Comments on: Mixed Couples Divorce In Droves http://www.8asians.com/2009/02/06/mixed-couples-divorce-in-droves/ A blog for Asian Americans Mon, 13 Feb 2012 01:41:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Ed http://www.8asians.com/2009/02/06/mixed-couples-divorce-in-droves/comment-page-2/#comment-143520 Ed Sat, 13 Nov 2010 15:56:46 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2604#comment-143520 To LittleBoots not sure if you actually read the article you're referring to or have habit of skewing statistics to fit your situation but Asian Female/White Male and Asian Male/White Female marriages both fail more often then Asian Male/Asian Female and almost as much as White Male/White Female marriages. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interracial_marriage_in_the_United_States To LittleBoots not sure if you actually read the article you’re referring to or have habit of skewing statistics to fit your situation but Asian Female/White Male and Asian Male/White Female marriages both fail more often then Asian Male/Asian Female and almost as much as White Male/White Female marriages.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interracial_marriage_in_the_United_States

]]> By: LittleBoots http://www.8asians.com/2009/02/06/mixed-couples-divorce-in-droves/comment-page-1/#comment-129701 LittleBoots Tue, 23 Feb 2010 11:18:30 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2604#comment-129701 I think it really boils down to whether you get along well, have the same goals in life, and are from a similar upbringing / background. By similar background, it doesn't necessarily mean same race.<br><br>My background is Chinese and my fiance is white, but I really do believe we are good together because we were both born and raised in the same city, went to the same high school, are of the same religion, class, and our families are pretty similar too (our mothers were both housewives and our fathers traveled a lot for business, and we both have younger siblings). <br><br>My ex (who was Asian -- Vietnamese) and I fought all the time, whereas my fiance is much more welcoming of my Chinese culture, going so far as to learn Cantonese and Chinese food (but he doesn't have an "asian fetish"). <br><br>I don't know if this counts as a credible source, but on the Wikipedia article about interracial marriages, it said that white-female / asian-male couples are more likely to divorce than white / white couples, while white-male / asian-female couples are less likely to divorce. I wonder if there is something to that? I think it really boils down to whether you get along well, have the same goals in life, and are from a similar upbringing / background. By similar background, it doesn't necessarily mean same race.

My background is Chinese and my fiance is white, but I really do believe we are good together because we were both born and raised in the same city, went to the same high school, are of the same religion, class, and our families are pretty similar too (our mothers were both housewives and our fathers traveled a lot for business, and we both have younger siblings).

My ex (who was Asian — Vietnamese) and I fought all the time, whereas my fiance is much more welcoming of my Chinese culture, going so far as to learn Cantonese and Chinese food (but he doesn't have an “asian fetish”).

I don't know if this counts as a credible source, but on the Wikipedia article about interracial marriages, it said that white-female / asian-male couples are more likely to divorce than white / white couples, while white-male / asian-female couples are less likely to divorce. I wonder if there is something to that?

]]> By: loverevolver4 http://www.8asians.com/2009/02/06/mixed-couples-divorce-in-droves/comment-page-1/#comment-129398 loverevolver4 Thu, 28 Jan 2010 20:25:45 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2604#comment-129398 I have always felt that mixed race couples with different cultural backgrounds often bond more and have more interesting connection then couples from the same background do. For example my husband is Buddhist and I a follower of the <a rel="follow" href="http://www.ucg.org/bible/jesus-birth" rel="nofollow">Jesus church</a> but this leads us to have very loving and interesting regular discussions about our faith. I have always felt that mixed race couples with different cultural backgrounds often bond more and have more interesting connection then couples from the same background do. For example my husband is Buddhist and I a follower of the Jesus church but this leads us to have very loving and interesting regular discussions about our faith.

