifullest, most appreciated girls running to you wanting you etc after they have had sex with you? Did you have any rivals from handsom tall Europeans or no rivalry or only from those fat ugly short guys? I am convinced: NO.

    To tell the truth, even now I like Asian guy's appearance: their eyes and black hair, and that they are faithfull and serious in relationships, but now I treat them like a beautiful creature or as friends, no more as a sexual object, and all this based on my own experience and observations.
  • nemogbr
    Question of physiology, I have a penchant for dating women taller than my 5.5feet/167cm frame. Tallest girlfriend I had was around 6ft tall, African-French. I presume she wanted me after the first time, since the relationship did last nine months.

    Most others, were slightly above European average height.

    As for rivals? I always have rivals. From the tall handsome guys to the tall ugly ones.

    ..lol

    Sorry to read that you have been disappointed. Then again, I've met women who do not date certain races due to the male attitudes. From Eastern European women who prefer Western men to African women who do not want African men.

    Takes all sorts..
  • R.
    I am sorry but I really don't understand why you talk about height...
    It is so *chinese*... The first question they ask when met someone in internet is "ni duo gao?"
    Does height play any role? I am not talking about heigh or weight, I am talking about *** size, I guess you understand it, and that doesn't depend on height AT ALL, especially in case of Asians.
  • nemogbr
    LOL...I am not Chinese...Filipino in my case.

    First you say that you find the subject "not worth discussing", but now you say that ***size is what you are talking about.

    Make up your mind...:)..lol

    As a woman once stated "If **size is all important, every woman would be a lesbian."

    And if we are talking stereotypes about races. I was in a complicated relationship with two African women. My competition where men from their culture. They chose me.

    Perhaps, they were experimenting, but hey....I enjoyed the results..
  • Since this topic is about Asian guys and women of other ethnicities I thought I'd put in my two cents. People speak, walk, talk, dress, act and live THE MEDIA such as T.V, movies, magzines ect. When was the last time you saw a movie of a white guy getting a girl of other ethnicities? When was the last time you saw a movie if an Asian guy getting a white girl? ... Exactly!

    More recently there are some movies and media promoting interracial relationships between Asian and girls of other ethnicities now. Harald and Comar to white Castle, and some of Jackie Chan and Jet Li's movies. Also, please visit this website below:

  • JJ
    R.

    So you're saying the primary reason that prevents a foreign woman to be in a relationship with a Taiwanese/Chinese/Asian male is because of physiology? Their inability to satisfy you in the bedroom?

    Hearing your comments on this is quite disconcerting for Asian males. Since we know that Taiwanese people were brought up in an envriornment that is the polar opposite of the United States. There's a thin line between the ideas of being masculine and feminine, unlike the United States where there is a strong idea of what both sides are.

    Thing is, you make it sound as if it's impossible for Asian males to get with anyone period, because of factors that are not within our control.

    And at the same time, there are a lot of complaints of Asian woman and their desire for White males. We all know the reasons everywhere.

    But I think it's time to stop complaining and actually look for solutions to what we can do.

    Because I see a lot of posts here that does nothing but degrades the Asian male, the Asian female.

    But I don't see any solutions to the problem.
  • Marissa
    Asian men can certainly date nonAsian females. My boyfriend is Vietnamese. I never thought twice about the fact that he is Asian, and I never wil question our relationship on that basis. We are very happy together. How did he “get” me? He simply approached me as opposed to automatically assuming that I would not be interested. Asian men, if you want a nonAsian girlfriend, simply have the confidence to approach one.

    As a side note to the people blogging above about Asian men's parts down-stairs, let me stress that, much like white men, each Asian man's size is different.
  • Michelle
    Well, I can tell you about ONE white girl who likes Asian guys--ME. In fact, I hardly ever even /look at white guys/--they just don't do it for me. But there's something so hot about Asian guys, imo.

    The thing is, Asian guys are like any other race--some are hotter than others. Just because I like Asian guys doesn't mean I like EVERY one I see, just like Asian guys who like white girls won't like every one /they/ see.

