Comments on: Creating Your Own Surrogate Family http://www.8asians.com/2009/01/14/creating-your-own-family/ Sat, 21 Nov 2009 16:53:47 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Eugene http://www.8asians.com/2009/01/14/creating-your-own-family/comment-page-1/#comment-114387 Eugene Sat, 28 Feb 2009 02:51:05 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2511#comment-114387 So you wanted to choose a Caucasian then? As opposed to Chinese? I'm very interested to learn that children was the answer. I wonder why that is the case. It seems to be often the case. As in the Wedding Banquet. Would love talk to you more offline. You can get at my e-mail or ask Ernie. We've exchanged some e-mails before. So you wanted to choose a Caucasian then? As opposed to Chinese?

I’m very interested to learn that children was the answer. I wonder why that is the case. It seems to be often the case. As in the Wedding Banquet.

Would love talk to you more offline. You can get at my e-mail or ask Ernie. We’ve exchanged some e-mails before.

]]> By: Tim http://www.8asians.com/2009/01/14/creating-your-own-family/comment-page-1/#comment-114374 Tim Fri, 27 Feb 2009 21:58:08 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2511#comment-114374 @Eugene: When I turned 30 my parents sat me down in a room and asked me if I was ever going to get married, that's when I had to "officially" come out to them. But really it wasn't until I made the decision to have a child that they really came around. I think having a child took some of the stigma out of it. Our daughter was born when I was almost 38 years old. And of course my parents obviously came around enough to be willing to live with us. Yes, I provided the genetic material, but that was more a case of my partner already having biological children from a previous marriage. The egg was provided by an anonymous egg donor that we chose together. There are firms that specialize in egg donors, and have "catalogs" you can choose from based on ethnicity, height, school scores, etc. What's interesting about this is there are few Asian egg donors, and the few that there are, charge a steep premium. The actual process in choosing the donor is really hard, much harder than we expected. In the end we chose an egg donor based on her interview questions, and ethnic background. @Eugene: When I turned 30 my parents sat me down in a room and asked me if I was ever going to get married, that’s when I had to “officially” come out to them. But really it wasn’t until I made the decision to have a child that they really came around. I think having a child took some of the stigma out of it. Our daughter was born when I was almost 38 years old. And of course my parents obviously came around enough to be willing to live with us.

Yes, I provided the genetic material, but that was more a case of my partner already having biological children from a previous marriage. The egg was provided by an anonymous egg donor that we chose together. There are firms that specialize in egg donors, and have “catalogs” you can choose from based on ethnicity, height, school scores, etc. What’s interesting about this is there are few Asian egg donors, and the few that there are, charge a steep premium. The actual process in choosing the donor is really hard, much harder than we expected. In the end we chose an egg donor based on her interview questions, and ethnic background.

]]> By: Eugene Shih http://www.8asians.com/2009/01/14/creating-your-own-family/comment-page-1/#comment-114360 Eugene Shih Fri, 27 Feb 2009 18:25:30 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2511#comment-114360 Sounds like a wonderful Wedding Banquet-like story? Thanks for sharing. I have more questions though. Like, how long did it take for your parents to come around? And clearly you provided the sperm. How did you find the egg? Sounds like a wonderful Wedding Banquet-like story? Thanks for sharing. I have more questions though. Like, how long did it take for your parents to come around? And clearly you provided the sperm. How did you find the egg?

]]> By: 8Asians.com » A Lack of Asian Surrogates http://www.8asians.com/2009/01/14/creating-your-own-family/comment-page-1/#comment-114068 8Asians.com » A Lack of Asian Surrogates Tue, 24 Feb 2009 03:29:49 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2511#comment-114068 [...] issue came to light since John Griffin posted a comment on my article about creating a surrogate family. His comment was essentially an advertisement looking for an Asian woman willing to act as a [...] [...] issue came to light since John Griffin posted a comment on my article about creating a surrogate family. His comment was essentially an advertisement looking for an Asian woman willing to act as a [...]

