Comments on: On Matchmaking and Asian Male/White Female Interracial Relationships

By: HagitNajar

HagitNajar — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 15:13:55 +0000

i am a 29 israeli-jew girl, and i love asian, i had a korean fiance but it didnt work because he had society issues, and also mother issues. i would love to meet an asian guy for serious relationship, but it seems to be difficult, because some see me as a fantasy and thats all, and to find a guy with no parents issues that is willing to marry a non asian girl its difficult…

By: Micht

Micht — Thu, 16 Jun 2011 01:35:52 +0000

In the 1950s, 1960s, 1970s, most of the Asian students, most of the Chinese students who went to study in Europe had white French, German, Italian, Russian, etc… girlfriends and most of them got married to white French, German, Italian, Russian, etc… girls.

link http://asians-against-racism.socialgo.com/forum/topic/38

By: powerbee1

powerbee1 — Fri, 28 Jan 2011 06:05:57 +0000

I’m sorry but some of the comments here are kind of lame. If your ethnicity is dominant in your home country, obviously there would be dominance from gender as well, which is male (we live in a very male dominant society), and this is why it’s perfectly ok for western society to allow interracial couples between white male and asian female while white female and asian male couple is frowned upon in both asian and western cultures. I’m not necessarily suggesting it’s because of racism…it has to do with dominance and whites make up the most in the U.S.

By: stephanierf1

stephanierf1 — Mon, 10 Jan 2011 07:21:15 +0000

I’m a white woman in a relationship with an asian male and I believe people are putting too much thought into this type of interracial relationship. I just simply do not see my bf as a color, but rather a person. I also live in the deep south and have a large family with ignorant beliefs regarding asian people in general. My bf definitely does not feel as though I’m too much to handle, lol. If anything it’s how our families will find a way to get along or even speak to each other! But anyway, this type of relationship is difficult if you let other people’s judgmental opinions influence your own life. I find it much easier when I forget others, which is hard when people gawk at us as if we are aliens. I think if people let go of raical stereotypes then they will see that there are a lot more options surrounding them other than their own race. To me he is my boyfriend and the guy I plan on having adorable children with, not someone who looks different and likes odd foods!

By: Tanairy

Tanairy — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 15:30:34 +0000

Asain men are really beautiful and exotic. I absolutley adore them. I am hisapnic, but i have asian features. and people dont really see asian male hispanic female realtionships. That kinda sucks. Where i live thre are no asians at all. Unless i go to downtown Chicago. lol. For example on Friday i went to the taste of chicago, and i saw lots of asians, which made me very happy. i saw an asian male with a black female and i thought that was wonderful. They looked super cute together. of course there were lots of asian guys with white girls, and no offense to the white chicks, but everytime i see that i get annoyed and i envy them. Come on asian guys hispanic women are beautiful and believe it or not we adore you! Quit it with the white meat!

By: Paul Z

Paul Z — Fri, 08 May 2009 15:54:11 +0000

Off-topic here: Taiwanese Guy seems to be a semi-newby in joining the pick-up community, even though he denies it. The things he talks about is straight from the “mainstream theories” of the community. I’ve seen the type, they found some knowledge they think is incredible, something totally different from what they’ve heard their whole lives. They go around spreading this knowledge anyplace they can, hoping others would think the knowledge is as incredible as they thinks it is, therefore attributing them with the spreading of the knowledge, making them feel good about themselves. I think every guy in the community goes through that for a brief period of time, and after a while, they realize this stuff, especially taken out of the “whole” concept, isn’t very receptive by mainstream society, and keep it to themselves. Before you start defending yourself due to knee jerk reaction of being “attacked”, please remember what the community is truly about – self-improvement and self-reflection.

http://www.datinggroundwork.com/community

Please take a look at this article, do some self-reflection on how many of those “weird” things you’ve done and still do (I know I’ve been guilty of some of those), and think of how we can better represent the community as “cool normal people” instead of “weird guy bragging about something weird”.

By: Ben

Ben — Fri, 08 May 2009 14:09:41 +0000

While I’m thinking about it, read the post more carefully. I didn’t put any blame on any sort of Asian person, female or otherwise. If anything, I was refuting the fact that the article I referenced that had Asian males (whether or not immigrant or first/second/+ gen) having issues with dating Caucasian girls was incorrect.

Call me crazy, but I think that there might be a language barrier in which the subtlety escaped.

By: Ben

Ben — Fri, 08 May 2009 13:52:44 +0000

Okay, first. I didn’t find your information worth refuting. Different perspectives, sure, but worthwhile for me to say something? Not really. Calling me names to get me to play is pretty low considering most of your arguments defeat each other within the same comment. You’ll say one thing in one paragraph and in another make another example that throws the first point out completely.

Second, If you want to teach people to pick up girls, go find a site that does it. There’s plenty of them.

If you got disemvoweled, obviously you ran amuck somewhere with your commenting. Anyone that’s ever bothered to get to know me knows that I’m not as nice as Ernie with disemvowels. I would just throw the ban switch on my own blog for bad language.

Personally, I’ve felt that I’ve been fairly nice about it, since the entire CAPS thing is rather annoying. Learn some Nettiquette. If you want to be taken seriously on any level, don’t type your rants like a eight year old since that’s what it comes across like. I’m glad you can/love/want to pick up women in clubs. Been there, done that, moved on to a better part of my life. But calling people names because you disagree? Sorry, but I find that pretty pathetic. Basically it means that you don’t have anything else to say so you’re resorting to insults.

My two cents.