    Hot is hot, regardless of race. If you're a good-looking, confident Asian guy, you should be able to attract the attention of just about any girl.
  • Prima
    I dunno about the whole worshipping white chicks thing, but in Ankhesen's book "Folklore and Other Stories", the Asian guys are center stage and the always get the chick.
  • Yuchi
    I am Asian male and I don't why but I am much more attracted to white girls. They always can catch my eyes easily. My Asian male friends said I am odd. Maybe...but I do love to appreciate white girl's beauty. They look freaking pretty and exotic. However, there is no white girls who are interested in Asian male in my life. I have tried few times to approach hot white girls and it turne out that I made me awkeard and feel me like a jerk. I agree with that most of white girls are not interested in Asian male. Maybe there are few of them are different but I won't be the lucky one to meet one. Getting a pretty white girl might be just my fantasy at all.
  • Stephanie
    Hey, i'm a blonde white girl and I adore asian guys!
    I've dated quite a few.
    Why have those drag looking asian girls when you can have us? :)
  • sdfsdf
    Yeah white guys are preferred in the world because they are the dominant race at the present moment. Due to America/Europe/USSR superpower status, the media perpetuates the caucasian race as the most powerful and woman by nature are attracted to power. In a couple decades when china/india rise up and attain a more dominant position in world affairs, female's perceptions about men of these races will change .
  • frcfrc
    sdfsdf, well said!!!!! that's the real truth imo.
  • Have fun with your condescending and hateful comments about asian men.

    What doesnt kill me will make me stronger you fuckin bitches!!!
  • cognitis
    This blog title makes an assumptions both injurious to US ethnic minorities and degrading: certain couples unseen are not; even if ethnic minority men didn't date ethnic majority women, "can't" (opposed to "don't want") necessarily degrades minority men.

    First, US Media shows much more often minority women with majority men than minority men with majority women; this disparity itself constitutes assault with intentional intimidation, which assault could be be discussed in another blog. Media thus makes more fashionable chinese women-jewish men couples rather than chinese men-jewish women couples, for example; this fashion in turn makes less tense at gatherings the former rather than the latter couples; thus certain couples unseen still are: they just appear less at gatherings or otherwise in public.

    Secondly, that minority men don't date majority women means in itself very little: few Chinese men in Jamaica date African women, but then few Englishmen in Rhodesia dated African women; thus, use of "can't" demonstrates an opinion not a fact, for just as easily the blogger could have used "choose not to" as just one of many possible others. What opinion of minority men holds this blogger? Since most would agree that low-status men seek to date high-status women, this bloggers use of "can't" rather than "choose not to" demonstrates the blogger to hold a low opinion of minority--blogger's term "asian"-- men; that is, "asian" men have lower status than other men; that is, "asian" men seek to date other women but "can't". This blogger thus necessarily degrades (lower status) and insults ("can't") minority men.

    Editors: should you really support minority interests, how exactly does permitting bloggers who degrade ethnic minorities to use your site support minority interests? As a Japanese American, I find this blogger to be offensive to any Japanese American; and his degrading and insulting video serves the interests not of Japanese or Korean or Chinese Americans but the interests of Euro Americans, particularly those Euros who seek to intimidate and injure ethnic minorities.
  • CaliStunna
    Simple...just do what Fil-Ams do and say "I'm not Asian! I am a Pacific Islander!"

    That way you don't have to fall under stereotypes and you can get the Girl.
  • cognitis
    Editors:

    Why do you permit bloggers such as above "R." to post on this site? R is clearly a troll writing the most noxious stuff he could imagine, who seeks to injure by simply listing one Media insult after another. To the more naive postors: women don't insult men in the way "R" does; instead R is much more likely one of those euro homosexuals who was made not born: sexually repressed, intense feelings of sexual inadequacy; R seeks to mitigate his pain by inflicting it on any group provided by authorities (Media) such as "asians".

