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Ever since the Internet has been available to Asian Americans, we’ve heard random shit about Asian American men: They’re effeminate. They’re child abusers. They’re wife beaters. They’re undesirable to women (or men, for that matter). They’re drunkards. They’re socially inept nerds who prefer playing WoW or D&D than having actual conversations in real life, where the sun shines.
So it shouldn’t be a surprise that we have yet another stereotype to be aware (or proud?) of: We’re cheaters!
Normally, this wouldn’t even register on my radar — ooh, straight Asian guys are having sex. yay — but then realizing how the stereotypes of Asian men have been since at least the 1960s, when apparently Asian men couldn’t have sex with anyone except themselves, it’s good to know that American women (read: middle-class white women) are finally acknowledging this basic fact: Straight Asian men are getting it on. WITH WOMEN. WHITE WOMEN. AND THEY CHEAT.
Of course, when you read the article, it’s painted with incredibly broad brushstrokes (“Asian” culture? Gag.), but it does point, however awkwardly, that straight male privilege is the same in nearly all parts of the globe. Men are expected to be the breadwinners, work excessive hours to maintain their jobs and their families, and are lucky to see their wives/partners/etc. more than once a week, while having to deal with their stress by excessive drinking, womanizing, etc., because the workplace culture demands it. And of course, if the writer is assuming this by dating ten or even twenty Asian men, that’s still not enough to make any generalizations.
At least it’s better than the assumption that Asian men are all docile little pussycats that would be the nearly-white men that these white women can take home to meet their (incredibly racist but overly polite to mention it) mothers.
So, to the original writer of that post: Asian men are still men. And some Asian men are douchebags and assholes who will cheat on your complacent white ass (like a certain Asian American man who’s been WAY overexposed who’s known for having eight kids.) And some Asian men are the nicest guys you’ll ever meet. You’ve just been unlucky to meet a whole slew of douchebags.
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blondeprincess
Some of the things said in this article are very true, rather critically put, but still. I been with my Amerian Chinese guy for over a year now, very in love, I am a white female who is 7 years younger then he is and I am very happy with his dominating, possessive, jealous controlling nature! I love it! Works for me!
ps who is the guy in the pic - he looks like a freak
Women like cheaters, it makes them a 'man'. same reason why asian women go for the 'white devil'.i cheated on a white girl once, that same year i was popular with lots of women. this year im single and spending all my spare time looking at porn. big deal.
Wow, I can only speak from my own experience- he moved to Canada, busted out of the closet, became a whore for awhile, (it was like a teenager trying pot, he said), and then when he met me, kept up his contacts in the dating sites, always recieving notifications and pics in his email. I'm just curious" he said. He cheated on his wife with numerous "clients" and then was devastated when she left (wow). 20 Years on, he's still the "player" he was before I met him, and even though he could have whatever he wanted from me (sexually), he still prefers the
cruising in the woods, gym, sauna, etc.
HIs sgrandfather had lots ofwives, and I honestly believe it's a cultural thing- I'd be more acepting if he was in love-at least that's a real affair... but he isn't and his sex drive gets directed the other way. He's a twerp of the highest order!!!!!
Wow, I can only speak from my own experience- he moved to Canada, busted out of the closet, became a whore for awhile, (it was like a teenager trying pot, he said), and then when he met me, kept up his contacts in the dating sites, always recieving notifications and pics in his email. I'm just curious" he said. He cheated on his wife with numerous "clients" and then was devastated when she left (wow). 20 Years on, he's still the "player" he was before I met him, and even though he could have whatever he wanted from me (sexually), he still prefers the
cruising in the woods, gym, sauna, etc.
HIs sgrandfather had lots ofwives, and I honestly believe it's a cultural thing- I'd be more acepting if he was in love-at least that's a real affair... but he isn't and his sex drive gets directed the other way. He's a twerp of the highest order!!!!!
Yea pretty sure that Jon Gosselin is half white. Lots of people just thought of his as a weird looking white guy. Which is why when you check message boards questions such as "What's the deal with Jon Gosselins face?" and my personal favourite "Does John Gosselin have down syndrome" frequently pop up. Let white people deal with him.
Yea pretty sure that Jon Gosselin is half white. Lots of people just thought of his as a weird looking white guy. Which is why when you check message boards questions such as "What's the deal with Jon Gosselins face?" and my personal favourite "Does John Gosselin have down syndrome" frequently pop up. Let white people deal with him.
No, you can't tell. No one can. Which is why "race"is an idiotic construct with ethnicity its retarded little brother.
No, you can't tell. No one can. Which is why "race"is an idiotic construct with ethnicity its retarded little brother.
I didn't know Jon was Korean.
He looked Asian or something but I could never have guessed Korean - and I'm Korean myself!
Usually I can tell, even if you do have another ethnic blood in you.
He looked 1 part asian 3 parts white.
I didn't know Jon was Korean.
He looked Asian or something but I could never have guessed Korean - and I'm Korean myself!
Usually I can tell, even if you do have another ethnic blood in you.
He looked 1 part asian 3 parts white.
I'm sorry if you've got a.... corpulent ass, my man. I didn't mean to offend you, fat people are cool too.
Or did I understand that incorrectly? You're not fat, and you're offended because you think I'm implying that all Chinese guys are fat or unattractive?
I'm not saying all Chinese dudes are fat - how can I, when there are over half a billion Chinese men on this planet? There are all types, obviously. But if you look at a fat Chinese fellow, you get a look that distinctly resembles Jon Gosselin, but with more pigmentation. Bigger eyes than a Korean, less angular features, especially the eyes.
