Comments on: Who Is the Asian Princess?

By: Anthony

Anthony — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 06:08:45 +0000

I have lived in the US for 10 years now. I have had a problem with these women coming after me. I am 6', blonde, blue eyed, in good shape, articulate, a high level professional, told I am very good looking, funny and Married (to a white woman)! I have never sought out an Asian woman in my life.

I don't have anything against Asian women or any women of any race but for some reason these women have sought me out. I have had a number of them that have tried to be my "best friend." Want to hang out with me all the time at the fitness club, at the country club, hockey rink, or what have you. I have even had them frequent my company as clients excessively in an attempt to establish a friendship with me.

I don't like to try to be rude to anyone and have been neither overly friendly or flirtatious or rude to get rid of them. BTW they were ALL married too (to white men). And these men were not the best looking usually, while all of these women were very attractive. In retrospect I would say those men could not have married a white woman half as attractive as these asian women were.

I don't even live in a city with a high Asian population (Phoenix). I probably just represent the "white bread" stereotype success story. I am not sure if they see me as "moving up the food chain" or what but they all have let me know in no uncertain terms I can have what I want with them. Its weird.

I stumbled across your article and you described most of them to a tee. Married to white men, designer this and that, German car...Mercedes or BMW. They have all told me they would only marry a white man (which I find odd, I would mary anyone of any race if I loved them). I didn't grow up in the US so I have a different perspective on things than Americans but I do represent the quintessential American s success story.

I don't pretend to know jack about any Asian culture. Its not really on my to do list either. I feel indifferent to Asian men & women in general. They are just people to me. . But I keep having these gorgeous Asian women coming after me, more so than woman of any other race. And I just didn't understand why really. Why Asian women? I guess they were the Asians you described. Princesses.

And no, I wasn't stupid enough

Your article was an eye opener.

By: TimeOut

TimeOut — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 11:18:52 +0000

“She keeps her figure slim and clothed in designer labels. Her well-manicured fingernails…” That’s where I relax… Designer labels and well-manicured fingernails might mean a hot chick to screw, but probably just means an expensive ongoing tantrum. And I happen to live in a country where prostitution is legal, thank Christ, so a hot lay needn’t come with out the baggage. As for slim, not so sure about that, the only chickos I see in designer labels and manicured finger nails aren’t slim, they are skanky-assed skinny. And I don’t want skinny kids, so no thanks…

By: Ernie

Ernie — Sat, 10 Nov 2007 04:32:23 +0000

I agree, it’s a bit of a cliche now. I was just at a cafe the other day and there were these two chubby middle-aged Caucasion guys that were talking about how they like to get on the Asian dating sites and “pick-up” Asian women looking for white guys. It was kind of pathetic to hear but after thinking about their “situation” a bit, it was totally understandable. I mean, here were two guys, overweight, somewhat unkempt, nothing special, who properly can’t get any Caucasion women to date them, so the only women they can date happen to be those that would date them for the one thing they have to offer…whiteness. So you really can’t knock them. But then you think about all these Asian women who would gladly welcome such guys just because their white, and well, maybe they all just deserve each other. On one side, you have all these insecure Asian females and on the other side you have all these insecure Caucasion guys. Match made in heaven.

By: Jake

Jake — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 06:08:07 +0000

Funny story Earnie, and good response. I ‘d probably would have said something like “You know, having an average white boy friend won’t improve your self-image”. I’ve met Asian women like this as well and although they have the right to date who they want, the fact that they JUST want to date a white guy is disturbing. I mean, I’ve done on-line dating before and all other women will always include a guy of the same ethnicity as a possible date and then expand from there to include other races. But with Asian females, there is an alarming number of them that write that they JUST want to date someone white. That’s it. I wouldn’t be as annoyed if they said they also could date black, hispanic, indian and other types, but no, they specifically just want to date someone white. It’s becoming a cliche now.

By: Ernie

Ernie — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 22:25:32 +0000

No, I don’t think it’s a matter of taste, but a matter of plugging holes in their own insecurities. I remember once at a party that was multi-racial and I was mingling/flirting with all kinds of girls there and then I met this Asian chick that said something along the lines that the only “cute” guys at the party were a few white guys at the bar. Wow, I couldn’t believe she said this right in my face. The thing is that she wasn’t even that cute so I suspected that by making known that she just goes for white guys, it helped bolster her own self-esteem (by implying that she’s too “good” for an Asian guy). Well, after she said it, she realized how silly the comment sounded, so she back-tracked a bit and apologized to me that she didn’t mean to offend me. Well I wasn’t about to let her off the hook so easily so I told her that I didn’t date Asian women anyway so she wasn’t going to get a free drink from me and that I had quite a few white friends with “Asian fetishes” that I could hook her up with. Boy that really annoyed her, but the way I see it, she DESERVED that response. I knew right there and then that she’d end up with some “frumpy” white guy. Typical.

