And I have to say that Kate is pretty mean. I feel bad for Jon having to put up with her for so many years. However, it is partly his fault for not standing up for himself.

Perhaps due to the illegality of divorce, separated people have no choice, but to regard the second mother as the mistress. If they had divorced, both parties could have remarried.

I have known, of one relative, who had two wives and the acrimony during his funeral between the children of the two respective mothers.

If you're asking where my parents are from, they were both born and raised in the Philippines, Cagayan and Manila. Currently, no one in my family immediate family in the Philippines that I know of has mistresses or at least outwardly declares it or refers to it in such a manner. My dad told me otherwise and only realized when he visited.

What woman would wait two hours for her date to show up?

Then:
He didn't open the door
He played loud music whilst driving
Didn't open the door and asked her why she was waiting.
Didn't have money for the date.

I've never known any of my male friends do this.

The man looks like a complete chump or is this her cousin??

What woman would wait two hours for her date to show up?

Then:
He didn't open the door
He played loud music whilst driving
Didn't open the door and asked her why she was waiting.
Didn't have money for the date.

I've never known any of my male friends do this.

The man looks like a complete chump or is this her cousin??

Remember we like to dominate and subjugate our women.

At the same time, we are too effeminate so Asian women prefer other races.

Reading both points at the same time and the mind boggles.

Have to ask where the heck does your family come from?
I have uncles in the Philippines and as far as I know, they don't have mistresses and I would have been told.

We spoke about this this morning, so hopefully I’m not speaking out of turn!

“A little girl gets her heart broken and during a fit of emotion, makes one sweeping generalization, and now we adults on the blogosphere are accusing her of being racist?”

Maybe Jeff can clarify, but from the description, it doesn’t seem like she was speaking in a fit of emotion. From his description, it sounds like he was talking after the fact, when she was settled and rational. Let me ask you this. When you were younger, and you had a bad experience dating an Asian guy, did you say, “I’ll never date an Asian guy again?” If you got into an argument with a black person, did you say, “Man, I don’t like black people, and I’d rather only associate with Whites?”

Is this any different? When I was younger, I had crazy, crazy, CRAZY bad experiences with SOME Asian women (you wouldn’t believe some of the craziness), but never once did I blame the entire race. (That, and I like Asian women. )

“I don’t think it’s just “one bad experience.” It had to be multiple bad experiences that happened to this poor girl and at some point, she put up walls and defense mechanisms that told her “I don’t want to suffer like my Mom.” A logical fallacy on the little’s girl part? Maybe. But life isn’t about philosophical reasoning all the time, my dear friend; sometimes it’s just about survival, protecting ourselves from getting hurt.”

It’s possible that she had multiple bad experiences. Maybe Jeff can clarify.

In any case, I’m not blaming the girl for being prejudiced against Asian men. We all live in the same society, and we all adopt the values of our society, even if they are values I don’t agree with. But I do think it should be challenged. Why are we always so quick to blame our own?

I also agree with the point that you made about needing the freedom to challenge our culture. It should be fair to question whether Asian men truly have a problem. If there’s a problem, of course I would want to fix it! In order to see if it’s a racial/cultural thing, however, we need to be willing to extend the analysis to include control groups, comparison groups, etc. If we were to make statements about other groups, we would extend this fairness to them, so I think it’s only right to extend the same fairness to ourselves.

Wow, I’m starting to feel the stirrings of man-love for Jeff. It almost makes me want to start a secret family with him.