I find it very difficult to believe that this child who was adopted at 4 months, had an attachment disorder. if she were adopted later, maybe. but 4 months is very very young. And per wiki, RAD usually occurs from abrupt neglect at 6 months to 3 years which would be 2 months AFTER they adopted her. Thus, I think the neglect happened after they had their own biological children.

Regardless, you don’t return an adopted child 7 years later. You suck it up. But perhaps better for this kid that they did give her up rather than live in a loveless family. Hopefully someone will want to adopt a 7 y/o, though now she has been neglected and given RAD by this couple.

It is very suspicious that they never got her citizenship in the same country as her parents and that she was never taught her parents mother tongue. I believe the nanny. Had the parents spent any time with her, Jade would have picked up their language.

I find it very difficult to believe that this child who was adopted at 4 months, had an attachment disorder. if she were adopted later, maybe. but 4 months is very very young. And per wiki, RAD usually occurs from abrupt neglect at 6 months to 3 years which would be 2 months AFTER they adopted her. Thus, I think the neglect happened after they had their own biological children.

Regardless, you don’t return an adopted child 7 years later. You suck it up. But perhaps better for this kid that they did give her up rather than live in a loveless family. Hopefully someone will want to adopt a 7 y/o, though now she has been neglected and given RAD by this couple.

It is very suspicious that they never got her citizenship in the same country as her parents and that she was never taught her parents mother tongue. I believe the nanny. Had the parents spent any time with her, Jade would have picked up their language.

I read a recent Newsweek article about international adoption gone wrong and the story is very sad. My impression from reading the article is that many of these parents choose international adoption expecting a perfect child. When people decide to have children, they must prepare for the unexpected. Just because you can pick a child, that does not mean that they child is without problems. I agree that there are adoption agencies that do not provide full disclosure of the child’s condition. However, there are many disorders such as autism, childhood disintegrative disorder, and Asperger syndrome that cannot be diagnosed until the child is older (2-5 years or even when they are teenagers for aspergers). When a child is adopted when he/she is a baby, there is no way developmental disorders can be detected.

Adoption agencies must do a better job in screening prospective parents. However, It is prospective parents responsibilities to study the positive and negative of adoption. I hear a lot of complaints from parents that agencies do not prepare the parents for potential behavior problems such as RAF. In my opinion, it is parents’ responsibilities to familiarize themselves about the issues.

I have a daughter who is disabled. I understand the challenges of raising an emotionally disabled child. My child was born healthy without complications. At 15 months she lost her language and at 2 years old she was diagnosed with severe autism. No doctor gave parents warnings when you decided to have a child about the chances of having a disabled child. Autism is still such a mysterious disorder that no one knows what causes it. Sometimes things just happen. What saddens me the most from the Newsweek article is how some people justified the reason for killing a child. This is an excerpt from the article:

“But Joyce Sterkel, who runs the Ranch for Kids, a Montana boarding school for disturbed international adoptees, says she’s come to see the parents as well as the kids as victims in these tragic cases. “It’s a horrible thing, but I understand how some people end up killing these kids,” she says. “They have no empathy, no affection, no love. My heart goes out to these parents because they don’t know what to do.”

Some characteristics of the disorder are similar to autism. It upset us parents with disabled children that there are people who find it “understandable” to kill children with emotional disorders. The child is the victim here.

I read a recent Newsweek article about international adoption gone wrong and the story is very sad. My impression from reading the article is that many of these parents choose international adoption expecting a perfect child. When people decide to have children, they must prepare for the unexpected. Just because you can pick a child, that does not mean that they child is without problems. I agree that there are adoption agencies that do not provide full disclosure of the child’s condition. However, there are many disorders such as autism, childhood disintegrative disorder, and Asperger syndrome that cannot be diagnosed until the child is older (2-5 years or even when they are teenagers for aspergers). When a child is adopted when he/she is a baby, there is no way developmental disorders can be detected.

Adoption agencies must do a better job in screening prospective parents. However, It is prospective parents responsibilities to study the positive and negative of adoption. I hear a lot of complaints from parents that agencies do not prepare the parents for potential behavior problems such as RAF. In my opinion, it is parents’ responsibilities to familiarize themselves about the issues.

I have a daughter who is disabled. I understand the challenges of raising an emotionally disabled child. My child was born healthy without complications. At 15 months she lost her language and at 2 years old she was diagnosed with severe autism. No doctor gave parents warnings when you decided to have a child about the chances of having a disabled child. Autism is still such a mysterious disorder that no one knows what causes it. Sometimes things just happen. What saddens me the most from the Newsweek article is how some people justified the reason for killing a child. This is an excerpt from the article:

“But Joyce Sterkel, who runs the Ranch for Kids, a Montana boarding school for disturbed international adoptees, says she’s come to see the parents as well as the kids as victims in these tragic cases. “It’s a horrible thing, but I understand how some people end up killing these kids,” she says. “They have no empathy, no affection, no love. My heart goes out to these parents because they don’t know what to do.”

Some characteristics of the disorder are similar to autism. It upset us parents with disabled children that there are people who find it “understandable” to kill children with emotional disorders. The child is the victim here.

But apparently, the Dutch public doesn’t need anyone to tell them this. They’re more than just a little outraged over there and we can at least take comfort in knowing this couples’ political careers are over and they’ll be facing criminal investigations.

But apparently, the Dutch public doesn’t need anyone to tell them this. They’re more than just a little outraged over there and we can at least take comfort in knowing this couples’ political careers are over and they’ll be facing criminal investigations.