as for not reaching out to your mother about depression – wow, you make that seem as easy as asking how her day was. its hard to talk about mental illness PERIOD and it’s even harder to talk about it with loved ones because of a plethora of reasons, including but no limited to, you don’t want to burden them with your troubles (especially if mom was already depressed), you don’t want to feel judged negatively by the loved one, you are too scared to admit you are depressed to yourself let alone anyone else, you are afraid it will put even more of a strain on the current relationship. people who are depressed are very difficult to communicate with and relate to, and you, as a depressed person, are the last person to reach out to anyone. people with depression find it significantly harder to communicate with others, and feel more social inhibition. you don’t need a reason to be depressed, no more than a cancer patient needs a reason to have cancer (i’m not saying this is true for every single case of depression – yes, many have environmental causes, but there are very definite biological components).

I’ve read this whole article (some parts twice) and I still don’t understand why you became depressed.

Family, Culture and Environment.

A topic that arises time to time on this site is self-identity issues among Asians, in particular East-Asians.

Hmmm…

I have put myself in situations to observe how I or fellow Asians interact with the majority. I have had my share of conflicts and have gradually learned that simply we are all different. The difference is minimized through aging. Change occurs with time. It may a bit longer for some Asians as we grow older slower (both mental and physical) LOL! .

The problem is really simple, Globalization!

We judge ourselves in terms of Western appetite for success, wealth, intelligence, beauty and blah, blah, blah.
When the ‘world’ opened up its doors, ‘we’ entered to see the sights, the sounds; the entertainment!

Simply, ‘we’ can not ‘measure’ up…unless…

Why is there China towns? Korean towns? Japanese towns? and etc. in big metropolitan places?
It is a place where ‘our’ people can ‘identify’ within our confines and possibly share something between ourselves and/or with others.

Possibly the only way to understand the ‘problem’ is to observe it through the lense of ‘your’ people. Take a trip back home and travel all over ‘Asia’.
What would ‘your’ people say? About themselves and others? Where on the scale from zero to a billion do they rank ‘this’ and ‘that’ knowing what they ‘know’?

Here, the problem lies with knowledge and intelligence. There is a reason why the ‘West’ grouped that many countries into the massive continent called ‘Asia’. What do we all share?

Amidst all the ‘problems’, here comes the ‘humanistic’ approach…again… Live, work, ‘help’ and die. I am an ‘old’ man now…

Let the people of colour fight for what we leave for them. Otherwise… Not to worry! What can they do? without us? Heck they even fight among themselves! HahaHA! Intelligent maker keeps his bounty. The worker slave does ‘his’ work under the guise.

Working it! Sticky Rice!

Family, Culture and Environment.

A topic that arises time to time on this site is self-identity issues among Asians, in particular East-Asians.

Hmmm…

I have put myself in situations to observe how I or fellow Asians interact with the majority. I have had my share of conflicts and have gradually learned that simply we are all different. The difference is minimized through aging. Change occurs with time. It may a bit longer for some Asians as we grow older slower (both mental and physical) LOL! .

The problem is really simple, Globalization!

We judge ourselves in terms of Western appetite for success, wealth, intelligence, beauty and blah, blah, blah.
When the ‘world’ opened up its doors, ‘we’ entered to see the sights, the sounds; the entertainment!

Simply, ‘we’ can not ‘measure’ up…unless…

Why is there China towns? Korean towns? Japanese towns? and etc. in big metropolitan places?
It is a place where ‘our’ people can ‘identify’ within our confines and possibly share something between ourselves and/or with others.

Possibly the only way to understand the ‘problem’ is to observe it through the lense of ‘your’ people. Take a trip back home and travel all over ‘Asia’.
What would ‘your’ people say? About themselves and others? Where on the scale from zero to a billion do they rank ‘this’ and ‘that’ knowing what they ‘know’?

Here, the problem lies with knowledge and intelligence. There is a reason why the ‘West’ grouped that many countries into the massive continent called ‘Asia’. What do we all share?

Amidst all the ‘problems’, here comes the ‘humanistic’ approach…again… Live, work, ‘help’ and die. I am an ‘old’ man now…

Let the people of colour fight for what we leave for them. Otherwise… Not to worry! What can they do? without us? Heck they even fight among themselves! HahaHA! Intelligent maker keeps his bounty. The worker slave does ‘his’ work under the guise.

Working it! Sticky Rice!