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34 Comments to “On Matchmaking and Asian Male/White Female Interracial Relationships”

• Jason wrote:

  “Most Asian men feel they couldn’t handle Caucasian women,” she says. “In most Asian families, the man is in charge. Here it’s equal.”

  Seriously? She must be of the “older generation” since I’ve never felt this way. I’ve never had an inferiority complex with Caucasian women;

  Ben, I don’t think you read that quote correctly. I think Ma was saying that a lot of immigrant asian men want and expect their wives to be subservient to them, and they think that most American-born white women will not act that way. I don’t think it is an inferiority complex, they just don’t want deal with a woman who expects to be an equal partner in the relationship.

  The quote you should have picked up on was “Hardly any Caucasian women want to date Asian men, Ma says” which is not true at all.

  Posted on 03-May-09 at 12:09 pm | Permalink

• John wrote:

  I think Asian men also may feel to have a family obligation to date & marry an Asian woman. I know that was my father’s desire and preference.

  Additionally, in terms of inferiority complex, I thought maybe you were trying to say that maybe Asian men might feel as though they are inferior due to the stereotypes around Asian men in American society rather than like what Jason just commented on, having an equal partner.

  In this context, Asian men’s reluctance to ask or date white women would be due to the fact that they don’t believe they can. And this is only reinforced by the imbalance of WMAF vs. AMWF that an Asian man sees.

  The most prominent AMWF couple I’ve seen recently is Secretary of Energy Steven Chu with his white wife. I think what would be more surprising than a black president (half black, half white) and black first lady would be to have an Asian president with a white first lady!

  Posted on 03-May-09 at 12:40 pm | Permalink

• Dan wrote:

  “Most Asian men feel they couldn’t handle Caucasian women,” she says. “In most Asian families, the man is in charge. Here it’s equal.”

  2nd generation Asian men have absolutely no reason to feel the need to be more in charge of a relationship than what is expected within the norms of American male-female power dynamics in a relationship, so that’s quite a generalization to make.

  Posted on 03-May-09 at 3:10 pm | Permalink

• aj wrote:

  ^
  Yeah, but you guys are forgetting that Asian American girls are Americanized and open-minded, while Asian American men magically are not, and retain their old, somewhat misogynistic “Asian” values.

  I thought everyone knew this as seen here by the great members of 8asians.

  http://www.8asians.com/2007/08/11/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys-a-response/

  Posted on 03-May-09 at 5:51 pm | Permalink

• aj wrote:

  Oops, I forgot to add that what I said above only applies to straight asian men, as seen here, again, by the great members of this site. Straight Asian men FTL!

  http://www.8asians.com/2008/09/05/the-8asianscom-writers-talk-about-whether-john-cho-is-hot-or-not/

  Posted on 03-May-09 at 5:55 pm | Permalink

• Confuse-Us wrote:

  “Most Asian men feel they couldn’t handle Caucasian women,” she says. “In most Asian families, the man is in charge. Here it’s equal.”

  That’s pretty ignorant.

  Posted on 03-May-09 at 10:57 pm | Permalink

• Taiwanese Guy wrote:

  What we should be asking is what made us as East Asian Americans!? Why is it that we have to endure the PREJUDICE as 2nd Class Citizens as East Asian Americans? I do not see White Women Americans as a ticket to Higher Social-Economic Status especially those that are forcing me and others to Convert to Christian! Our High Social-Economic Status are “EARNED” from the CULTURE of EFFORTS and HARD WORKS embed into our East Asian Heritages!

