Comments on: Who Is the Asian Princess? http://www.8asians.com/2007/10/09/who-is-the-asian-princess/ A blog for Asian Americans Mon, 13 Feb 2012 19:07:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: XcapeFromLA http://www.8asians.com/2007/10/09/who-is-the-asian-princess/comment-page-1/#comment-150725 XcapeFromLA Tue, 10 May 2011 05:33:11 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/2007/10/09/who-is-the-asian-princess/#comment-150725 How about this for a measure of the "Asian Princess" in the derogatory sense. If a guy -- or anyone for that matter -- does something considerate for a girl, how does she react (e.g. does she say thank you)? That I think is a better measure of narcissism and entitlement than $$$, her race, or what she wears.<br/><br/> <br/><br/>Just today, I was at the airport and offered my luggage cart to this 20-something Asian girl who was toting two large suitcases. As any gentleman would do at least in the old days. She just glared at me and shooed me with her hands and her nose up in the air. Not even a thanks or anything for trying to help her! By the way, I'm an Asian man. If I were a striking tall white guy, I have the suspicion that she would have been much nicer. I do think there are Asian American girls who are very (racist) prejudiced against Asian men for whatever reason. Case in point is the stereotype of Asian men = abusive and domineering in this post. By the way, does this imply these suave white guys don't end up beating their Asian wives? It's a human condition, not a skin color one. Another strange observation of Asian women -- why are there all these female Asian studies professors married to white guys yet extolling the virtues of Asian culture?<br/><br/> <br/><br/>Asian sisters, you're not only hurting your Asian bro's but also yourself by perpetuating this type of self-hatred in the sense of hating the other half of your race, muted and subdued as that hatred may be. How about this for a measure of the “Asian Princess” in the derogatory sense. If a guy — or anyone for that matter — does something considerate for a girl, how does she react (e.g. does she say thank you)? That I think is a better measure of narcissism and entitlement than $$$, her race, or what she wears.

Just today, I was at the airport and offered my luggage cart to this 20-something Asian girl who was toting two large suitcases. As any gentleman would do at least in the old days. She just glared at me and shooed me with her hands and her nose up in the air. Not even a thanks or anything for trying to help her! By the way, I’m an Asian man. If I were a striking tall white guy, I have the suspicion that she would have been much nicer. I do think there are Asian American girls who are very (racist) prejudiced against Asian men for whatever reason. Case in point is the stereotype of Asian men = abusive and domineering in this post. By the way, does this imply these suave white guys don’t end up beating their Asian wives? It’s a human condition, not a skin color one. Another strange observation of Asian women — why are there all these female Asian studies professors married to white guys yet extolling the virtues of Asian culture?

Asian sisters, you’re not only hurting your Asian bro’s but also yourself by perpetuating this type of self-hatred in the sense of hating the other half of your race, muted and subdued as that hatred may be.

]]> By: myrebateupdate http://www.8asians.com/2007/10/09/who-is-the-asian-princess/comment-page-1/#comment-150722 myrebateupdate Tue, 10 May 2011 05:12:08 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/2007/10/09/who-is-the-asian-princess/#comment-150722 How about this definition. When someone does something nice for a girl, does she graciously express gratitude (e.g. a simple thank you)? That I think is a better marker of a narcissistic, entitled attitude than material measures. How about this definition. When someone does something nice for a girl, does she graciously express gratitude (e.g. a simple thank you)? That I think is a better marker of a narcissistic, entitled attitude than material measures.

