Funny thing happened this last weekend.
See, the whole Asian guy, white girl thing? It’s even more uncommon in the South.
But yet, in the last couple of years, gradually the number of couples where the male is Asian, and the female is Caucasian has increased. Even here. So when I saw an attractive couple at Target this last weekend in this sequence, both couples kind of looked at each other strangely for a second before moving on. It’s not incredibly crazy, but you can guarantee that this trend has definitely taken its time to actually move forward.
And from an Asian guy’s perspective, whom has only dated white girls all his life, I have to say that this is at least a very good sign for Asian guys in general. That means that at some point, those white girls found out about the ten reasons why they should be dating Asian guys. Either that or we emit some sort of “we’re available and we’re awesome” type aura finally. Either way, I can’t wait to wait another couple years to tell you where the trend has gone.
If things go as well as they’re going in the last five years, we’ll be seeing a lot more little mixed babies soon. That’s right… look out Russell Wong, there’s gonna be a new generation of exotic hotties.
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Bo wrote:
It’s always funny when my partner (who is white) and I hang out with his sister (also white) and her boyfriend. You see, my partner and I are the fairly-common white-guy/asian-girl combo. His sister and her boyfriend, however, are the less-common white-girl/asian-guy combo. People always assume that the siblings are a couple, and we asians are another. We get the most confused, dumb-founded looks when we all hangout together.
Posted on 04-Dec-07 at 11:55 am | Permalink
Jesse! wrote:
That’s hilarious Bo!
I’ve been making a note of Asian dude/White girl couples around San Francisco and it’s definitely something to note. Just saw one last night and in the biking community, I tend to see it a lot… not sure why…
Posted on 04-Dec-07 at 1:45 pm | Permalink
Eugene wrote:
I really resisting commenting on this blog entry but I felt I had to lay down my two cents.
Not to be negative or anything, but I’m not sure why this particular “trend” is worth noting. You don’t see many people noting the asian american girl / asian american guy combo. And yeah, I understand the complaints of asian american guys: “Why are there so many asian girls with white guys?” I don’t know. Ask the asian girls.
Personally, I don’t see why I need my awesomeness to be validated by the person I date. Shit, do we need to make a list of why Asian guys are awesome to know that we’re awesome. It is like reading an insecure classified ad in the dating section. Maybe that is the stigma of Asian American man. Maybe it isn’t our fault, but it is all those images in the media. But, yo, in the end, I’m awesome because of who I am.
But that’s my perspective.
Posted on 04-Dec-07 at 1:58 pm | Permalink
darren wrote:
I always find posts like this kind of amusing since I am the son of a Japanese man and caucasian woman who have been married since 1962. I guess my parents were just way ahead of their time?
Posted on 04-Dec-07 at 4:33 pm | Permalink
John wrote:
Having gone to business school in the Research Triangle Park (North Carolina), there are definitely not that many Asian Americans in the area - especially if you don’t count undergraduate and graduate students attending the local university of Duke, UNC and NC State. So any Asian-White couple combination will be a lot different. For those Asian Americans who have never lived outside the West Coast or metro areas with a lot of Asians, I don’t think you realize how much this stands out.
Hell, I remember working in Connecticut right out of college and when I first started, my co-workers were asking me where I was *really* from (no, where my parents were originally from - Taiwan).
Posted on 04-Dec-07 at 9:04 pm | Permalink
darkmoon wrote:
The point of the post, like John said… was that… if you see this happening in the South? Wow. It’s come a long ways then. The South picks up trends slowly. There’s a running joke here about how we’re like five years behind everyone else.
Either way, the point was that while it does stand out…. there are more and more actually coming around. And that’s pretty damn cool when you think about the fact that no more than fifty years ago, this was tremendously rare, if at all.
Bible Belt wise, Asians are now being more and more integrated in… even through dating. And if that’s not at least a little progressive, I don’t know what it is. No longer are we the hardworking immigrants that keep to themselves and such. Now, some of those hardcore Southerners have to contend with us being in-laws and such. And that fact is pretty refreshing. It means that everywhere else, ya’ll metro peeps probably see it a lot more.
