Excited
By Kimberly
When I asked Ernie to be a contributor for 8Asians, I was sure that he was going to email me back saying, “Sorry, you are just not Asian enough.” I was adopted by white people and shipped from South Korea to America when I was very young, so I really don’t know what it means to be “Asian.” Our family photos always looked like some sort of poster for Christian Children’s Fund, with my round little dark face amid a sea of pale skin and blue eyes. Also, I don’t live in California; I live in the DEEP South, otherwise known as the seventh level of Hell.
Where I live in Georgia, you don’t see very many Asian people. There’s maybe two in each graduating class in the high schools — they’re called the Valedictorian and the editor of the school paper. When my husband — a Round-Eye — and I owned a seafood restaurant for six years we had a young Chinese American cashier working for us. I swear, when people walked in and saw the two of us together up front they would do a double take and check the sign again. Their waitress would later tell me that the customer said they thought the new owners had turned the place into a Chinese Restaurant. Down here if you’re Asian, you’re either a brilliant physicist, a dentist or straight-off-the-boat running a Chinese buffet.
Recently I have noticed an increase in young Asian children being adopted by white couples here. I was watching Australia the other day and I was like, That’s us; we’re the lost generation growing up between two worlds.
And then I got distracted by Hugh Jackman’s sexy, oily chest in the campfire scene.
I don’t really have any current Asian events to report on from here — there’s not exactly an Asian Freaknik or anything – but I hope to share my perspective on what it’s like to try to define your identity as an Asian American in a place where the N word is still thrown around more often than you’d think, and the general consensus is that evolution shouldn’t be taught in schools and gay marriage will bring about the apocalypse. So you see my predicament; if there is such a thing as How to Be Korean for Dummies, please send me a copy now.
About Kimberly: I am a freelance writer, wife, and mother of two living in Augusta, Georgia. I was adopted and raised by wolves so my idea of what it means to be Asian is ambiguous at best. My quest to find my identity began over a bowl of rice in a Korean restaurant. One bite of bulgogi and kimchi and I was like “My ancestors are calling me home!” (If there’s anything more spiritual than marinated short ribs I’ve yet to encounter it.)
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Lola
Kim you're a LEGEND, this had me laughing from beginning to end. I'm having an identity crisis myself, I know my origin is in AFRICA and growing with white family makes me look mixed race because my skin colour is brown. But after I finish my university I'm going to Mauritius to live there, at least that is my plan. Could your next piece of writing be about what is beautiful, I find that topic quite interesting because I'm from London & I have noticed in America they throw the N word around very easily. The Asians spend money on whitening creams while White people spend money on tanning. So what is beautiful?
Dear Shelise
I have watched some Korean drama but I find their variety show more interesting. It's crazy some of the things they do as celebrities, could you picture Brad Pitt doing such a thing. But I have noticed they encourage each other by praising their team mates with a little song, and 'Milky White Skin' always comes up. The only time I heard 'Milky Chocolate Skin' was when Oh Ji Ho was on their team. He isn't even that dark. But I must say you Koreans have an interesting take on beauty. I love it lol this woman went to teach English in Korea & her youtube video is so funny. I just wanted to share this video with all of you.
I forgot to include the youtube video before so I re-posted the same writing but with the video this time.
Peace & Love
Anna Lola James
Kim,
As a fellow Korean adoptee raised in the rural Midwest, I look forward to your future posts.
As mentioned by some others, a great way to "feel" Korean is to watch Korean dramas. They are cheesy, corny and sappy, but it's one time where I can feel like I'm part of Korea. Check out the site www.dramafever.com. The dramas are free and the video quality is top notch.
Charles:
Love it, love it love it! Esp. the Korean Mom blog- sooo funny!
Thank all of you guys so much! I have been fully submerging myself and should be done morphing soon!
And thanks for all the warm welcomes and attention- I feel like the new girl at a swinger's party or something!
You guys are awesome.
Kim
Kimberly,
As a fellow Korean Adoptee, check out these hilarious and informative sites:
http://askakorean.blogspot.com/ and http://stuffkoreanmomslike.blogspot.com/
Both are as educational as they are entertaining. Looking forward to more posts.
Charlie,
the KimcheeGI
Kimberly,
As a fellow Korean Adoptee, check out these hilarious and informative sites:
http://askakorean.blogspot.com/ and http://stuffkoreanmomslike.blogspot.com/
Both are as educational as they are entertaining. Looking forward to more posts.