]]> By: Skizza http://www.8asians.com/2007/10/09/who-is-the-asian-princess/comment-page-1/#comment-146362 Skizza Wed, 09 Feb 2011 16:31:47 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/2007/10/09/who-is-the-asian-princess/#comment-146362 In LA we have a variety of the Asian princess that fits into both examples. Especially in Koreatown and Arcadia there is a new generation of American born girls (and probably boys also, but I can't comment on them) who seems to be as materialistic and shallow as anyone else. These pampered, spoiled and sheltered girls typically live at home well into their 30's while attending school and then into the workplace. They tend to favor ostentatiously expensive things, Black Mercedes S500, Blahnik pumps and four figure handbags are standard issue. Their fathers who are probably out working to afford a good life for their families may compensate for not being there by showering them with material affection. They seem to get accustomed to it rather quickly and many expect that from every man in their life, which sets their expectations quite high. My observations suggest that the less the girl has seen of the world the more she craves material items. Some of these girls have never left Southern California much less to visit their countries of origin and many only speak English. One of my Vietnamese friends had a perfect description of this kind of Asian, "Banana". Yellow on the outside, white on the inside. In LA we have a variety of the Asian princess that fits into both examples. Especially in Koreatown and Arcadia there is a new generation of American born girls (and probably boys also, but I can’t comment on them) who seems to be as materialistic and shallow as anyone else. These pampered, spoiled and sheltered girls typically live at home well into their 30′s while attending school and then into the workplace. They tend to favor ostentatiously expensive things, Black Mercedes S500, Blahnik pumps and four figure handbags are standard issue. Their fathers who are probably out working to afford a good life for their families may compensate for not being there by showering them with material affection. They seem to get accustomed to it rather quickly and many expect that from every man in their life, which sets their expectations quite high. My observations suggest that the less the girl has seen of the world the more she craves material items. Some of these girls have never left Southern California much less to visit their countries of origin and many only speak English. One of my Vietnamese friends had a perfect description of this kind of Asian, “Banana”. Yellow on the outside, white on the inside.

]]> By: Firebrand003 http://www.8asians.com/2007/10/09/who-is-the-asian-princess/comment-page-1/#comment-129127 Firebrand003 Sat, 02 Jan 2010 08:17:18 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/2007/10/09/who-is-the-asian-princess/#comment-129127 That accounts of 9 out of 10 AW/WM couples I've seen. To date I have seen 5 such couples after living in Boston for 2 years where the guy looks like he actually has options with women of his own race. Kind of pathetic. That accounts of 9 out of 10 AW/WM couples I've seen. To date I have seen 5 such couples after living in Boston for 2 years where the guy looks like he actually has options with women of his own race. Kind of pathetic.

]]> By: Firebrand003 http://www.8asians.com/2007/10/09/who-is-the-asian-princess/comment-page-1/#comment-129128 Firebrand003 Sat, 02 Jan 2010 08:11:38 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/2007/10/09/who-is-the-asian-princess/#comment-129128 Wow, the same thing happened to me at a bar recently. Usually I can identify these types of Asian girls, but this one passed under the radar because she was hanging out and dancing with a bunch of Asian guys...I asked her about a friend of hers that I had introduced to a Caucasian friend of mine earlier in the night, and the first thing out of her mouth was: "Oh, we're only interested in white guys" before I even finished the question. <br><br>This girl, who is bit chunky and definitely not cute, even admitted that it was fucked up and how most cute Asian girls only date white, and proceeded to say that Asian guys can only get "certain" Asian girls. She finished up the thought with “yea...Asian guys are just too nice”. I basically looked at her and was like: “well, this is me being nice”, and threw my beer all over her face/dress and walked out. It kind of shocked me to actually meet a girl that had the gall to say this to my face but I was most angry at myself for being weak and talking to an Asian girl in the first place (this was the first time I talked to one in 5 months). What really disappointed me were the Asian guys that were hanging out with these women. Herein lies the problem—most Asian guys I have met don't have the iron will and determination to look past Asian women and do everything their power to get what they want. I mean, those girls disrespected them in a very fundamental way and yet they're still hanging out with them. Remember: Asian women make up only 10 to 15% of the population (unless we're talking San Fran) in major US cities, this means for any Asian guy, only 1 in 9 or 10 of the women they make time for should be Asian, the other 9 should be some other kind. Who the fuck cares if she's Asian? Are you seriously going to admit to yourself that you are not good enough for anyone you want? If every Asian guy stuck to this proportion, I would bet that Asian women would have a completely different attitude about their worth in terms of sex and relationships.<br><br>I would seriously like to see what happens if every Asian guy in the US wakes up one morning and decides they would completely stop talking to all Asian women with the exception of family, work, school, or business. Wow, the same thing happened to me at a bar recently. Usually I can identify these types of Asian girls, but this one passed under the radar because she was hanging out and dancing with a bunch of Asian guys…I asked her about a friend of hers that I had introduced to a Caucasian friend of mine earlier in the night, and the first thing out of her mouth was: “Oh, we're only interested in white guys” before I even finished the question.