  What does ‘American’ mean, anyways?
  http://politicoholic.com/2009/01/16/what-does-american-mean-anyways/

  Fighting for Depth….
  http://www.thecrimson.com/article.aspx?ref=515779

  Why there is not more East Asian American Managers?
  http://money.cnn.com/magazines/fortune/fortune_archive/1986/11/24/68318/index.htm

  Asian American Assimilation vs Acculturation….
  http://www.goldsea.com/Air/Issues/Identity/identity_30313.html

  All these InterRacial Datings are really doing is telling us East Asian Americans that unless we are WHITENING DOWN! We are just not AMERICAN ENOUGH! However, White Americans can always be proud of their British American Heritage, Irish American Heritage, French American Heritage, Italian American Heritage, German American Heritage, Israeli American Heritage, and so on! Why is that our East Asian Americans are treated as less Americans? Isn’t all the White Americans also Immigrants to this country at some point of American History!?

  Posted on 03-May-09 at 11:00 pm | Permalink

• Paul Z wrote:

  Taiwanese Guy: I don’t think we Asian Americans need “a ticket to higher socioeconomic status”, I think most of us already belong to the upper-middle class. I think Asian Americans make the most money out of all races. In my experiences, people now longer are treated by what they look like, they’re more treated on how they dress, speak, and act. Sometimes one of my friends say I “act white”, and I think it’s just some random ignorant self hate. I always tell them that I don’t “act white”, I act “upper-middle class American”.

  Ben: I just moved to NC a year ago from Washington DC, I DO understand that comparatively, being Asian American is almost like a “handicap” when it comes to attracting girls, comparing to DC where things are more like “level playing ground”. I currently am dating a white girl myself, and the only thing I can say about it, is that Asian American men need an unrealistic amount of confidence, and if they don’t even acknowledge race as an issue, others usually won’t either. PS, what part of NC do you live in?

  Posted on 04-May-09 at 10:45 am | Permalink

• jabb wrote:

  in hawaii, the most interracial state in america it is not un-common to see asian males w/ non-asian women. i think asian males are actually preferred in this region of our country.

  Posted on 04-May-09 at 10:55 am | Permalink

• Ben wrote:

  @Paul: Triad area. It’s on Google. haha.

  Posted on 04-May-09 at 11:01 am | Permalink

• Paul Z wrote:

  I actually live in Greensboro, I understand how BFE triad area really is.

  Posted on 04-May-09 at 11:17 am | Permalink

• Ben wrote:

  @Paul: Wow. Lived in GSO for the last 7 years. In W-S now since I’m getting married. But yeah, if it wasn’t for the local NAAAP chapter, I’d probably have very little contact with local Asian community. Maybe we’ll need to do an 8A Southern get-together. haha.

  Posted on 04-May-09 at 11:28 am | Permalink

• jaehwan wrote:

  Ben,

  Thanks for the article. I agree with you on your observation that her quote was ignorant. Given her clientele (”Ma’s business depends in large part upon white men who want to marry Asian women…”) and the people who usually comprise the demographic of privileged people who seek minority partners specifically beause of race, I’m not surprised that she has internalized those stereotypes. I mean, seriously, just because she has so few Asian men and White women dating through her service, is it logical for her to assume that such couplings don’t exist or don’t want to exist?

  By the way, this is very timely. I just had a podcast yesterday with one of your long-time members URB4N on the topic of interracial dating. I just posted it here:

  http://www.bigwowo.com/2009/05/podcast-urb4n-talks-about-ir/

  and I referenced your article. So thanks again.

  Posted on 04-May-09 at 12:01 pm | Permalink

• Paul Z wrote:

  Ben: I’ve been to a triad NAAAP dinner once due to a friend’s invitation, so I’ve probably met you before. In my one-time experiences, it feels a lot more like a “business networking” even than a “friendly get-together” – everyone started talking about their jobs and such. Just out of curiosity, do you feel like Asian males base most of their identity around their profession?

  Posted on 04-May-09 at 12:26 pm | Permalink

• xyb21 wrote:

  Just find a girl in the home country, same race, same culture and your kids might get a higher chance of perserving the language. here’s something, if no then don’t call yourself a Asian-American.

  Posted on 05-May-09 at 3:47 pm | Permalink

• Tristan wrote:

  @Ben and Paul,

  How do you guys like Greensboro?