]]> By: Mahonek http://www.8asians.com/2009/02/06/mixed-couples-divorce-in-droves/comment-page-1/#comment-128671 Mahonek Tue, 23 Jun 2009 00:11:25 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2604#comment-128671 So, as I read most of the previous comments the main words I rarely if ever heard was Love, Enjoy or Relate to someone regardless of there race or cultural background. Marrying inter-racially or inter-cuturally may provide a surface happiness to the outside world but inside, because marriage is such a difficult task in and of itself, the potential for misery and unhappiness will still rule the day. And really for those who speak to working at and putting forth effort to make a marriage work, in my opinion that foolishness. Don't we work hard enough at our jobs. Is marriage suppose to be a job or a beautiful experience requiring no "WORK"? So, as I read most of the previous comments the main words I rarely if ever heard was Love, Enjoy or Relate to someone regardless of there race or cultural background. Marrying inter-racially or inter-cuturally may provide a surface happiness to the outside world but inside, because marriage is such a difficult task in and of itself, the potential for misery and unhappiness will still rule the day. And really for those who speak to working at and putting forth effort to make a marriage work, in my opinion that foolishness. Don't we work hard enough at our jobs. Is marriage suppose to be a job or a beautiful experience requiring no “WORK”?

]]> By: Mahonek http://www.8asians.com/2009/02/06/mixed-couples-divorce-in-droves/comment-page-1/#comment-125088 Mahonek Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:11:25 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2604#comment-125088 So, as I read most of the previous comments the main words I rarely if ever heard was Love, Enjoy or Relate to someone regardless of there race or cultural background. Marrying inter-racially or inter-cuturally may provide a surface happiness to the outside world but inside, because marriage is such a difficult task in and of itself, the potential for misery and unhappiness will still rule the day. And really for those who speak to working at and putting forth effort to make a marriage work, in my opinion that foolishness. Don't we work hard enough at our jobs. Is marriage suppose to be a job or a beautiful experience requiring no "WORK"? So, as I read most of the previous comments the main words I rarely if ever heard was Love, Enjoy or Relate to someone regardless of there race or cultural background. Marrying inter-racially or inter-cuturally may provide a surface happiness to the outside world but inside, because marriage is such a difficult task in and of itself, the potential for misery and unhappiness will still rule the day. And really for those who speak to working at and putting forth effort to make a marriage work, in my opinion that foolishness. Don't we work hard enough at our jobs. Is marriage suppose to be a job or a beautiful experience requiring no “WORK”?

]]> By: George http://www.8asians.com/2009/02/06/mixed-couples-divorce-in-droves/comment-page-1/#comment-116661 George Fri, 20 Mar 2009 21:09:27 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2604#comment-116661 Actually, among immigrant Asians, white-Asian couples are more accepted than say an inter-Asian couple such as Japanese-Korean or Chinese-Vietnamese. I know a Korean family which disowned one of its daughters for marrying a Japanese but the white son-in-law was accepted. Actually, among immigrant Asians, white-Asian couples are more accepted than say an inter-Asian couple such as Japanese-Korean or Chinese-Vietnamese. I know a Korean family which disowned one of its daughters for marrying a Japanese but the white son-in-law was accepted.

]]> By: George http://www.8asians.com/2009/02/06/mixed-couples-divorce-in-droves/comment-page-1/#comment-140134 George Fri, 20 Mar 2009 21:09:00 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2604#comment-140134 Actually, among immigrant Asians, white-Asian couples are more accepted than say an inter-Asian couple such as Japanese-Korean or Chinese-Vietnamese. I know a Korean family which disowned one of its daughters for marrying a Japanese but the white son-in-law was accepted. Actually, among immigrant Asians, white-Asian couples are more accepted than say an inter-Asian couple such as Japanese-Korean or Chinese-Vietnamese. I know a Korean family which disowned one of its daughters for marrying a Japanese but the white son-in-law was accepted.

]]> By: George http://www.8asians.com/2009/02/06/mixed-couples-divorce-in-droves/comment-page-1/#comment-116659 George Fri, 20 Mar 2009 21:07:37 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2604#comment-116659 The issue here is not race but ethnicity. Here in the US, the couples described in the article would be considered the same race and would not raise an eyebrow. In this country you are mixed only if you are of a different race, black-white, black-Asian or white-Asian. Taiwanese marrying a Vietnamese does not count! The issue here is not race but ethnicity. Here in the US, the couples described in the article would be considered the same race and would not raise an eyebrow. In this country you are mixed only if you are of a different race, black-white, black-Asian or white-Asian. Taiwanese marrying a Vietnamese does not count!

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