This girl, who is bit chunky and definitely not cute, even admitted that it was fucked up and how most cute Asian girls only date white, and proceeded to say that Asian guys can only get “certain” Asian girls. She finished up the thought with “yea…Asian guys are just too nice”. I basically looked at her and was like: “well, this is me being nice”, and threw my beer all over her face/dress and walked out. It kind of shocked me to actually meet a girl that had the gall to say this to my face but I was most angry at myself for being weak and talking to an Asian girl in the first place (this was the first time I talked to one in 5 months). What really disappointed me were the Asian guys that were hanging out with these women. Herein lies the problem—most Asian guys I have met don't have the iron will and determination to look past Asian women and do everything their power to get what they want. I mean, those girls disrespected them in a very fundamental way and yet they're still hanging out with them. Remember: Asian women make up only 10 to 15% of the population (unless we're talking San Fran) in major US cities, this means for any Asian guy, only 1 in 9 or 10 of the women they make time for should be Asian, the other 9 should be some other kind. Who the fuck cares if she's Asian? Are you seriously going to admit to yourself that you are not good enough for anyone you want? If every Asian guy stuck to this proportion, I would bet that Asian women would have a completely different attitude about their worth in terms of sex and relationships.

I would seriously like to see what happens if every Asian guy in the US wakes up one morning and decides they would completely stop talking to all Asian women with the exception of family, work, school, or business.

]]> By: Firebrand003 http://www.8asians.com/2007/10/09/who-is-the-asian-princess/comment-page-1/#comment-129125 Firebrand003 Sat, 02 Jan 2010 06:27:02 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/2007/10/09/who-is-the-asian-princess/#comment-129125 I agree with most of this article but the following sentence: "Who is the Asian Princess? She is any Asian woman an Asian man can’t handle..." <br><br>It bothers me because it assumes that no matter what kind of Asian man we're talking about, there is always an Asian woman he can't handle (assuming he wants to)—and I'm in need of clarification as to what traits that make an Asian woman hard to handle for an Asian guy:<br><br>Is it:<br><br>Girl A:<br>Because she is confident, honest with herself, generally a happy person without a chip on a her shoulder? Acts like Heidi Klum as opposed to Naomi Campbell (as in confident but not bitchy)? And has an inner confidence that radiates self-assurance without turning presumptive or judgmental?<br><br>OR<br><br>Girl B:<br>Is it because she doesn't want to be “handled” at all by Asian men in general?--as in she will act extremely rude and unfriendly to any Asian man and switch to sweet smile upon meeting a white guy. <br><br>Lets be honest with ourselves, truly confident women, Girl A, rarely throw men off—they are usually sweet and down to earth (unless the guy does something to piss her off) because they don't feel the need to compensate for something (like her ethnicity whatever it may be) by “being difficult”. So I think the whole point of Asian women that Asian men can't handle is moot, because any and all interaction with these types of women (Girl B) has gone to hell before anything even starts, because she has already made up her mind. So there is no “handle or not handle” BS, it's called moving on to the next girl who won't waste you time or good mood.<br><br>And for the Asian guys who buys into this BS, here's a story on how you deal with Girl B:<br><br>I'm an Asian guy and I used to get locked up and insecure around an "Asian woman I couldn't handle", that is of course until I developed my own confidence and figured out their most sore weak spot—meeting an Asian guy that THEY can't handle. A few weeks ago I walked into a restaurant, sat down, and there are two very cute Korean girls a few tables down. They don't notice me for a full 10 min, then this hot brunette sat down diagonally across from me. I turn on the charm and start flirting with her, we chat for abt 20 min before she leaves, but not before giving me her number. And for the rest of the half hour I was there, the Korean girls checked me out non-stop. The same thing happened at a coffee shop two days later. So Asian guys, the next time you think you can't handle an Asian girl, make sure it's because she is Girl A. Girl B is not worth a wasting a second on, unless it's to rub in her face the fact that you can get a non-Asian girl who is as hot or hotter than she is. I agree with most of this article but the following sentence: “Who is the Asian Princess? She is any Asian woman an Asian man can’t handle…”

It bothers me because it assumes that no matter what kind of Asian man we're talking about, there is always an Asian woman he can't handle (assuming he wants to)—and I'm in need of clarification as to what traits that make an Asian woman hard to handle for an Asian guy:

Is it:

Girl A:
Because she is confident, honest with herself, generally a happy person without a chip on a her shoulder? Acts like Heidi Klum as opposed to Naomi Campbell (as in confident but not bitchy)? And has an inner confidence that radiates self-assurance without turning presumptive or judgmental?

OR

Girl B:
Is it because she doesn't want to be “handled” at all by Asian men in general?–as in she will act extremely rude and unfriendly to any Asian man and switch to sweet smile upon meeting a white guy.

