Comments on: Say My Name: Changing my Adoptive Name http://www.8asians.com/2009/03/27/say-my-name/ A blog for Asian Americans Sun, 12 Feb 2012 19:46:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Also-Known-As 15th Anniversary Adoptee Conference | 8Asians Events http://www.8asians.com/2009/03/27/say-my-name/comment-page-3/#comment-149828 Also-Known-As 15th Anniversary Adoptee Conference | 8Asians Events Fri, 15 Apr 2011 18:25:26 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2875#comment-149828 [...] her personal blog about changing her adoptive name, “Mary,” to her orphanage name, Chun-Soon. Re-posted on the Asian American forum 8asians.com, a melee ensued comprising over 140 heated comments in which the raw issues surrounding [...] [...] her personal blog about changing her adoptive name, “Mary,” to her orphanage name, Chun-Soon. Re-posted on the Asian American forum 8asians.com, a melee ensued comprising over 140 heated comments in which the raw issues surrounding [...]

]]> By: 8Asians.com » Chinese Adoptees: Stolen or Abandoned? http://www.8asians.com/2009/03/27/say-my-name/comment-page-3/#comment-126589 8Asians.com » Chinese Adoptees: Stolen or Abandoned? Sun, 20 Sep 2009 05:39:52 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2875#comment-126589 [...] stories come as no surprise in a complex situation like foreign adoption in America, where issues of culture, racial identity and misplaced intentions always come to play. Could life get even more complicated for these [...] [...] stories come as no surprise in a complex situation like foreign adoption in America, where issues of culture, racial identity and misplaced intentions always come to play. Could life get even more complicated for these [...]

]]> By: choidog http://www.8asians.com/2009/03/27/say-my-name/comment-page-3/#comment-128444 choidog Fri, 11 Sep 2009 03:19:36 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2875#comment-128444 @CSLi Well done! I was very impressed with your thoughtful response to "Kim". We've been silenced for two and half generations because of mindsets like Kim's. It's time for us to take our rightful place in the reconstruction of the Adoption machine. @CSLi Well done! I was very impressed with your thoughtful response to “Kim”. We've been silenced for two and half generations because of mindsets like Kim's. It's time for us to take our rightful place in the reconstruction of the Adoption machine.

]]> By: choidog http://www.8asians.com/2009/03/27/say-my-name/comment-page-3/#comment-126404 choidog Thu, 10 Sep 2009 20:19:36 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2875#comment-126404 @CSLi Well done! I was very impressed with your thoughtful response to "Kim". We've been silenced for two and half generations because of mindsets like Kim's. It's time for us to take our rightful place in the reconstruction of the Adoption machine. @CSLi Well done! I was very impressed with your thoughtful response to “Kim”. We've been silenced for two and half generations because of mindsets like Kim's. It's time for us to take our rightful place in the reconstruction of the Adoption machine.

]]> By: Allan http://www.8asians.com/2009/03/27/say-my-name/comment-page-3/#comment-125425 Allan Thu, 30 Jul 2009 15:12:18 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2875#comment-125425 Great post. Very thought-provoking. Now that you've changed your name, what will you do to change the way things are? Great post. Very thought-provoking. Now that you've changed your name, what will you do to change the way things are?

]]> By: btstormb2006 http://www.8asians.com/2009/03/27/say-my-name/comment-page-3/#comment-120236 btstormb2006 Wed, 22 Apr 2009 19:27:38 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2875#comment-120236 Chun-Soon Congratulations on YOUR decision to change your legal name! I think that as KADs we may share common threads, but equally important is our ability to have our own sense of self. Adoption experiences cannot always be lumped together, because we are individuals. No matter who says it to you, realize that you ALONE have the ability and the right to make decisions, which you feel are best for you. In turn, those who are not threatened or intimidated by you or your actions, will fully support you. Experience has shown me, no matter where you are (workplace, family, public places, etc), if someone is rude, belligerent or abusive, it is highly likely it is NOT about you, but rather that person and their own insecurities. You can only control what you do in life, and cannot control other people's responses. Kudos to you for taking a step towards your own personal healing! I wish you much continued peace and understanding throughout your journey! Chun-Soon

