Comments on: Gay Asian-Americans Face More Stress http://www.8asians.com/2009/08/01/gay-asian-americans-face-more-stress/ A blog for Asian Americans Mon, 13 Feb 2012 20:27:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Efren Bose http://www.8asians.com/2009/08/01/gay-asian-americans-face-more-stress/comment-page-1/#comment-128812 Efren Bose Thu, 06 Aug 2009 01:51:01 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=3495#comment-128812 Hmmm...interesting theory. I actually was going to do something similar for my PhD dissertation which was exploring a new coming out model when interviewing young queer Filipino American men and their coming out experiences. To put in lay terms, coming out is something that is never done and complete, which can probably be argued for most of us, regardless of ethnicity. People are out dependent on the situation at hand and the perceived threat to themselves, and that coming out is a lot more nuanced than what may be perceived. <br><br>I totally empathize with Tim. I'm pretty much completely out, but at the same time, my family doesn't like talking about it, even though they're mostly okay with it (well, forcing the issue by being on a major Filipino news show talking about same-sex marriage will do that). I don't see any point in beating people over the head with my sexual identity; it's just simply part (but not completely) who I am. Hmmm…interesting theory. I actually was going to do something similar for my PhD dissertation which was exploring a new coming out model when interviewing young queer Filipino American men and their coming out experiences. To put in lay terms, coming out is something that is never done and complete, which can probably be argued for most of us, regardless of ethnicity. People are out dependent on the situation at hand and the perceived threat to themselves, and that coming out is a lot more nuanced than what may be perceived.

I totally empathize with Tim. I'm pretty much completely out, but at the same time, my family doesn't like talking about it, even though they're mostly okay with it (well, forcing the issue by being on a major Filipino news show talking about same-sex marriage will do that). I don't see any point in beating people over the head with my sexual identity; it's just simply part (but not completely) who I am.

]]> By: Efren Bose http://www.8asians.com/2009/08/01/gay-asian-americans-face-more-stress/comment-page-1/#comment-125492 Efren Bose Wed, 05 Aug 2009 18:51:01 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=3495#comment-125492 Hmmm...interesting theory. I actually was going to do something similar for my PhD dissertation which was exploring a new coming out model when interviewing young queer Filipino American men and their coming out experiences. To put in lay terms, coming out is something that is never done and complete, which can probably be argued for most of us, regardless of ethnicity. People are out dependent on the situation at hand and the perceived threat to themselves, and that coming out is a lot more nuanced than what may be perceived. <br><br>I totally empathize with Tim. I'm pretty much completely out, but at the same time, my family doesn't like talking about it, even though they're mostly okay with it (well, forcing the issue by being on a major Filipino news show talking about same-sex marriage will do that). I don't see any point in beating people over the head with my sexual identity; it's just simply part (but not completely) who I am. Hmmm…interesting theory. I actually was going to do something similar for my PhD dissertation which was exploring a new coming out model when interviewing young queer Filipino American men and their coming out experiences. To put in lay terms, coming out is something that is never done and complete, which can probably be argued for most of us, regardless of ethnicity. People are out dependent on the situation at hand and the perceived threat to themselves, and that coming out is a lot more nuanced than what may be perceived.

I totally empathize with Tim. I'm pretty much completely out, but at the same time, my family doesn't like talking about it, even though they're mostly okay with it (well, forcing the issue by being on a major Filipino news show talking about same-sex marriage will do that). I don't see any point in beating people over the head with my sexual identity; it's just simply part (but not completely) who I am.

]]> By: daveinthe805 http://www.8asians.com/2009/08/01/gay-asian-americans-face-more-stress/comment-page-1/#comment-125484 daveinthe805 Wed, 05 Aug 2009 04:57:12 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=3495#comment-125484 It's hard enough being Asian in America but adding LGBT can be really exhausting from a career and family perspective! My mom thought that when I turned 30, I would get out of the gay phase and become straight. The rest of my family doesn't know and my parents would freak out if the other members of my family found out. Now that I am 34, my family is screaming for marriage and children. There are times I just don't want to be near the family and run away. I am just grateful that I know who I am (gay Asian male). It's hard enough being Asian in America but adding LGBT can be really exhausting from a career and family perspective! My mom thought that when I turned 30, I would get out of the gay phase and become straight. The rest of my family doesn't know and my parents would freak out if the other members of my family found out. Now that I am 34, my family is screaming for marriage and children. There are times I just don't want to be near the family and run away. I am just grateful that I know who I am (gay Asian male).

]]> By: timat8asians http://www.8asians.com/2009/08/01/gay-asian-americans-face-more-stress/comment-page-1/#comment-125472 timat8asians Tue, 04 Aug 2009 23:03:38 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=3495#comment-125472 @jason, thanks for the correction. I'll update the post. @jason, thanks for the correction. I'll update the post.

]]> By: jason http://www.8asians.com/2009/08/01/gay-asian-americans-face-more-stress/comment-page-1/#comment-125469 jason Tue, 04 Aug 2009 20:57:53 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=3495#comment-125469 I think Dr. Hahm is a woman.<br><a href="http://www.bu.edu/ssw/about/facultystaff/faculty/profiles/hahm/index.shtml" rel="nofollow">http://www.bu.edu/ssw/about/facultystaff/facult...</a> I think Dr. Hahm is a woman.
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