The only men I can really get is just within my own race. Only then would I at least not be treated as a fetish and instead, a person. I don’t mind dating within my own race but I’d like to know what else is out there, instead of getting cut out of rest of the gay world. Sure I could wait around and hoping to find another black guy who has a similar personality to mine. But that would be limiting.

I wanted to date an Asian guy, but when I go browsing around, I did find those who like to stick to that stereotype. Much like the black men who wanted to just be a top. Now it seems these two races share something in common. They can be labeled as sub and dom. Whats even worse it seems like a majority of men want to date Caucasian. There is hardly any mixing and mingling and bringing up these issues will deem you as “another guy who got rejected from a white guy.”

I’d love to find an Asian top who were into black guys. But I know the possibilities are just completely rare. Or non-existent. If they are out there I’d love to see them pop up. The same would go for a white guy who wants a black guy (not to fulfill that rape fetish) rather than to take on the role of the dominate one.

Sad reality of it all, it seems people enjoy these stereotypes if it benefits them. For those that are opposite of it, well looks like you are going to be searching for your match for a long time.

The first pet peeve when an Asian man goes for a Caucasian man is mainly because the AM will only settle for the next one coming his way. That was my flaw. I never had confidence in my own attractiveness. I never loved my body, never loved my sexuality, never loved my skin colour, never loved my average Asian penis. Now, I love myself because you would only find love IF AND ONLY IF you love yourself. Therefore, these Asian men need to start loving themselves and think of themselves other than sexual objects to the common gay male. The second and last pet peeve is the fact that many Asian males are competing for the Caucasian males. Competition leads to malice and objection as desperate bitter bitches.

Finally, I hope my comments do not offend anyone.

Enjoy.

Trying not to date Asians in Hawaii was like trying not to wear shoes through a ghetto. Not going to happen, lol. But to say the least. My most successful relationships have been with Asian men. Not saying I’m a rice person or whatever they call people that always end up with Asians, but somehow the only people that talked to me and talk to me seriously have been Asian. Maybe because I’m light-skinned, so that makes me the safe black guy to try out. Maybe because I don’t use the n-word, I do a bunch of testosterone-driven activities, or because I like learning about other people to find our similarities. Who knew black guys and Vietnamese have so much in common. I even like fish sauce now.

I try my hardest to give everyone a fair chance just like I think I deserve. But anyhow, my longest relationships have been with Asian males. All from Hawaii except one. On the mainland, the mind frames are a lot different. You’re likely to see a 40 year old white guy with an 18 year old asian. Just because its more acceptable by his family. I see a lot of Asian-Asian relationships, but more commonly you’ll see Asian-White here as its just about the only thing you’ll find on the internet and on tv. Like the other commenter said, in Hawaii it was looked down upon if you dated a white guy and even dating a black guy was sorta weird.. but I blended well for some reason. Probably cause I looked Filipino until I said something.

As I said before, I like the article. But I don’t think its too much of a taboo to date your own race. Just don’t fall into the trap of thinking you’re inferior to another to the point where you judge people solely on their race. Make up your mind about the person using their personality, not their race.

Thanks again getting back to me jeff