]]> By: John Griffin http://www.8asians.com/2009/01/14/creating-your-own-family/comment-page-1/#comment-113374 John Griffin Mon, 16 Feb 2009 21:24:32 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2511#comment-113374 My name is John Griffin. I am writing you because;We are seeking a surrogate mother. We live in the Rochester MN. If You are Asian * Your age is between 21 and 35. I’m seeking your help, My business partner and his wife are a loving Vietnamese couple. They can’t have children. They have gone to the Mayo fertility Clinic. No results! Contacted Minnesota Companies that deal in Surrogacy. The companies only have Caucasian , Latin’s, and Blacks available as Surrogate mothers. My partner and his wife prefer an Asian Lady. The surrogacy process allows the child to be biologically related to either one or (in the case of In Vitro Fertilization) both parents. The child is conceived because of their desire and dedication to becoming loving parents. Third Party Reproduction will involve a considerable financial and emotional investment on there part. The cost Includes: Doctor’s, Hospital, Lawyer’s, food, clothing, apartment and a cash compensation. If you are an Asian lady or know someone that might be interested in helping please give me a call at (507) 280-4031 or e-mail me at jgri554152@aol.com. Thank you in advance for your help. Sincerely John Griffin My name is John Griffin. I am writing you because;We are seeking a surrogate mother.
We live in the Rochester MN. If You are Asian * Your age is between 21 and 35.
I’m seeking your help, My business partner and his wife are a loving Vietnamese couple. They can’t have children. They have gone to the Mayo fertility Clinic. No results! Contacted Minnesota Companies that deal in Surrogacy. The companies only have Caucasian , Latin’s, and Blacks available as Surrogate mothers. My partner and his wife prefer an Asian Lady.
The surrogacy process allows the child to be biologically related to either one or (in the case of In Vitro Fertilization) both parents. The child is conceived because of their desire and dedication to becoming loving parents.
Third Party Reproduction will involve a considerable financial and emotional investment on there part. The cost Includes: Doctor’s, Hospital, Lawyer’s, food, clothing, apartment and a cash compensation.
If you are an Asian lady or know someone that might be interested in helping please give me a call at (507) 280-4031 or e-mail me at jgri554152@aol.com. Thank you in advance for your help.
Sincerely
John Griffin

]]> By: 8Asians.com » Mixed Couples Divorce In Droves: An Asian American/Asian Canadian Blog http://www.8asians.com/2009/01/14/creating-your-own-family/comment-page-1/#comment-112084 8Asians.com » Mixed Couples Divorce In Droves: An Asian American/Asian Canadian Blog Sat, 07 Feb 2009 03:01:43 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2511#comment-112084 [...] wrote in another 8asians post that in American culture you have a duty to God, Country, Self, and then Others, but in Chinese [...] [...] wrote in another 8asians post that in American culture you have a duty to God, Country, Self, and then Others, but in Chinese [...]

]]> By: Tim http://www.8asians.com/2009/01/14/creating-your-own-family/comment-page-1/#comment-110119 Tim Sat, 17 Jan 2009 15:29:06 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2511#comment-110119 Ah, but most culturally correct Chinese would call that a virtue. It's why extended families are much more common in Asian society than any other, because family comes before self. When I was in business school we looked at this study that talked about whether you would lie for a friend (not even family) if you knew they had done something wrong (like gone over the speed limit and crashed a car and killed someone), and if you would tell the truth (that they broke the law) in court or would you lie to protect your friend. Americans overwhelmingly said they would tell the truth. As you can imagine, Asians would lie for their friends. Ah, but most culturally correct Chinese would call that a virtue. It’s why extended families are much more common in Asian society than any other, because family comes before self. When I was in business school we looked at this study that talked about whether you would lie for a friend (not even family) if you knew they had done something wrong (like gone over the speed limit and crashed a car and killed someone), and if you would tell the truth (that they broke the law) in court or would you lie to protect your friend. Americans overwhelmingly said they would tell the truth. As you can imagine, Asians would lie for their friends.

]]> By: bobby http://www.8asians.com/2009/01/14/creating-your-own-family/comment-page-1/#comment-110084 bobby Sat, 17 Jan 2009 04:20:52 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2511#comment-110084 self-happiness is dead last. that's just sad. self-happiness is dead last. that’s just sad.

]]> By: stan http://www.8asians.com/2009/01/14/creating-your-own-family/comment-page-1/#comment-109848 stan Thu, 15 Jan 2009 06:58:41 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2511#comment-109848 Definitely. Especially for a lot of kids and people who grow up possibly estranged from their families for any number of reasons, the bonds we do create can become as strong as those of family. It will be some time before I think my own Chinese family would be comfortable with me and my (future) partner. Until then, I keep my friends close, and treat them like family. Definitely. Especially for a lot of kids and people who grow up possibly estranged from their families for any number of reasons, the bonds we do create can become as strong as those of family.

It will be some time before I think my own Chinese family would be comfortable with me and my (future) partner. Until then, I keep my friends close, and treat them like family.

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