Comments on: Taking Care of Your Elderly Parents http://www.8asians.com/2009/11/21/taking-care-of-your-elderly-parents/ A blog for Asian Americans Mon, 13 Feb 2012 20:27:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: The multi-generational household is back, led by Asian and Latino families | Multi-American http://www.8asians.com/2009/11/21/taking-care-of-your-elderly-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-159291 The multi-generational household is back, led by Asian and Latino families | Multi-American Tue, 04 Oct 2011 22:46:06 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=4094#comment-159291 [...] so highly of that idea, to put it mildly. Often a multi-generational household happens because of the need to care for elderly parents. Indeed, the study points to data that says that older people living with others are generally [...] [...] so highly of that idea, to put it mildly. Often a multi-generational household happens because of the need to care for elderly parents. Indeed, the study points to data that says that older people living with others are generally [...]

]]> By: 8Asians.com » Asian-Americans Lead Shift to Multi-Generational Households http://www.8asians.com/2009/11/21/taking-care-of-your-elderly-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-130178 8Asians.com » Asian-Americans Lead Shift to Multi-Generational Households Mon, 29 Mar 2010 07:11:14 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=4094#comment-130178 [...] so highly of that idea, to put it mildly.  Often a multi-generational household happens because of the need to care for elderly parents. Indeed, the study points to data that says that older people living with others are generally [...] [...] so highly of that idea, to put it mildly.  Often a multi-generational household happens because of the need to care for elderly parents. Indeed, the study points to data that says that older people living with others are generally [...]

]]> By: Ifeelsoloved http://www.8asians.com/2009/11/21/taking-care-of-your-elderly-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-128502 Ifeelsoloved Tue, 01 Dec 2009 11:03:03 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=4094#comment-128502 wow natalie, sorry to hear that. ;( hope things change for the better.<br>I really think I got lucky in that case becuase I hear similar stories form other non-asians about their asians in-laws.<br>my inlaws are korea and I'm european/central american. I cannot speak korean and they cannot speak english, yet they LOVE me. my husband is the oldest and the only son, yet they treat me better than they do him. I got married at a young age, and they supported me 100% on everything I did. they provided a home for me and my husband when we married, bought me a car, paid for my college, and make me special vegan versions of their traditional foods. when me and my husband argue, they usually take my side. they always tell me how sweet I am, how pretty I am, and how good of a wife I am. they actually cried when I had a miscarrage.<br>I cannot call them by their name or "mr. & mrs.", it must be umma and appa. my mother in-law always touches my hair and says things like "my sweet daughter".<br>I can tell they ecpect that I'll be the one taking care of them when their older, and I'll love doing it, they are great in-laws for any race, lol. wow natalie, sorry to hear that. ;( hope things change for the better.
I really think I got lucky in that case becuase I hear similar stories form other non-asians about their asians in-laws.
my inlaws are korea and I'm european/central american. I cannot speak korean and they cannot speak english, yet they LOVE me. my husband is the oldest and the only son, yet they treat me better than they do him. I got married at a young age, and they supported me 100% on everything I did. they provided a home for me and my husband when we married, bought me a car, paid for my college, and make me special vegan versions of their traditional foods. when me and my husband argue, they usually take my side. they always tell me how sweet I am, how pretty I am, and how good of a wife I am. they actually cried when I had a miscarrage.
I cannot call them by their name or “mr. & mrs.”, it must be umma and appa. my mother in-law always touches my hair and says things like “my sweet daughter”.
I can tell they ecpect that I'll be the one taking care of them when their older, and I'll love doing it, they are great in-laws for any race, lol.

]]> By: Ifeelsoloved http://www.8asians.com/2009/11/21/taking-care-of-your-elderly-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-128108 Ifeelsoloved Tue, 01 Dec 2009 03:03:03 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=4094#comment-128108 wow natalie, sorry to hear that. ;( hope things change for the better.<br>I really think I got lucky in that case becuase I hear similar stories form other non-asians about their asians in-laws.<br>my inlaws are korea and I'm european/central american. I cannot speak korean and they cannot speak english, yet they LOVE me. my husband is the oldest and the only son, yet they treat me better than they do him. I got married at a young age, and they supported me 100% on everything I did. they provided a home for me and my husband when we married, bought me a car, paid for my college, and make me special vegan versions of their traditional foods. when me and my husband argue, they usually take my side. they always tell me how sweet I am, how pretty I am, and how good of a wife I am. they actually cried when I had a miscarrage.<br>I cannot call them by their name or "mr. & mrs.", it must be umma and appa. my mother in-law always touches my hair and says things like "my sweet daughter".<br>I can tell they ecpect that I'll be the one taking care of them when their older, and I'll love doing it, they are great in-laws for any race, lol. wow natalie, sorry to hear that. ;( hope things change for the better.
I really think I got lucky in that case becuase I hear similar stories form other non-asians about their asians in-laws.
my inlaws are korea and I'm european/central american. I cannot speak korean and they cannot speak english, yet they LOVE me. my husband is the oldest and the only son, yet they treat me better than they do him. I got married at a young age, and they supported me 100% on everything I did. they provided a home for me and my husband when we married, bought me a car, paid for my college, and make me special vegan versions of their traditional foods. when me and my husband argue, they usually take my side. they always tell me how sweet I am, how pretty I am, and how good of a wife I am. they actually cried when I had a miscarrage.
I cannot call them by their name or “mr. & mrs.”, it must be umma and appa. my mother in-law always touches my hair and says things like “my sweet daughter”.
I can tell they ecpect that I'll be the one taking care of them when their older, and I'll love doing it, they are great in-laws for any race, lol.