    "R" actually illustrates a reason for the Media's portrayal of "asian" men. Note that "asian" men are insulted in exactly the same way Jew males were insulted: nerdy, sexually inadequate, needing money to attract women, etc. How likely is it that "asian" men would lack in exactly the same way as Jew males? Not likely at all. Jews, like "R" lash out at "asians" in the way that mitigates their pain; ie: bashing Africans for being oversexed, stupid, lazy doesn't mitigate inferiority feelings caused by sexually inadequacy, overwork to compensate, bookishness. No Jewish site would permit the kind of noxious degrading junk on this site. I'm starting to doubt whether this site's editors are really "asian" or Jews using fake blogger pics.
  • @cognitis:

    Well, this was a Christmas surprise. [sigh] Okay, look:

    1) Admittedly, the blog post "Why Asian Guys Can't Get White Girls" is a lead-in to the video to act as a springboard as to the topic of Asian guys and interracial dating. Obviously, it has worked a little too well. Is Mike, a blogger who "degrades ethnic minorities to use [on] your site [which] support minority interests?" No. Are the videographers who made the video that Mike embedded on a blog post to use as a discussion? Well, obviously you're upset, and I'm sure you've left a nice little note to the videographers telling them exactly how you feel, because there's really no point to throw heaping amounts of hate at the Editors, because really, if you haven't, then you're directing your ire in the wrong place.

    2) I don't know who R is. R could be a white woman or, in your words, "one of those euro [male] homosexuals" or a talking frog for all I care; I don't agree with what she wrote but I didn't 86 her comment for the purpose that it could spawn a rational dialogue.

    Obviously, that didn't work.

    For the most part, I find 90% of your comments well thought out and intelligent, but you don't have to respond to who you think is a troll by being a troll, which is very clearly what you're being. And it's a damn shame that I had to remove the last comment completely for being Anti-Semitic. Really? Seriously? Because there are plenty of sites on the Internet you can write to if you choose to go that direction, but it won't be here.
  • nemogbr
    @Ernie:

    I for one, am glad you didn't delete her comment, but the last poster was getting into the racist category with one of his comments. Hatred and haters come in many forms.

    One poster did mention that perhaps SE-Asian Males do focus on their own ethnic part of the world rather than all the other types of women out there.

    I do not and in consequence, have a better dating scene.

    For instance, I went to one event. It was a Calendar launch. The modeling agency had a preponderance of mixed women. They also had English women, but only one of SE-Asian extraction. A Taiwanese model. Amongst the guests? One of Vietnamese extraction.

    Then there was one of me. A Brit of Flip origin..

    Should I have focused on the Taiwanese model? She was quite fetching, but should I have ignored all the other beautiful women, just because they were black, white or mixed?

    I did see her being courted by a couple of English guys, but she left early. I hope to see her again.

    The mixed girls, had more men focused on them, although the men were abit envious when the girls took my hands when we walked to the bar together.

    I had more fun with these three black girls; two were over six feet/two metres tall. Since, I am only 5foot 6, It was interesting dancing with women were your face is in between their breasts...lol.

    One did ask if I was "okay? " and I replied. "OHH yes.."

    I'm seeing them again in a couple of nights.

    In conclusion. The London dating scene would be easier (by a wide margin) for men of our extraction if they did not focus on women of their ethnic origin.
  • uRB4N
    Want to know why Asian guys "can't" get white girls? It's because they're really risk adverse and have preconceived stereotypical notions that pretty white girls will reject them for being Asian. Thus, they don't try. This, in turn, causes white girls to have preconceived notions about Asian guys and how they don't' want to date white girls so they never bother to go that route.

    Once Asian guys start trying, I'm sure they'll be pleasantly surprised. Like how my cousin's white girlfriend aptly put it:

    "Asian guys need to get off the reservation."

    I'm inclined to agree.
  • nemogbr
    Perhaps Asian guys should try video dating??

    http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=JHZ6PmSI4BA
  • CaliStunna
    Well since people are talking about YELLOW FEVER....