By: Jake

Jake — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 03:35:58 +0000

I have several Caucasion buddies that are average at best who have admitted to chasing after Asian girls because they can get a “hotter” Asian girl than a girl of their own race. So their logic is why go for an average white girl when you can easily get an above-average Asian girl? This actually makes a lot of sense from their perspective and you can’t really knock them for going that route. What I wonder about though is why would so many Asian girls settle for guys that attractive women of their own race would otherwise take a pass on? I also asked an attractive Caucasion female friend of mine about this once, and she also noted that lots of Caucasion guys she sees with Asian girls are what she would call “rejects”.
Do Asian girls have such bad taste?

By: Ernie

Ernie — Mon, 05 Nov 2007 09:44:23 +0000

Interesting topic. I guess everyone has a slightly different view point and therefore opinion. Here goes mine. I’ve dated girls of all races (minus 1) when I was younger. White, black, hispanic…even non-Americans, Dutch, Hungarian, Brit, Czech. I was married to a Norwegian gal at one time and followed that with a black girlfriend. So I’ve done the whole spectrum so to speak…EXCEPT Asian females (hence the minus 1 above). I mean when I was younger, they were the only group that “rejected” me. At first I thought it was me, but heck the non-Asian girls I’ve been with were of a pretty high standard, so it couldn’t have been me. I’ve never had a problem meeting non-Asian women as they tend to find me quite interesting. However, when it comes to Asian women in this country, I can’t seem figure it out. But here is my theory.

I believe that Asian-American females so desparately want to fit in and live the “all-american” lifestyle, that white-picket fence, suburban existence, mom, apple pie, SUV’s, etc. etc. that they want to end up with a white male to accomplish this goal. It provides not only security and stability, but also an identity. I remember sitting at a cafe once and a group of 6-7 Asian-American mothers came in with their kids. All the kids were mixed, which meant that they all had white fathers. It was kind of funny to watch though. These mothers going about like typical American soccer moms. And then some of the dads strolled in. Wow, were they “frumpy” to say the least. For these Asian women to pick “frumpy” white guys over cultured well-educated Asian guys means that she is looking for something that is beyond the usual dating “resume”. And that is the “American” lifestyle that the while guy provides for them.
Needless to say, I’ve given up on Asian women quite a while ago. It dawned on me that no matter how great and ideal an Asian guy can be, he’ll get nowhere with these Asian women because he’s…..well Asian. So why bother with them then when there are so many other races that are dateable.

By: Hannah

Hannah — Mon, 29 Oct 2007 05:27:58 +0000

I FUCKING LOVE YOU. I… jesus. I had goosebumps, literally, the whole entire time. Reading that was like a burst of fresh air into an otherwise claustrophobic isolation chamber (the sad lack of visibility and TRUTH regarding Asian-American women’s issues). Thank you for writing this. Thank you for not getting lost in PC-ridiculousness like so many other writers. Thank you thank you THANK YOU.

I don’t know what else to say. I’m just beginning to realize my “Asian-ness” as I grew up around solely non-Asians and in “assimilated” environments. I’m in college now… and just looking around… I see so many gross stereotypes that society hold toward Asian women. how they are ENDLESS fetishized, fetishized, fetishized… by Asian men, non-Asian men, blacks, whites, hispanics, etc. etc. etc. The frustration and sheer disgust I experience from this is exacerbated by the fact that I AM A BROKE TOMBOY. I’m neither middle class nor feminine. My idea of a fun night is watching political documentaries in sweatpants, I dress like an auto-mechanic, I’ve been financially independent since the age of 17, I curse like a sailor, pure nerdcore, and I have a loud-ass mouth that’s been known to go off at ignorant people. nothing about me is petite or “cute”.. but because I am small and an asian female with typical east-asian females… “cartoony” features… PEOPLE TREAT ME LIKE A SECOND CLASS CITIZEN. Guys either hit on me using the whole creepy “me like you because you seem easy to dominate” and society in general tends to dismiss us as cute little marginal nothings.

FUCK THIS SOCIETY. It’s time for a change. More *strong* and *intelligent* Asian women in the forefront of media/society NOW. More exposure, less stereotpes. I don’t have the good fortune of being around any Asian people/role models in my life right now, but this article gave me a lot of hope. If a smart, funny, acerbically witty and unapologically opinionated person like you exists, then there’s more of us out there. I feel like my load has been lightened considerably… I’m not the only one fighting this cultural battle. lol.

By: Chook

Chook — Fri, 19 Oct 2007 10:23:23 +0000

“..white, black, hispanic (women) prefer men from their own race. The only exception are Asian women.”

Could the reason be that mainstream white culture doesn’t place many negative connotations on a white man dating an Asian women? It’s glamourized and romanticized with an implication that white men are doing Asian women a favour by helping them “escape” from mean Asian men. You see many more Asian females represented in the media in a positive light than you find of Asian men. In other words there doesn’t seem to be the same degree of obstacle that a black woman might face if she married white. By contrast AF/WM unions seem to be welcomed by white society.
The “problem” that this acceptance creates is that these unions are sometimes presented as evidence of a general acceptance of Asian people or culture, which I don’t believe they are.

By: akrypti

akrypti — Fri, 19 Oct 2007 05:53:44 +0000

Wow, Ken. I usually don’t like posting comments that have no other purpose but to say “wow,” but yeah.. wow. Very solid response. Wow. I wonder what there is to say to counter you…

Jolly good show!