Believe me. I grew up in the Seattle area. The South was a shock when I moved here, and RTP where John was, is actually a lot more progressive than where I am located currently.
Posted on 05-Dec-07 at 12:03 am | Permalink
Bertie wrote:
Having gone to business school in the Research Triangle Park (North Carolina), there are definitely not that many Asian Americans in the area - especially if you don’t count undergraduate and graduate students attending the local university of Duke, UNC and NC State. So any Asian-White couple combination will be a lot different. For those Asian Americans who have never lived outside the West Coast or metro areas with a lot of Asians, I don’t think you realize how much this stands out.
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You’re joking right? I grew up in Chapel Hill, and interracial dating with respect to Asian Americans was pretty expected. Because there were so few Asian Americans, Asian Americans tended to date non-Asian Americans. And the RTP area is not the type of place where anyone would raise an eyebrow about interracial relationships.
The RTP area, especially Chapel Hill/Carrboro and Durham is the most progressive area in North Carolina (just look at a red/blue map by county). Jesse Helms once said that a fence should be built around Chapel Hill and that Chapel Hill should be turned into a zoo, if that tells you anything. And the RTP itself has the largest concentration of PhDs in the state.
The rest of the south I can’t speak for, but Chapel Hill/Carrboro, Durham, Cary, Raleigh… those towns/cities are pretty open-minded and progressive. I will even make the bold (and accurate) statement that Carrboro is right around where Berkeley, CA is in terms of politics/views.
Posted on 05-Dec-07 at 7:32 am | Permalink
Ron wrote:
The guy in the picture scares me.
Posted on 05-Dec-07 at 9:08 am | Permalink
John wrote:
Bertie,
Yes, RTP is progressive. But if you don’t count a lot of the transplants who go to college in RTP, I don’t think that there are too many Asians. Maybe I am wrong - but that definitely was my feeling when I lived two brief years in Durham.
Posted on 05-Dec-07 at 1:18 pm | Permalink
darkmoon wrote:
lol. I wouldn’t go as far as to say Carrboro is as progressive as Berkeley. lol. And believe me… I know a lot of people from Carrboro. *laugh* I should ask Ruby if she agrees with that from Orange Politics. There are very progressive people such as her…. but we are still talking about the South.
RTP is still transplant central. Cary is a rich retirement community. heh. Unfortunately, RTP is sitll Southern and doesn’t really represent the rest of NC. Seeing that 90% of NC is actually rural, and non-urban. lol. Only 10 counties of about 100 that are considered urban counties.
Posted on 05-Dec-07 at 11:23 pm | Permalink
Bertie wrote:
Well I lived 15 years of my life in Chapel Hill/Carrboro, and I’m going to maintain that if Carrboro were somehow lifted from the earth and transported to Cambridge, MA or Berkeley, CA, it would fit in quite nicely.
http://impeachpac.org/carrboro
http://www.nbc17.com/midatlantic/ncn/news.apx.-content-articles-NCN-2007-07-23-0021.html
http://www.carrboro.com/outandelected/
http://www.city-data.com/forum/raleigh-durham-chapel-hill-cary/35749-best-gay-friendly-neighborhoods-chapel-hill.html
http://skreened.com/bluetowns/rxfokavsokqfzcddscxb
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carrboro
Let’s put it this way. When I grew up in the bubble that was Chapel Hill/Carrboro, the towns were so liberal (okay, possibly even leftist) that, I erroneously believed that I was a conservative.
(Everything is relative.)
Posted on 06-Dec-07 at 8:19 am | Permalink
darkmoon wrote:
*laugh*
And Chapel Hill and Carrboro wouldn’t be anything without UNC bringing those Asians in at some point. lol. It is very liberal though. I’d agree with that statement. But having been to both Cambridge, and Berkeley? *laugh* No way.
You try walking naked through Carrboro and see if you won’t get arrested. lol. Heck, you would in Cambridge. hah.