Charlie,
the KimcheeGI
Ernie's dildo chopstick holders? Why have I not seen them?
Welcome! I am sort of from the South - I was born in Mississippi but I grew up in California.
Kim, don't get into Korean Dramas, you'll realize once you're done, your children will have grown up and written a book on how you neglected them.
Kim:
You're forgiven. I totally think Hugh Jackman is hot.
And I also heart Asian guys. :D
Kim:
You're forgiven. I totally think Hugh Jackman is hot.
And I also heart Asian guys. :D
Guys-
I totally think Asian men are attractive!!!!
I'm sorry if I gave the impression otherwise. Okay, Ernie- I am really going to have to write about this because I can't have people thinking that just because I think Hugh Jackman is hot I don't think Asian men are too.
I heart Asian guys!!!!!
Kim
Guys-
I totally think Asian men are attractive!!!!
I'm sorry if I gave the impression otherwise. Okay, Ernie- I am really going to have to write about this because I can't have people thinking that just because I think Hugh Jackman is hot I don't think Asian men are too.
I heart Asian guys!!!!!
Kim
Kim, just get into Korean Drama and you'll learn about real Korean culture and history (and how real Asians act in an Asian society). They are popular around the world from the US to Iraq (Korean drama is #1 in Kurdistan). It will certainly help your self-esteem seeing so many attractive Asian men and women on screen. Right now Korean drama and pop culture is becoming dominate in Asia and many people around the world find Koreans hot and sexy (bet you didn't know that). I know Asians who has visited the Middle East and have people come up to them asking them if they are from Korea and how much they love it. That's what a good dose of Winter Sonata can do to people.
As for your kids, take them to see Wolverine and show them the hotness called Daniel Henney - he's a hapa Korean-American like them and a star in Korea. Tell them being a super-model maybe in their future. Maybe even you might start finding Asian men attractive. :)
Here's a famous ad with Dan with Gwyneth:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OJ8DPeOvNYQ
Here's a bunch of Round-Eyes in Philly crazy about K-drama who might give you some pointers on what to watch:
http://forum.koreandramas.net/
Kim, just get into Korean Drama and you'll learn about real Korean culture and history (and how real Asians act in an Asian society). They are popular around the world from the US to Iraq (Korean drama is #1 in Kurdistan). It will certainly help your self-esteem seeing so many attractive Asian men and women on screen. Right now Korean drama and pop culture is becoming dominate in Asia and many people around the world find Koreans hot and sexy (bet you didn't know that). I know Asians who has visited the Middle East and have people come up to them asking them if they are from Korea and how much they love it. That's what a good dose of Winter Sonata can do to people.
As for your kids, take them to see Wolverine and show them the hotness called Daniel Henney - he's a hapa Korean-American like them and a star in Korea. Tell them being a super-model maybe in their future. Maybe even you might start finding Asian men attractive. :)
Here's a famous ad with Dan with Gwyneth:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OJ8DPeOvNYQ
Here's a bunch of Round-Eyes in Philly crazy about K-drama who might give you some pointers on what to watch:
http://forum.koreandramas.net/
Welcome Kimberly! As you can see, we're a lot of fun and we don't take ourselves too seriously.
I totally believe that bulgogi is the gateway meat, not bacon! ;)
Welcome Kimberly! As you can see, we're a lot of fun and we don't take ourselves too seriously.
I totally believe that bulgogi is the gateway meat, not bacon! ;)
LOL! ... me thinks Kim is more Korean than she realizes!
of course that's said through the perspective of a confused ethnically Chinese-Canadian girl living in a multicultural city surrounded by family members who are more Filipino than Chinese, and who hosts a radio show where they play music in 3 sometimes 4 different languages in where she only fully understands one ... and that's only 5% of the time.
BTW - Hugh Jackman
LOL! ... me thinks Kim is more Korean than she realizes!
of course that's said through the perspective of a confused ethnically Chinese-Canadian girl living in a multicultural city surrounded by family members who are more Filipino than Chinese, and who hosts a radio show where they play music in 3 sometimes 4 different languages in where she only fully understands one ... and that's only 5% of the time.
BTW - Hugh Jackman <3 ... that is one DAMN SEXY beast ... Rowr - you should watch him in his promotional tour for Xman when he went to South Korea. Such a gentleman ... and not awkward like that guy from Twilight.
