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I’m Black female, most of my best friend in high school was Vietnamese, she couldn’t stand to see this go on! I remember she was dating her boyfriend (also Vietnamese) and her grandmother would try and push her to date a White guy. She’d read her cards and tell her that she saw a White man in her future. My best friend would come to me with horror stories about dreams she had that her grandmothers predictions came true. She finally told her grandmother “Well, I might marry one but I won’t like it!”. She married her boyfriend though.

I don’t mind interracial dating, but I have a major problem with race dating, meaning not dating due to genuine interest or love, but due to shallow stereotypes. In the Black community these days it’s not just Black men who are doing this anymore, Black women are too. I fell victim to it. I didn’t date a Black man until I reached my mid-20s and even then I was so full of negative stereotypes about my own race that I was always looking for the next best White man to come along. I finally realized that I was full of shit! Just because you date or marry White doesn’t mean your life will turn out right. But these days will all the advertisement pumping up the interracial with movies like “Something New” and “Pacific Heights”, etc., the belief among Black women is growing that White men are better.

Anyway, I could go on and on, but I really love your site. It’s good to see people out there dedicated to respecting and loving their own identity and culture, which of course doesn’t mean hating all others, but self-respect is just damn refreshing in theses days of loving and respecting anything but yourself.

I’m Black female, most of my best friend in high school was Vietnamese, she couldn’t stand to see this go on! I remember she was dating her boyfriend (also Vietnamese) and her grandmother would try and push her to date a White guy. She’d read her cards and tell her that she saw a White man in her future. My best friend would come to me with horror stories about dreams she had that her grandmothers predictions came true. She finally told her grandmother “Well, I might marry one but I won’t like it!”. She married her boyfriend though.

I don’t mind interracial dating, but I have a major problem with race dating, meaning not dating due to genuine interest or love, but due to shallow stereotypes. In the Black community these days it’s not just Black men who are doing this anymore, Black women are too. I fell victim to it. I didn’t date a Black man until I reached my mid-20s and even then I was so full of negative stereotypes about my own race that I was always looking for the next best White man to come along. I finally realized that I was full of shit! Just because you date or marry White doesn’t mean your life will turn out right. But these days will all the advertisement pumping up the interracial with movies like “Something New” and “Pacific Heights”, etc., the belief among Black women is growing that White men are better.

Anyway, I could go on and on, but I really love your site. It’s good to see people out there dedicated to respecting and loving their own identity and culture, which of course doesn’t mean hating all others, but self-respect is just damn refreshing in theses days of loving and respecting anything but yourself.

(Sorry, Jee, but he’s already taken.)

(Sorry, Jee, but he’s already taken.)