Congratulations on YOUR decision to change your legal name! I think that as KADs we may share common threads, but equally important is our ability to have our own sense of self. Adoption experiences cannot always be lumped together, because we are individuals. No matter who says it to you, realize that you ALONE have the ability and the right to make decisions, which you feel are best for you. In turn, those who are not threatened or intimidated by you or your actions, will fully support you. Experience has shown me, no matter where you are (workplace, family, public places, etc), if someone is rude, belligerent or abusive, it is highly likely it is NOT about you, but rather that person and their own insecurities. You can only control what you do in life, and cannot control other people’s responses. Kudos to you for taking a step towards your own personal healing! I wish you much continued peace and understanding throughout your journey!

]]> By: btstormb2006 http://www.8asians.com/2009/03/27/say-my-name/comment-page-3/#comment-140708 btstormb2006 Wed, 22 Apr 2009 19:27:00 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2875#comment-140708 Chun-Soon Congratulations on YOUR decision to change your legal name! I think that as KADs we may share common threads, but equally important is our ability to have our own sense of self. Adoption experiences cannot always be lumped together, because we are individuals. No matter who says it to you, realize that you ALONE have the ability and the right to make decisions, which you feel are best for you. In turn, those who are not threatened or intimidated by you or your actions, will fully support you. Experience has shown me, no matter where you are (workplace, family, public places, etc), if someone is rude, belligerent or abusive, it is highly likely it is NOT about you, but rather that person and their own insecurities. You can only control what you do in life, and cannot control other people's responses. Kudos to you for taking a step towards your own personal healing! I wish you much continued peace and understanding throughout your journey! Chun-Soon

Congratulations on YOUR decision to change your legal name! I think that as KADs we may share common threads, but equally important is our ability to have our own sense of self. Adoption experiences cannot always be lumped together, because we are individuals. No matter who says it to you, realize that you ALONE have the ability and the right to make decisions, which you feel are best for you. In turn, those who are not threatened or intimidated by you or your actions, will fully support you. Experience has shown me, no matter where you are (workplace, family, public places, etc), if someone is rude, belligerent or abusive, it is highly likely it is NOT about you, but rather that person and their own insecurities. You can only control what you do in life, and cannot control other people’s responses. Kudos to you for taking a step towards your own personal healing! I wish you much continued peace and understanding throughout your journey!

]]> By: MA http://www.8asians.com/2009/03/27/say-my-name/comment-page-3/#comment-118711 MA Wed, 08 Apr 2009 01:54:21 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=2875#comment-118711 I am late getting this but I did want to applaud your courage, Chun-Soon Li to take care of yourself. You ARE Korean, and I am highly offended by the person who said you came over with nothing but your genetics, as if that means you are not "real." Who you are is not something you can wash off. My daughter is Chinese and she is growing up here in the US in a close knit Chinese community. She spends at least 2 hrs most days of the week with Chinese people and on the weekends almost all day. She gets the food, language, customs, discipline, dance. Yes, my daughter misses her birth parents and has a lot of angst about that (just like any adoptee would- it is a HUGE loss), but to say she cannot grow up Chinese because she was adopted? That is insane. I am glad you are embracing your heritage! Who has a right to tell you how you should keep and nurture your own culture in yourself. No one. Good for you! I am late getting this but I did want to applaud your courage, Chun-Soon Li to take care of yourself. You ARE Korean, and I am highly offended by the person who said you came over with nothing but your genetics, as if that means you are not “real.” Who you are is not something you can wash off. My daughter is Chinese and she is growing up here in the US in a close knit Chinese community. She spends at least 2 hrs most days of the week with Chinese people and on the weekends almost all day. She gets the food, language, customs, discipline, dance. Yes, my daughter misses her birth parents and has a lot of angst about that (just like any adoptee would- it is a HUGE loss), but to say she cannot grow up Chinese because she was adopted? That is insane. I am glad you are embracing your heritage! Who has a right to tell you how you should keep and nurture your own culture in yourself. No one. Good for you!

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