    Here's YELLOW FEVER part 2 (Not related to Wong Fu Productions) where an Asian-American explains and tries to defeat the stereotypes.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lj5D2i2O9D0

    CHECK IT OUT!
  • GCS
    Here are some facts:

    1. Americanized Asian women do not, as a whole, date Asian men regardless of whether the Asian male is Americanized or not.

    2. White American women are more likely to date Asian men.

    3. Women tend to pick people of their own race to date.

    It is quite easy to discern the dating preferences of an Americanized Asian woman.

    1. Does she have an burning desire to act stereotypically American?
    2. Does she have an obsession with fitting into American culture?
    3. Have all her past (and current) BF's been caucasian?
    4. Does she always point out caucasian celebrities as being "hot"?
    5. Does she never point out Asian male celebrities as being "hot"?
    6. Does she criticize, condemn, or complain about FOB's as somehow reminding her of her own ethnicity's stereotypes?

    As soon as an Americanized Asian woman opens here mouth and starts to elicit responses, it is actually pretty easy to tell what her biases are.

    What Asian men should ask all women, regardless of race is the following question:

    1. Would you ever date or marry an Asian man?

    If the answer is "No," silently thank her. This woman has saved you minutes of conversation that will lead nowhere.

    If the answer is something noncommital like "ummmm...." or "maybe...." or "well...." then her hesitancy to give you an unqualified answer belies her prejudice; she does not want to appear close-minded or does not want to appear offensive. This woman is actually worse to pursue; in his mind, the Asian man equates hesitancy as having a chance, when in fact, her hesitancy equals her desire to not want to date Asian men.

    If the answer is "Yes," then the Asian man should explore whether the woman's personality jives with his own.

    All women of all races and ethnicities want three things: Power, Status, and Confidence.

    If an Asian woman or American woman has no desire to date or marry an Asian man, why would you want to pursue someone so close-minded anyway? Your time is better spent on more open-minded women.

    What women profess they WANT and what they RESPOND to are very different. All woman say they want a nice man, but go out and marry jerks. Why is that?

    "Jerks" are confident and make women seek their approval. Jerks always think of women as lower status than themselves, and thus, the woman is always constantly trying to measure up. Jerks are selfish pr*cks.

    Asian men should not aspire to be jerks, but should probably be two degress shy of being one. A proverbial bad boy who knows how to be nice.

    Asian men need to:

    1. Stop playing computer games (XBOX, Wii etc).
    2. Start interacting with live people.
    3. Believe themselves as irresistable, sexually desirable, and high status
    4. Learn how to flirt and build sexual tension
    5. Exude extreme confidence, poise, and masculinity
    6. Not accept second class behavior and treatment
    7. Take the lead - women love men who are dominant (as opposes to domineering)

    Once you start having more meaningful interactions with caucasian women be prepared for major confrontations from caucasian men, especially American and Australian ones. For many centuries, minority men have simply allowed caucasian men to rule the planet, either militarily, economically, and/or culturally.

    Asian men should simply ignore all the Asian females who turn their backs on their own (meaning having a disdain for Asian men or not having their backs, so to speak); their bigotry instantly makes them second-class. Those women are simply not worth expending valuable energy on. The same goes for caucasian females who have no desire to date Asian men. Why pursue a bigot?
  • GCS
    Edit:

    Point 2 should read:

    2. Caucasian women (Americanized or Euro) are more likely than Americanized Asian females to date and marry a Asian male.
  • Laika
    Awww Phil is a cute guy! :D I'm sure he can get a girl if he wants to. :3 I am a Caucasian girl by the way! Hahaha xD
  • Tsimnuj Hawj
    It's funny that Asian American females date white guys to get away from the traditional sex roles that is often commonly thought to exist in Asian-Asian relationships, but according to a survey white males were the only one to think Asian girls as obedient/submissive, quiet/introverted and would follow the traditional sex roles. Now, Asian American females acutally viewed white males and themselves as following equal sex roles and easygoing. Fact is, Asian males are the only group to not believe that Asian girls are obedient/submissive, quiet/introverted and likely to follow traditional sex roles.