  As someone who has spent my entire life here, I’ve grown tired of it. The young Asian American population around here is not at all accessible for me. My interest is in activism, and there’s not a whole lot of that going on around here.

  I’m finishing up undergrad at Guilford College, and thinking about a graduate program at UNC. On the other hand, I feel like living for a year or so on the West Coast might also put everything into perspective for me. From this site and others, I can tell that there are a ton more things going on out there that involve young APAs than around the Triad area.

  Posted on 05-May-09 at 8:23 pm | Permalink

• Ben wrote:

  @Tristan: At first Greensboro itself was a bit small when I moved here from Seattle area. But overall, after doing a lot of community work and participating in Leadership Greensboro et al, it’s actually been rather useful in the entirety. I’d never get the chance to do the same types of things in a bigger city. Activism wise and APA, you might have better luck on the west coast. But on the flip side? There are a lot of people to fight for, and this area is what you could call the “last stand” area.

  Amusingly, the reason I say that is because much of what I encounter here, is far from what I would say would happen in my old haunts back west, and most of 8A readership would probably scoff at some of the things that you are more likely to encounter here. Puts things into perspective though since with a lot of the good comes some of the bad. YMMV but I like the South. However, depending on your experiences, it might not be the most comfortable experience as an Asian American.

  Posted on 05-May-09 at 9:08 pm | Permalink

• Taiwanese Guy wrote:

  Tristan,

  “As someone who has spent my entire life here, I’ve grown tired of it. The young Asian American population around here is not at all accessible for me. My interest is in activism, and there’s not a whole lot of that going on around here.”

  Our Asian American Population made up like only 5% of total USA Population! That included the Muslim Asians as well! If we just count the East Asian American Population only, that would even be lower! I don’t think InterRacial Marriages are addressing our problems at all! It just sweep those DISCRIMINATIONS of our East Asian Americans under the Rugs again in America for the next East Asian Generation to worry about!!

  Paul Z,

  “unrealistic amount of confidence”

  What the hell is this BS Confidence!? That’s just like one of those BUSINESS BUZZ WORDS, which pretend to say something important! In reality, people that use it are clueless what it is really about, but it impress the hell out of their BOSS (Oh, some of those ideas are really UNWORKING SHIT)!

  A lot of our East Asian Brothers do not understand the INNER GAME OF DATING! All women out there are always testing if the MAN is a WUSS or not! The reason women do that is because when a woman is pregnant they would be defenseless! This is evolution built into the women’s subconscious mind!

  Another word, women look for a Strong Man (or act like one) even if he’s a JERK to many others out there! Women will always say that they want a NICE GUY! However, they will always choose the JERKS over the NICE GUYS (Doormat)! This is because JERKS give them the SEXUAL ATTRACTION they want!

  Of course, women don’t want a 100% JERK either! Those 100% JERKS will beat up on their Women (That’s WHY America is full of Single Mother)! Women want a NICE GUY really inside but are JERK outside! This is because when thing goes bad! She expecting the guy to stick his neck out for her! Understand!?

  This is why the GEEK and WUSSY PERSONA promoted on American Controlled Media will work against our East Asian Guys in most cases even through we have plenty of our guys that are like Bruce Lee and so on!

  Posted on 06-May-09 at 2:08 am | Permalink

• Ben wrote:

  “…we have plenty of our guys that are like Bruce Lee and so on!”

  lol. Wow. What a way to throw most of your argument out the window with the last phrase. You do realize that Bruce Lee had an interracial marriage right? And the fact that there’s single mothers doesn’t necessarily equate to men beating on their women. That’s like saying the crazy serial rapist was a man, so thus all men are crazy serial rapists. Faulty logic. Are there “100% JERKS”? Sure. But there’s a lot more to relationships. The number reason for divorce isn’t because the guy is a jerk. It’s because of finances.

  If you want to be active in activism, that’s great. All the best, but word of advice is don’t use that sort of logic. You might get laughed out the door.