Lets be honest with ourselves, truly confident women, Girl A, rarely throw men off—they are usually sweet and down to earth (unless the guy does something to piss her off) because they don't feel the need to compensate for something (like her ethnicity whatever it may be) by “being difficult”. So I think the whole point of Asian women that Asian men can't handle is moot, because any and all interaction with these types of women (Girl B) has gone to hell before anything even starts, because she has already made up her mind. So there is no “handle or not handle” BS, it's called moving on to the next girl who won't waste you time or good mood.

And for the Asian guys who buys into this BS, here's a story on how you deal with Girl B:

I'm an Asian guy and I used to get locked up and insecure around an “Asian woman I couldn't handle”, that is of course until I developed my own confidence and figured out their most sore weak spot—meeting an Asian guy that THEY can't handle. A few weeks ago I walked into a restaurant, sat down, and there are two very cute Korean girls a few tables down. They don't notice me for a full 10 min, then this hot brunette sat down diagonally across from me. I turn on the charm and start flirting with her, we chat for abt 20 min before she leaves, but not before giving me her number. And for the rest of the half hour I was there, the Korean girls checked me out non-stop. The same thing happened at a coffee shop two days later. So Asian guys, the next time you think you can't handle an Asian girl, make sure it's because she is Girl A. Girl B is not worth a wasting a second on, unless it's to rub in her face the fact that you can get a non-Asian girl who is as hot or hotter than she is.

]]> By: Anthony http://www.8asians.com/2007/10/09/who-is-the-asian-princess/comment-page-1/#comment-128353 Anthony Mon, 20 Jul 2009 13:08:45 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/2007/10/09/who-is-the-asian-princess/#comment-128353 I have lived in the US for 10 years now. I have had a problem with these women coming after me. I am 6', blonde, blue eyed, in good shape, articulate, a high level professional, told I am very good looking, funny and Married (to a white woman)! I have never sought out an Asian woman in my life. <br><br>I don't have anything against Asian women or any women of any race but for some reason these women have sought me out. I have had a number of them that have tried to be my "best friend." Want to hang out with me all the time at the fitness club, at the country club, hockey rink, or what have you. I have even had them frequent my company as clients excessively in an attempt to establish a friendship with me.<br><br>I don't like to try to be rude to anyone and have been neither overly friendly or flirtatious or rude to get rid of them. BTW they were ALL married too (to white men). And these men were not the best looking usually, while all of these women were very attractive. In retrospect I would say those men could not have married a white woman half as attractive as these asian women were.<br><br> I don't even live in a city with a high Asian population (Phoenix). I probably just represent the "white bread" stereotype success story. I am not sure if they see me as "moving up the food chain" or what but they all have let me know in no uncertain terms I can have what I want with them. Its weird. <br><br>I stumbled across your article and you described most of them to a tee. Married to white men, designer this and that, German car...Mercedes or BMW. They have all told me they would only marry a white man (which I find odd, I would mary anyone of any race if I loved them). I didn't grow up in the US so I have a different perspective on things than Americans but I do represent the quintessential American s success story. <br><br>I don't pretend to know jack about any Asian culture. Its not really on my to do list either. I feel indifferent to Asian men & women in general. They are just people to me. . But I keep having these gorgeous Asian women coming after me, more so than woman of any other race. And I just didn't understand why really. Why Asian women? I guess they were the Asians you described. Princesses.<br><br>And no, I wasn't stupid enough<br><br>Your article was an eye opener. I have lived in the US for 10 years now. I have had a problem with these women coming after me. I am 6', blonde, blue eyed, in good shape, articulate, a high level professional, told I am very good looking, funny and Married (to a white woman)! I have never sought out an Asian woman in my life.

I don't have anything against Asian women or any women of any race but for some reason these women have sought me out. I have had a number of them that have tried to be my “best friend.” Want to hang out with me all the time at the fitness club, at the country club, hockey rink, or what have you. I have even had them frequent my company as clients excessively in an attempt to establish a friendship with me.

I don't like to try to be rude to anyone and have been neither overly friendly or flirtatious or rude to get rid of them. BTW they were ALL married too (to white men). And these men were not the best looking usually, while all of these women were very attractive. In retrospect I would say those men could not have married a white woman half as attractive as these asian women were.

I don't even live in a city with a high Asian population (Phoenix). I probably just represent the “white bread” stereotype success story. I am not sure if they see me as “moving up the food chain” or what but they all have let me know in no uncertain terms I can have what I want with them. Its weird.