Ask any Korean, and they will tell you that Jon looks nothing like the average Korean man - he came out looking like a bleached out Chinese dude.
I'm sorry if you've got a.... corpulent ass, my man. I didn't mean to offend you, fat people are cool too.
Or did I understand that incorrectly? You're not fat, and you're offended because you think I'm implying that all Chinese guys are fat or unattractive?
I'm not saying all Chinese dudes are fat - how can I, when there are over half a billion Chinese men on this planet? There are all types, obviously. But if you look at a fat Chinese fellow, you get a look that distinctly resembles Jon Gosselin, but with more pigmentation. Bigger eyes than a Korean, less angular features, especially the eyes.
Ask any Korean, and they will tell you that Jon looks nothing like the average Korean man - he came out looking like a bleached out Chinese dude.
Corpulent? My ass. Let's not get down to stereotypes here.
Corpulent? My ass. Let's not get down to stereotypes here.
By the way, I'm not implying that all Chinese guys are pale or doughy. But he does have a look that distinctly resembles a corpulent Chinese man.
By the way, I'm not implying that all Chinese guys are pale or doughy. But he does have a look that distinctly resembles a corpulent Chinese man.
Jon Gosselin is essentially a white man. He's half white, has a white last name because his father is white (this is often a significant factor in how Eurasian kids turn out: Asian mother, and they quite often end up aligned with Caucasians), and the only "Korean" he knows is what his Korean grandma cooks up for him on her rare visits to the (ex) Gosselin home.
Come on, people. I'm Korean, and quite honestly this guy is as "Korean" as Apple Pie on a window sill, or a Yankees Stadium hot dog. So this article is ultimately a bit misleading.
Nobody in the American public really thinks of Jon as "Asian": he's just a (read: white) guy who happens to have some Korean in him cos his grandpa brought home a war bride way back when.
Besides... you take away his blue/green/whatever eyes, and he looks more like a pale, doughy Chinese guy. Koreans men tend to have pretty angular and harsh features, and he looks nothing like a Korean.
But with that said... yeah, some of us Asian guys are douchebags. And yeah, some of us get it on freaky-style with white chicks, but then again that isn't exactly anything to be proud about, is it? Wow. Miscegenation. Fornicating across color lines, just like a black pitbull mounting a Bischon Frise. Seen it, done it, tasted it, experienced it. Big whoop. Nothing deep about crossing color lines to get your nut.
Jon Gosselin is essentially a white man. He's half white, has a white last name because his father is white (this is often a significant factor in how Eurasian kids turn out: Asian mother, and they quite often end up aligned with Caucasians), and the only "Korean" he knows is what his Korean grandma cooks up for him on her rare visits to the (ex) Gosselin home.
Come on, people. I'm Korean, and quite honestly this guy is as "Korean" as Apple Pie on a window sill, or a Yankees Stadium hot dog. So this article is ultimately a bit misleading.
Nobody in the American public really thinks of Jon as "Asian": he's just a (read: white) guy who happens to have some Korean in him cos his grandpa brought home a war bride way back when.
Besides... you take away his blue/green/whatever eyes, and he looks more like a pale, doughy Chinese guy. Koreans men tend to have pretty angular and harsh features, and he looks nothing like a Korean.
But with that said... yeah, some of us Asian guys are douchebags. And yeah, some of us get it on freaky-style with white chicks, but then again that isn't exactly anything to be proud about, is it? Wow. Miscegenation. Fornicating across color lines, just like a black pitbull mounting a Bischon Frise. Seen it, done it, tasted it, experienced it. Big whoop. Nothing deep about crossing color lines to get your nut.
She got burned and she's bitter.
I've been cheated by all sorts - race not an issue (or a factor) and yep I was unlucky, but hey I learned and by each step got close to someone wonderful - an Asian Canadian. (should I start getting paranoid? - sarcasm btw)
shit...was it a bad idea to dress as jon gosselin this halloween?
But isn't Jon Gosslin half-white. Plus, he was raised in a White American culture all his life.
The title of the post should be thus be changed to "Newsflash: Some White Men Cheat on their Partners."
The writer of the original article is the kind of person I would prefer to never come across in my life. So much racism/fetishising, so little intelligence.
Not that it matters, but the author of that post is a black girl.
And if you go read her site, she likes to just moan about the fact that asian men that date black women are few but around.... but then goes on about how they cheat and such. Strange since she's the one dating them.
Anyhow, I agree with Effie. It's too bad that she's the one that has to meet the "slew of douchebags."
that blog post isn't worth linking to.
It sounds like Jon Gosselin could be the new poster boy for the yellow peril where Asian men will be having sex with and then ruining white women.
I hate Jon Gosselin.
Haaaaaaaaate.
Good post, much better put than the previous one on the subject.. http://www.8asians.com/2009/05/25/asian-males-b...
As you've probably seen, Kate is no prize. Yes, she's beautiful and the girl next door, but she's a controlling ball buster who treated Jon like crap. At every turn she used the excuse that she's got eight kids to take care of and she's stressed out, but she constantly belittled Jon at every turn. She clearly was the daddy and she clearly enjoyed putting Jon in his place. I can't blame Jon for playing the field. Of course, when reporters ask him if he's dating so and so, what do you expect him to say. He's not married or committed to any of these women who clearly find him attractive. I say less of the judgements and more understanding.
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