  Posted on 06-May-09 at 3:34 am | Permalink

• Tristan wrote:

  @Ben,

  I definitely see a lot of communities around here for which I could advocate. The problem for me is that I’m adopted, and so that means there’s a barrier for access between me and the mostly-immigrant communities around Greensboro. I feel that living and interacting on the West Coast might give me a jumping-off point and let me become more comfortable with myself. Really, I kinda figure being out there might make me feel like I belong to a community, and then perhaps I can come back to places like NC and start doing some good work.

  @Taiwanese Guy,

  Dude, tone down the rhetoric a bit. I’m not sure to what part of my post you were responding, but be careful in the ways you typecast women. I understand just as well as anyone that there is a double standard in the media that debases Asian men and exoticizes Asian women as sexual objects. But to state what women want or should want and what they think etc. is pretty chauvinistic and robs our sisters of agency. There is no simple answer to the matter of interracial dating.

  Posted on 06-May-09 at 7:53 am | Permalink

• Paul Z wrote:

  I just moved here from DC about a year ago, and in DC, I ran with the “yuppy” crowd – upper middle class young single professionals. And in my experiences, the upper middle class of “this generation” rarely ever see color or race at all – they discriminate on other factors, such as how you speak, dress, etc. Now that I’m in back-woods NC, I feel the same way, but the only difference is that the “upper middle class” is only a very small percentage of people around me, instead of “everyone I come in contact with” in DC.

  Tristan: It doesn’t have to be the west coast – moved to DC or Manhattan, they both are much better than NC in this perspective.

  Taiwanese Guy: I’m guessing you’re from the Venusian Arts community (pick-up community), please don’t spread those types of ideas on male-female social dynamics without the whole explanation behind them, it’s cool to talk about it with other pick-up buddies about topics like that, but the things you just talk about, without the context around them, to mainstream society, makes you look like a weirdo. And the pickup community doesn’t need more “weird” representations of it.

  Posted on 06-May-09 at 9:27 am | Permalink

• Taiwanese Guy wrote:

  Mst Wht Grls r Chrstns n mrc! Mst f thr prnts wll lmst rqrd Cnvrsn t thr Rlgn fr th st sn Mn f thy vr rch th stg f Mrrg (sm strt Bbl Thmpng rlr thn tht f thy knw bt th st sn Mn)!

  Mny f Blck Mn whn thy ht t BG wll gt Wht Trphy Wf lk .J. Smpsn nd lv thr Blck Wmn! Tht’s whl mny f Wht Mn wnts st sn Trphy Wf bcs thy cnsdr thm t b Sbmssv nd sy, whch thy blvd tht LL st sn mrcn Wmn r dsprt t gt Wht Mn frm thr mrcn MD!?

  Hwvr, r st sn mrcn Mn sms t stck wth r st sn mrcn Wmn whn w d ht t BG s Dctrs (Twns Mn tht knw mrrd st s Wmn), Lwyrs, ngnrs (sm hr), Scntsts (Yn T. L mrrd t Brnc W), Bsnssmn, Sprt Strs (Chn-Mng Wng mrrd t Ch-Lng W), nd s n n gnrl!

  Posted on 06-May-09 at 12:46 pm | Permalink

• Taiwanese Guy wrote:

  Bn,

  “ll. Ww. Wht wy t thrw mst f yr rgmnt t th wndw wth th lst phrs. Y d rlz tht Brc L hd n ntrrcl mrrg rght? nd th fct tht thr’s sngl mthrs dsn’t ncssrly qt t mn btng n thr wmn. Tht’s lk syng th crzy srl rpst ws mn, s ths ll mn r crzy srl rpsts. Flty lgc. r thr “100% JRKS”? Sr. Bt thr’s lt mr t rltnshps. Th nmbr rsn fr dvrc sn’t bcs th gy s jrk. t’s bcs f fnncs.”