Posted on 06-Dec-07 at 8:39 am | Permalink
Bertie wrote:
What was the original topic of this thread again? Ah, who cares. Carrboro represent! HOLLAAA!!!
(P.S. Every winter - midnight before exams - Harvard students run through the area of Cambridge around Harvard naked. It’s called “Primal Scream.” But I would agree with the statement that one would get arrested for walking around Cambridge naked any other time. And probably Carrboro too.)
Posted on 06-Dec-07 at 9:35 am | Permalink
Dragonstyle wrote:
that top 10 list is ok, but this one is way better
top 10 reasons NOT to date an asian guy:
10) An average guy is like, pg 13 material. Now asian guys, they are ATLEAST for adults 65 years old and up only. Viewer discretion is mandatory.
My girlfriend and her hot sister is in the bath right now and my girl’s like “hey Dragonstyle, I’m horny. come over here honey.”
9) We too sexy. White girls can’t handle us
I’m like, “not right now hon, I’m writing a top 10 list”
7) screw this i’m going to the threesome
6)
woot asians!
Posted on 20-Jan-08 at 12:58 am | Permalink
realist wrote:
When most Asian guys say that its hard dating white girls they mean that its hard dating white girls that are as PRETTY as the Asian girls they can get. Its not hard for Asian guys to date white girls but theres a standard. Why would an Asian guy date a normal white girl when they can date a much hotter Asian Girl.
I dont know why Asian guys can date beautiful Asian girls but have a harder time with really pretty white girls. Asian guys do have to work a bit harder with really pretty white girls. Maybe its the lack of representation in movies, magazines, music.. I dont know.
For white guys and black guys its completely opposite. I think that we can all agree that white and black guys find asian girls exotic and different. And to them dating something “different” or “exotic” is beautiful regardless of what she really looks like or what her personality is. Some of the asian girls they date even have a hard time speaking english. But again it goes back to dating something exotic and different so they dont mind the accent.
Most Asian guys wont date a white girl just to date one. If she is hot and the white girl is into him then yes they’ll date. You probably wont see so many asian guys dating white girls as you see white/black guys dating asian girls but when you do see a white girl with an asian guy shes usually pretty good looking.
Posted on 16-Jun-08 at 12:26 pm | Permalink
Mike wrote:
Realist,
You’ve got it right on. It’s not about getting any white girl, it’s about dating the hot ones.
I grew up in Florida where I always dated hot white girls (knew very few Asians and no other Asians in school). Then I went to college in the Northeast where I realized that getting a hot white girl to date you was really hard.
The point is there are a few white girls out there with an Asian fetish or are not as attractive…but who wants to date an anime freak or someone you don’t find attractive. Personally, a white girl who is obsessed with Asian culture freaks me out.
On the flip side, it’s much easier for me to date attractive Asian women. I’ll admit that I’ve seen Asian guys who walk around like they’ve won something when they date a white girl–I’m only impressed if the girl is hot (Ben, I hope your gf has an amazing personality).
The Asian girl/white guy thing doesn’t bother me that much. I think that most Asian guys wouldn’t be bothered by it if the flip side was just as common. In fact, when I see an unattractive Asian girl with a good looking white guy I think “good for her and what is he thinking?” But it’s not about race…it’s about the fact that there is one more attractive girl out there that hasn’t been taken. I don’t blame the unattractive Asian girl if she dates a guy with an Asian fetish…I’m wondering where are all the attractive white girls with Asian fetishes looking to date ANY Asian guy.
I sincerely apologize for any crudeness in my post. I understand that there are statements that could be considered misogynistic but these statements only reflect initial criteria used in dating–attractiveness.
Posted on 24-Jul-08 at 2:14 pm | Permalink
Art wrote:
As a Asian american guy married to a wf in the South I object to the idea that progressive (liberal)=open minded about race. Some of the most open minded non-racist people I know are conservatives.
Posted on 01-Sep-08 at 5:28 am | Permalink