I agree with that point (that you can blend in and stand out at same time). But the fact of the matter is that immigrants don’t want to stand out, even after they blend in. I disagree that effeminate men can’t blend in. It’s one thing to be quiet and soft spoken. In fact, Gackt (who isn’t gay) is very effeminate, and yet he keeps to himself and his personal life very guarded. On the other hand, you have someone like Perez Hilton that goes all out.

Again, another east vs. west culturally.

But again, you of all people if anything, represent western culture way more so than eastern. I don’t represent eastern either, but I do understand where they come from and why they do so. I’ve had long conversations with friends and family about it before and there is a lot of why people like to do so.

Unfortunately, everyone makes the topic like it’s supposed to be black and white and if you’re right, then they’re wrong… or vice versa. That’s the problem that I see, even in this discussion. There is an obvious disconnect between east vs. west, and both viewpoints are right, correct, incorrect, or whatever. In the end, it’s just that when you bring both together, it’s no wonder that people get angry since no one sits down and looks at environment from the perspective of the other side.

I agree with that point (that you can blend in and stand out at same time). But the fact of the matter is that immigrants don’t want to stand out, even after they blend in. I disagree that effeminate men can’t blend in. It’s one thing to be quiet and soft spoken. In fact, Gackt (who isn’t gay) is very effeminate, and yet he keeps to himself and his personal life very guarded. On the other hand, you have someone like Perez Hilton that goes all out.

Again, another east vs. west culturally.

But again, you of all people if anything, represent western culture way more so than eastern. I don’t represent eastern either, but I do understand where they come from and why they do so. I’ve had long conversations with friends and family about it before and there is a lot of why people like to do so.

Unfortunately, everyone makes the topic like it’s supposed to be black and white and if you’re right, then they’re wrong… or vice versa. That’s the problem that I see, even in this discussion. There is an obvious disconnect between east vs. west, and both viewpoints are right, correct, incorrect, or whatever. In the end, it’s just that when you bring both together, it’s no wonder that people get angry since no one sits down and looks at environment from the perspective of the other side.

However, this does not mean he cannot stand out in other ways, like on the basketball court or in school or [fill in the blank].

However, this does not mean he cannot stand out in other ways, like on the basketball court or in school or [fill in the blank].

So in not seeing that both methodologies can lead to the same result, but through different means, each side is ignorant of the other side.

That does sort of tie into the above that I wrote, but I think all in all, it’s more of a East meets West thing. Unfortunately, as children of immigrants, we get the most frustrating job of trying to make both ends meet since we’re stuck in both cultures.

So in not seeing that both methodologies can lead to the same result, but through different means, each side is ignorant of the other side.

That does sort of tie into the above that I wrote, but I think all in all, it’s more of a East meets West thing. Unfortunately, as children of immigrants, we get the most frustrating job of trying to make both ends meet since we’re stuck in both cultures.