  s tht hw Blck Wmn dmp ths Blck Mn t thr bcs f FNNCS, whch s smthng r st sn Cpls dn’t hv prblm wth (FRGL tht w r)? >=P

  Dn’t thnk tht ‘m stpd! ntrnt s fll f FK st sn Ppl tht r nt wht thy sy tht thy rlly r (thr gl s t VLFD r st sn Mn wth FK st sn Wmn nd d th sm fr r st sn Wmn)! Ths ppl r pplyng dvd nd cnqr BS n r st sn Mn nd n r st sn Wmn t HT ch thrs (bcs thy wnt r st sn Mn t dt Nn-st sns s wll s r st sn Wmn t dt Nn-st sns)!

  s fr Brc L, ‘m nt gnst ntrrcl Dtng f tht’s wht sm f r st sn Mn (Wmn, t) r nt fr fndng Hlthy Rltnshps (Brc L nvr frgt hs sn Rt bcs h prmt t nlk th Wht Wshd sns)! Wht ‘m gnst s ths DRV t prmt ntrrcl Dtng ll vr th ntrnt vn f r st sn Mn my nt b ntrstd n t! wld rthr mrcns stp trt r st sn mrcns wth sch DSRPCT nd sch DSCRMNTN n th mrcn cntrlld Mss Md!

  nyhw, whn dd srch n th nt wth “st sn Mn Dtng st sn Wmn”, kpt gttng ths BS bt ntrrcl Dtng NW! f r st sn Mn dn’t d t, h gt SMLL DCK by BLCK WMN r h gt n NFRRTY CMPLX by WHT WMN!
  Whr r th sn mn nd Blck wmn cpls? (dtng, btfl, chldrn)….
  http://www.cty-dt.cm/frm/rltnshps/154146-whr-sn-mn-blck-wmn-cpls.html
  [Nn f r st sn MNY wll g fr WSTFL BLCK BTCHS! Kp dssng s n th NTRNT!!]

  Cn sn Gys vr Gt Wth Wht Grl?….
  http://www.mncch.cm/698842474/cn-sn-gys-vr-gt-wth–wht-grl/
  [Hw ftn r Wht Wmn vn skd t by st sn Mn? Th MRCN JWS ndrstnd tht th mrcn cnmc cn nt fnctn wtht r st sn Mn t ll! W mst nvr rtrn t st s t bcm cmpttrs! st sn Mn mst b Wht-Wshd DWN NW!!]

  Posted on 06-May-09 at 12:59 pm | Permalink

• Taiwanese Guy wrote:

  Pl Z,

  “’m gssng y’r frm th Vnsn rts cmmnty (pck-p cmmnty), pls dn’t sprd ths typs f ds n ml-fml scl dynmcs wtht th whl xplntn bhnd thm, t’s cl t tlk bt t wth thr pck-p bdds bt tpcs lk tht, bt th thngs y jst tlk bt, wtht th cntxt rnd thm, t mnstrm scty, mks y lk lk wrd. nd th pckp cmmnty dsn’t nd mr “wrd” rprsnttns f t.”

  Hh…. brly tch n ths sbjcts sch s Nr-Lngstc Prgrmmng, Ccky Hmr, Bdy Lnggs, nd s n! f st sn Mn wnts t pck-p Wht Wmn, thy hv t b wll-dctd n ths SCL SKLL STS! ctng lk WSSY NC GY (Drmt) s wht scrw mst f thm p n th frst plc! Ntcd hw Blck Wmn clld m RCST nd Wht Wmn clld m SHY nd LCK CNFDNC, yt thy ll stll wnts t gt wth m! f thy dn’t wnt t gt wth r st sn Mn, why wld thy bthr t cll s SHY nd RCST!! =)

  nyhw, wmn lkd t b TS (prt f FLRT prcss)! Ths s prt f CCKY HMR (rrgnt Hmr)! T TS s rlly t mk fn f Wmn! f t s T HRSH dn, sh’ll lbl th gy s n SSHL t JRK (sh my vn cll th PLC n tht gy s wll)! f t s dn JST RGHT, sh’ll thnk tht th gy s SWT GY, bt ths NC GYS rnd hr wll stll thnk tht gy s JRK! BLSHNG s whn th SMRT-SS GY dd hs jb crrctly!