I stumbled across your article and you described most of them to a tee. Married to white men, designer this and that, German car…Mercedes or BMW. They have all told me they would only marry a white man (which I find odd, I would mary anyone of any race if I loved them). I didn't grow up in the US so I have a different perspective on things than Americans but I do represent the quintessential American s success story.

I don't pretend to know jack about any Asian culture. Its not really on my to do list either. I feel indifferent to Asian men & women in general. They are just people to me. . But I keep having these gorgeous Asian women coming after me, more so than woman of any other race. And I just didn't understand why really. Why Asian women? I guess they were the Asians you described. Princesses.

And no, I wasn't stupid enough

Your article was an eye opener.

]]> By: Anthony http://www.8asians.com/2007/10/09/who-is-the-asian-princess/comment-page-1/#comment-125305 Anthony Mon, 20 Jul 2009 06:08:45 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/2007/10/09/who-is-the-asian-princess/#comment-125305 I have lived in the US for 10 years now. I have had a problem with these women coming after me. I am 6', blonde, blue eyed, in good shape, articulate, a high level professional, told I am very good looking, funny and Married (to a white woman)! I have never sought out an Asian woman in my life. <br><br>I don't have anything against Asian women or any women of any race but for some reason these women have sought me out. I have had a number of them that have tried to be my "best friend." Want to hang out with me all the time at the fitness club, at the country club, hockey rink, or what have you. I have even had them frequent my company as clients excessively in an attempt to establish a friendship with me.<br><br>I don't like to try to be rude to anyone and have been neither overly friendly or flirtatious or rude to get rid of them. BTW they were ALL married too (to white men). And these men were not the best looking usually, while all of these women were very attractive. In retrospect I would say those men could not have married a white woman half as attractive as these asian women were.<br><br> I don't even live in a city with a high Asian population (Phoenix). I probably just represent the "white bread" stereotype success story. I am not sure if they see me as "moving up the food chain" or what but they all have let me know in no uncertain terms I can have what I want with them. Its weird. <br><br>I stumbled across your article and you described most of them to a tee. Married to white men, designer this and that, German car...Mercedes or BMW. They have all told me they would only marry a white man (which I find odd, I would mary anyone of any race if I loved them). I didn't grow up in the US so I have a different perspective on things than Americans but I do represent the quintessential American s success story. <br><br>I don't pretend to know jack about any Asian culture. Its not really on my to do list either. I feel indifferent to Asian men & women in general. They are just people to me. . But I keep having these gorgeous Asian women coming after me, more so than woman of any other race. And I just didn't understand why really. Why Asian women? I guess they were the Asians you described. Princesses.<br><br>And no, I wasn't stupid enough<br><br>Your article was an eye opener. I have lived in the US for 10 years now. I have had a problem with these women coming after me. I am 6', blonde, blue eyed, in good shape, articulate, a high level professional, told I am very good looking, funny and Married (to a white woman)! I have never sought out an Asian woman in my life.

I don't have anything against Asian women or any women of any race but for some reason these women have sought me out. I have had a number of them that have tried to be my “best friend.” Want to hang out with me all the time at the fitness club, at the country club, hockey rink, or what have you. I have even had them frequent my company as clients excessively in an attempt to establish a friendship with me.

I don't like to try to be rude to anyone and have been neither overly friendly or flirtatious or rude to get rid of them. BTW they were ALL married too (to white men). And these men were not the best looking usually, while all of these women were very attractive. In retrospect I would say those men could not have married a white woman half as attractive as these asian women were.

I don't even live in a city with a high Asian population (Phoenix). I probably just represent the “white bread” stereotype success story. I am not sure if they see me as “moving up the food chain” or what but they all have let me know in no uncertain terms I can have what I want with them. Its weird.

I stumbled across your article and you described most of them to a tee. Married to white men, designer this and that, German car…Mercedes or BMW. They have all told me they would only marry a white man (which I find odd, I would mary anyone of any race if I loved them). I didn't grow up in the US so I have a different perspective on things than Americans but I do represent the quintessential American s success story.

I don't pretend to know jack about any Asian culture. Its not really on my to do list either. I feel indifferent to Asian men & women in general. They are just people to me. . But I keep having these gorgeous Asian women coming after me, more so than woman of any other race. And I just didn't understand why really. Why Asian women? I guess they were the Asians you described. Princesses.

And no, I wasn't stupid enough

Your article was an eye opener.

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