Here he is wearing an 1 <3 Seoul Tee in an English and Korean interview: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lSIUrZRFguk
Even had time to appear on a variety show - Eng Subbed (I just found this, so I'm watching it right now :P) : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lr8okUx_g3A
Elton-
Dude, you take me way too seriously.
"Youu00e2u0080u0099re not on the outside looking in, youu00e2u0080u0099re on the outside imagining yourself looking out at yourself from the inside."
Sarcasm and hyperbole are my native language. Don't look too deeply into every sentence fragment and interrupted thought (trust me, it'll drive you mad.)
BTW, I am not a native Southerner, but I have lived here a long time. I kind of have a love/hate relationship with this region- ying and yang. There are many things I love about it, but there are also about 10 different kinds of crazy running around on any given day and most of them want to know if you've been saved by Jesus yet. (And if you tell me to go back where I came from, I'm going to lose it.)
Come on, with a name like Elton Joe I know we're going to have a lot of fun. Don't analyze me too much (until we've had at least half a dozen shots each of Jager and one of us ends up puking and/or naked).
Kim
Elton-
Dude, you take me way too seriously.
"Youu00e2u0080u0099re not on the outside looking in, youu00e2u0080u0099re on the outside imagining yourself looking out at yourself from the inside."
Sarcasm and hyperbole are my native language. Don't look too deeply into every sentence fragment and interrupted thought (trust me, it'll drive you mad.)
BTW, I am not a native Southerner, but I have lived here a long time. I kind of have a love/hate relationship with this region- ying and yang. There are many things I love about it, but there are also about 10 different kinds of crazy running around on any given day and most of them want to know if you've been saved by Jesus yet. (And if you tell me to go back where I came from, I'm going to lose it.)
Come on, with a name like Elton Joe I know we're going to have a lot of fun. Don't analyze me too much (until we've had at least half a dozen shots each of Jager and one of us ends up puking and/or naked).
Kim
I do see your predicament. You see the world, especially your own Asianness, through white eyes. You invoke white people's stereotypes of Asians to describe yourself. Asian Americans don't necessarily see themselves as model minorities or perpetual immigrants--but whites do. You see white people the way whites imagine Asians see whites. It's not that Asians see whites' eyes as especially round or their eyes as especially pale--in fact, these traits are traditional standards of Asian beauty--but whites see Asians as dark and "slant" eyed. Your view of white men, as evidenced by your marriage to one and admiration of Hugh Jackman's body, and your imbuement of Korean American food with the "spiritual" essence of an apparently otherized, mysticized Korea is also how whites want Asians to see whites, and how whites see Asian culture, respectively. Finally, you even otherize the South despite being a native Southerner.
All of this indicates to me that you see the world and yourself not through your own perspective, but through a mainstream perspective. You're not on the outside looking in, you're on the outside imagining yourself looking out at yourself from the inside. You could never be, nor should you want to be, mainstream. That is the first lesson of "How to Be Korean" or, more generally, "How to Be a Proud Member of the Minority/Outside/Other." You have so much to offer from your perspective as an Asian American in a world normally painted only in black and white--the South. And you have so much to offer as a native Southerner in a country that thinks the South is an aberration.
Your unique perspective as an Asian American in the South is just as valuable as anyone else's. You must develop your own voice instead of seeing yourself as the other through mainstream eyes.
I am also an Asian American born and raised in the South. I'm sure we could have a lot to talk about.
Here is a great site for you to think about in terms of raising your kids: http://www.antiracistparent.com/
I do see your predicament. You see the world, especially your own Asianness, through white eyes. You invoke white people's stereotypes of Asians to describe yourself. Asian Americans don't necessarily see themselves as model minorities or perpetual immigrants--but whites do. You see white people the way whites imagine Asians see whites. It's not that Asians see whites' eyes as especially round or their eyes as especially pale--in fact, these traits are traditional standards of Asian beauty--but whites see Asians as dark and "slant" eyed. Your view of white men, as evidenced by your marriage to one and admiration of Hugh Jackman's body, and your imbuement of Korean American food with the "spiritual" essence of an apparently otherized, mysticized Korea is also how whites want Asians to see whites, and how whites see Asian culture, respectively. Finally, you even otherize the South despite being a native Southerner.
All of this indicates to me that you see the world and yourself not through your own perspective, but through a mainstream perspective. You're not on the outside looking in, you're on the outside imagining yourself looking out at yourself from the inside. You could never be, nor should you want to be, mainstream. That is the first lesson of "How to Be Korean" or, more generally, "How to Be a Proud Member of the Minority/Outside/Other." You have so much to offer from your perspective as an Asian American in a world normally painted only in black and white--the South. And you have so much to offer as a native Southerner in a country that thinks the South is an aberration.