  f t T WKLY dn, t’ll bcm Slf-Dprctng Hmr (mk fn f rslvs)! Ths s wht mst gys fll nt tht cn’t gt ny HT GRLS! Thy thnk tht mkng grls lgh TRN THM N! f crs, mrcn cntrlld Md wll lwys shw r st sn Mn n th Slf-Dprctng Hmr WYS s mch s pssbl t dgrd r st sn Mn t b lgh t!

  n yr frst pst t m….
  “Smtms n f my frnds sy “ct wht”, nd thnk t’s jst sm rndm gnrnt slf ht. lwys tll thm tht dn’t “ct wht”, ct “ppr-mddl clss mrcn”.”

  Dn’t vr qt ‘ctng Wht’ s bng sm knd f Hgh Scl Stts bcs t s nt frm r st sn Ppl’s Pnt f Vw! Mny f r LDR st sn Mn n mrcn nvr dptd n mrcn Nm (’m tlkng bt mny f r fthrs)! Thy spk brkn nglsh! Thy drv 2nd hnd crs! Thy r Mllnr tdy! Thy dn’t FK t lk ths tht drv xpnsv Cr, wr xpnsv Clths, lv xpnsv Hs, nd r jst BRK (n dbt) f sh vr chckd p n tht prsn’s BNK CCNT!!

  Wht’s th mttr dn’t lk m ‘ctng st sns’!? t s th Nw Hgh Scl Stts Ml THNG rnd hr! WHT s Hgh Clss!? Dng wht!? D Y mn ths Grg W. Bsh Jr. Trlr Wht-Trsh tht brght n Glbl Rcssn r Hgh Clss…. ll…. mr lk Lw Clss t m!! >=P

  Posted on 06-May-09 at 1:05 pm | Permalink

• Ben wrote:

  One word for the above. “Wow.”

  Posted on 06-May-09 at 1:33 pm | Permalink

• Ernie wrote:

  And disemvoweled. Keep the conversation intelligent, folks.

  Posted on 07-May-09 at 10:40 am | Permalink

• Taiwanese Guy wrote:

  Yh Ww,

  Thy crtnly scrmbl my mssgs p gd thr!!

  t sms lk http://www.8sns.cm dn’t spprt m tlkng bt th stffs tht mprv pckng p n th HT GRLS! nstd, thy r jst hr t blm vrythng n th st sn Mn!

  Posted on 08-May-09 at 12:01 am | Permalink

• Taiwanese Guy wrote:

  rn,

  “nd dsmvwld. Kp th cnvrstn ntllgnt, flks.”

  Bn s CWRD! Cn’t vn hndl my RFT! dn’t thnk h s vn n f r st sn Mn! Wb sts lk ths r ll th sm! Thy dn’t wnt t tch r st sn Brthrs n hw t pck p ny grls t ny plcs! Thy r jst hr t kck r st sn Mn n th BLLS!

  Cnfdnc s BS! f smn nvr vr bx bfr, w snd hm nt th rng wth Mnny Pcq (bst pnd-fr-pnd bxr)! s h gng t srvv? Hll N! H s gng t gt hs rs kckd lk Rcky Httn (nd Httn s sklld)!!

  Rmmbr tht whn gy pprchd ny wmn n nght clb nd mst plcs, sh’s ctlly fndng rsns t sht th gy dwn! Hr frnds wth hr wld b dng th sm s wll!!

  ntllgnt Cnvrstn!? Thr s nn f tht hr frm ppl tht ’m tlkng wth! ll s s bnch f CWRDS tkng chp sht t r st sn Mn wth r hnds t p n thr rp!!