    Basically, Asian girls exclusively dating white guys to get away from that culture you hate so much are only hurting themselves more. You should really think about because it seems like the joke is on you. According to this result, Asian males have a higher respect for you over white males. (If you didn't recognize that before this then I don't know what to say about you, self-loathing?)

    Check out the book, "Relationship Among Asian American Women" edited by Jean Lau Chin.

    Here is the survey result from my book that I just scanned.
    http://img17.imageshack.us/img17/5610/img021lgd...
  • GCS
    The vast majority of Americanized Asian females exclusively date white American men. For purposes of this post, Asian = Southeast or East Asian. Yes, there are a few Americanized Asian women who date Asian, Black, and Latino men, but those are few and far between. Go to any mall in any city, sit yourself down at a busy intersection and start observing the racial make-up of couples that pass by. The vast majority of Asian-white relationships, approximately 99.9%, will be Asian female-white male.

    Of the two genders of Americanized Asians, the female is much more likely to exhibit racist or dismissive or downright disgusted views of males of her own race. Men of her own race aren't worthy enough in her limited view. Once she feels that she is assimilated herself into the dominant power structure, she feels superior to Asian men; to her, Asian men are part of her FOB/Asian past.

    Americanized Asian women have an over-burning desire to fit into the dominant white American culture. Of the racial/ethnic minority groups, Asian women are the ones most likely to exhibit the most obnoxious traits of white American society; loud, obnoxious, xenophobic, over-bearing, materialistic, superficial, and basically your archetypical satire of an over-exuberant cheerleader. You don't see black and Latino women trying so desperately to fit into mainstream white America as you see Asian women trying to do so.

    The bottom line is that Americanized Asian women want their children to grow up into the dominant white culture. Over time and with each successive generation, the Asian part of their children's heritage will disappear; that is the goal of Americanized Asian females. To such women, white is seen as the most powerful, the most wealthy, the most likely to succeed. Americanized Asian women crave power and status above all else.

    Then you add Madison Avenue and Hollywood making Asian men virtually invisible and the fact that Asian women readily, willingly, and easily buy into these stereotypes of Asian men. Given the pervasiveness of the mass media, why in here right mind would an Americanized Asian female ever want to date someone of her own race?

    As a side note, there is no sympathy for white women who complain that Asian women are stealing their men. White women's racist views of non-whites prohibits them from fating

    So if you REALLY wanted to test a white woman's racism, simply blindfold her and have several Americanized men of different racial and ethnic backgrounds try and talk to her. (Americanized means no discernable foreign accent, shares American values, and had a typical American childhood.). These men are not allowed to talk about anything that might give away their race/ethnicity. It would be HILARIOUS if the man she responds to is the one who's not white.

    The reality is that white women think of themselves as being at the top of the female pecking order. As such, she feels superior to all other races. The only one worthy of her attention is someone of the same race. Pity that white men are much more likely to date outside their race than white women.

    Bottom line is this: Asian men should categorically write off Americanized Asian females; they simply aren't worth the effort of finding the diamond in the rough. White American women are slightly better, but not by much. Both groups think of themselves as superior to Asian men in all aspects; dating an Asian man would be "dating down." Asian men are much better dating Latino, black or European females who don't typically hold such racist beliefs.
  • for real
    Some white females see the IR dating disparity and silently feel bad or sorry about it. The trick is to approach these WFs. If they say no to your overtures, just ask them if they are racist and don't date Asian men? Some will immediately apologize and give you their number or email. It happens!
  • GCS
    Why would white females give a rat's ass about IR disparity? It doesn't affect them. OK, maybe it does when millions of their white men decide to marry an Asian female instead of a white one. Then they might get annoyed. Instead of marrying an Asian male, they will most likely marry a black or Hispanic one.

    The best question to ask any woman is whether she would ever date an East or SE Asian man.

    If she hesitates (with a response like, ummmm, or uhhhhh) to answer or answers NO, thank her for saving you 20 minutes of fruitless conversation.
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