Your unique perspective as an Asian American in the South is just as valuable as anyone else's. You must develop your own voice instead of seeing yourself as the other through mainstream eyes.
I am also an Asian American born and raised in the South. I'm sure we could have a lot to talk about.
Here is a great site for you to think about in terms of raising your kids: http://www.antiracistparent.com/
I, too, am adopted, and I look forward to your unique perspectives.
I, too, am adopted, and I look forward to your unique perspectives.
John- I absolutely have an opinion about that topic and I want to post a blog about it here if Ernie will let me. (I know you said relate my writing to current Asian events, Ernie, but there ARE no Asian events here and I promise to start following that dentist first thing tomorrow*)
Xxxtine- your post on Korean gay porn was the reason I knew this site was right for me (that and Ernie's dildo chopstick holders- I was like, Ahhh.... I'm home)
*Okay, there probably are lots of Asians here in Augusta and Asian stuff going on, I'm just probably really out of the loop. Or they don't like me. Assholes.
John- I absolutely have an opinion about that topic and I want to post a blog about it here if Ernie will let me. (I know you said relate my writing to current Asian events, Ernie, but there ARE no Asian events here and I promise to start following that dentist first thing tomorrow*)
Xxxtine- your post on Korean gay porn was the reason I knew this site was right for me (that and Ernie's dildo chopstick holders- I was like, Ahhh.... I'm home)
*Okay, there probably are lots of Asians here in Augusta and Asian stuff going on, I'm just probably really out of the loop. Or they don't like me. Assholes.
great post, I enjoyed reading it, I don't know how to be an Asian since I was raised in New York but I can understand why it's harder to define what an Asian is especially when everyone grew up in places other than then their birth place
great post, I enjoyed reading it, I don't know how to be an Asian since I was raised in New York but I can understand why it's harder to define what an Asian is especially when everyone grew up in places other than then their birth place
I really enjoyed your post.
I had blogged recently about a recent trend in China:
Why Americans Are Adopting Fewer Kids from China
http://www.8asians.com/2009/04/29/why-americans-ar...
and made a comment on "I mean, if you are an ethnically Chinese woman raised in a white family from when you were a baby, I imagine that the likelihood she would be more likely to date and marry a white man compared to a Chinese American girl raised in a Chinese American family." - which I got some flack for. Just wondering your thoughts on my "theory."
I really enjoyed your post.
I had blogged recently about a recent trend in China:
Why Americans Are Adopting Fewer Kids from China
http://www.8asians.com/2009/04/29/why-americans-ar...
and made a comment on "I mean, if you are an ethnically Chinese woman raised in a white family from when you were a baby, I imagine that the likelihood she would be more likely to date and marry a white man compared to a Chinese American girl raised in a Chinese American family." - which I got some flack for. Just wondering your thoughts on my "theory."
Welcome welcome Kimberly ... to our navel gazing insanity where we fling rice at one another and question each other's Asianness ...
I can't tell you how to be Korean, because I'm not one, but I've gotta say, you HAVE to watch some of the variety shows from South Korea - they're ridiculous. I've wasted months watching them.
I think the easiest to digest is this one because it's fairly straight forward, and it's english-subbed. Too bad the show as since been cancelled: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z72eGslybtk
Welcome welcome Kimberly ... to our navel gazing insanity where we fling rice at one another and question each other's Asianness ...
I can't tell you how to be Korean, because I'm not one, but I've gotta say, you HAVE to watch some of the variety shows from South Korea - they're ridiculous. I've wasted months watching them.
I think the easiest to digest is this one because it's fairly straight forward, and it's english-subbed. Too bad the show as since been cancelled: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z72eGslybtk
Hey Kimberly.
Just wanted to say that I'm really looking forward to your posts.
Hey Kimberly.
Just wanted to say that I'm really looking forward to your posts.
Thank you for contributing, Kimberly. I live in Atlanta, and I do love living in the South. I'll be doing a BBQ day-trip to Gainesville, and comparing it to the Korean BBQ I had last weekend. I'll be checking out your blog!
Thank you for contributing, Kimberly. I live in Atlanta, and I do love living in the South. I'll be doing a BBQ day-trip to Gainesville, and comparing it to the Korean BBQ I had last weekend. I'll be checking out your blog!
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