  Posted on 08-May-09 at 12:49 am | Permalink

• Ben wrote:

  Okay, first. I didn’t find your information worth refuting. Different perspectives, sure, but worthwhile for me to say something? Not really. Calling me names to get me to play is pretty low considering most of your arguments defeat each other within the same comment. You’ll say one thing in one paragraph and in another make another example that throws the first point out completely.

  Second, If you want to teach people to pick up girls, go find a site that does it. There’s plenty of them.

  If you got disemvoweled, obviously you ran amuck somewhere with your commenting. Anyone that’s ever bothered to get to know me knows that I’m not as nice as Ernie with disemvowels. I would just throw the ban switch on my own blog for bad language.

  Personally, I’ve felt that I’ve been fairly nice about it, since the entire CAPS thing is rather annoying. Learn some Nettiquette. If you want to be taken seriously on any level, don’t type your rants like a eight year old since that’s what it comes across like. I’m glad you can/love/want to pick up women in clubs. Been there, done that, moved on to a better part of my life. But calling people names because you disagree? Sorry, but I find that pretty pathetic. Basically it means that you don’t have anything else to say so you’re resorting to insults.

  My two cents.

  Posted on 08-May-09 at 5:52 am | Permalink

• Ben wrote:

  While I’m thinking about it, read the post more carefully. I didn’t put any blame on any sort of Asian person, female or otherwise. If anything, I was refuting the fact that the article I referenced that had Asian males (whether or not immigrant or first/second/+ gen) having issues with dating Caucasian girls was incorrect.

  Call me crazy, but I think that there might be a language barrier in which the subtlety escaped.

  Posted on 08-May-09 at 6:09 am | Permalink

• Paul Z wrote:

  Off-topic here: Taiwanese Guy seems to be a semi-newby in joining the pick-up community, even though he denies it. The things he talks about is straight from the “mainstream theories” of the community. I’ve seen the type, they found some knowledge they think is incredible, something totally different from what they’ve heard their whole lives. They go around spreading this knowledge anyplace they can, hoping others would think the knowledge is as incredible as they thinks it is, therefore attributing them with the spreading of the knowledge, making them feel good about themselves. I think every guy in the community goes through that for a brief period of time, and after a while, they realize this stuff, especially taken out of the “whole” concept, isn’t very receptive by mainstream society, and keep it to themselves. Before you start defending yourself due to knee jerk reaction of being “attacked”, please remember what the community is truly about – self-improvement and self-reflection.

  http://www.datinggroundwork.com/community

  Please take a look at this article, do some self-reflection on how many of those “weird” things you’ve done and still do (I know I’ve been guilty of some of those), and think of how we can better represent the community as “cool normal people” instead of “weird guy bragging about something weird”.

  Posted on 08-May-09 at 7:54 am | Permalink

• dddddddddddd wrote:

  http://mmxf.blogspot.com

  asian man interracial blog

  Posted on 22-Jun-09 at 9:21 am | Permalink

• Tanairy wrote:

  Asain men are really beautiful and exotic. I absolutley adore them. I am hisapnic, but i have asian features. and people dont really see asian male hispanic female realtionships. That kinda sucks. Where i live thre are no asians at all. Unless i go to downtown Chicago. lol. For example on Friday i went to the taste of chicago, and i saw lots of asians, which made me very happy. i saw an asian male with a black female and i thought that was wonderful. They looked super cute together. of course there were lots of asian guys with white girls, and no offense to the white chicks, but everytime i see that i get annoyed and i envy them. Come on asian guys hispanic women are beautiful and believe it or not we adore you! Quit it with the white meat!

  Posted on 06-Jul-09 at 10:30 am | Permalink

• bigfuzzyyak wrote:

  White Female & Asian Male chatroom
  Sunday 9pm EST
  http://www.meebo.com/room/wfam/
  password:wfam

  Posted on 02-Aug-09 at 6:35 pm | Permalink

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