]]> By: june http://www.8asians.com/2009/11/21/taking-care-of-your-elderly-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-128006 june Mon, 23 Nov 2009 18:37:06 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=4094#comment-128006 My parents always treated us the same, so it was not obvious to us who they favored more. I did ask when I was younger, and they said they loved all 3 of us equally. I believed them then, but now that I am a parent, I know they were probably lying. And if I had to guess, I'd say I was my dad's favorite and my middle brother is my mom's favorite. But with extended family, I pretty much don't exist. My dad is the first son, and my middle brother is the first son as well, so he gets all the attention from them. (We are Taiwanese.) My parents always treated us the same, so it was not obvious to us who they favored more. I did ask when I was younger, and they said they loved all 3 of us equally. I believed them then, but now that I am a parent, I know they were probably lying. And if I had to guess, I’d say I was my dad’s favorite and my middle brother is my mom’s favorite. But with extended family, I pretty much don’t exist. My dad is the first son, and my middle brother is the first son as well, so he gets all the attention from them. (We are Taiwanese.)

]]> By: june http://www.8asians.com/2009/11/21/taking-care-of-your-elderly-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-141665 june Mon, 23 Nov 2009 18:37:00 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=4094#comment-141665 My parents always treated us the same, so it was not obvious to us who they favored more. I did ask when I was younger, and they said they loved all 3 of us equally. I believed them then, but now that I am a parent, I know they were probably lying. And if I had to guess, I'd say I was my dad's favorite and my middle brother is my mom's favorite. But with extended family, I pretty much don't exist. My dad is the first son, and my middle brother is the first son as well, so he gets all the attention from them. (We are Taiwanese.) My parents always treated us the same, so it was not obvious to us who they favored more. I did ask when I was younger, and they said they loved all 3 of us equally. I believed them then, but now that I am a parent, I know they were probably lying. And if I had to guess, I’d say I was my dad’s favorite and my middle brother is my mom’s favorite. But with extended family, I pretty much don’t exist. My dad is the first son, and my middle brother is the first son as well, so he gets all the attention from them. (We are Taiwanese.)

]]> By: Natalie http://www.8asians.com/2009/11/21/taking-care-of-your-elderly-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-127899 Natalie Sun, 22 Nov 2009 06:46:38 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=4094#comment-127899 Oof, I'm having a lot of awkwardness with my in laws at the moment re: cross cultural differences (they're HK Chinese and I'm white/English) and "we’ll understand each other, as long as she’s Chinese." rings a little too true for comfort. That definitely seems to be the cavern between me and my mother in law, although she's trying her best to find common ground with me, and there's no negativity in particular, just... well. She gets along a lot better with her nephew's wife, who is Chinese born. I'm just left out on the edges of conversation, feeling awkward. Having said that, my husband is the eldest and only son, and he's definitely the favorite out of the three siblings. Definitely definitely the favorite. They treat the three of them completely equally, and by most counts are a very modern and American family, eg: they don't intend on being taken care of when they're old(er). But you can still see a thin thread of traditional mindset running through the family for sure. Oof, I’m having a lot of awkwardness with my in laws at the moment re: cross cultural differences (they’re HK Chinese and I’m white/English) and “we’ll understand each other, as long as she’s Chinese.” rings a little too true for comfort. That definitely seems to be the cavern between me and my mother in law, although she’s trying her best to find common ground with me, and there’s no negativity in particular, just… well. She gets along a lot better with her nephew’s wife, who is Chinese born. I’m just left out on the edges of conversation, feeling awkward.

Having said that, my husband is the eldest and only son, and he’s definitely the favorite out of the three siblings. Definitely definitely the favorite. They treat the three of them completely equally, and by most counts are a very modern and American family, eg: they don’t intend on being taken care of when they’re old(er). But you can still see a thin thread of traditional mindset running through the family for sure.

]]> By: Natalie http://www.8asians.com/2009/11/21/taking-care-of-your-elderly-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-141664 Natalie Sun, 22 Nov 2009 06:46:00 +0000 http://www.8asians.com/?p=4094#comment-141664 Oof, I'm having a lot of awkwardness with my in laws at the moment re: cross cultural differences (they're HK Chinese and I'm white/English) and "we’ll understand each other, as long as she’s Chinese." rings a little too true for comfort. That definitely seems to be the cavern between me and my mother in law, although she's trying her best to find common ground with me, and there's no negativity in particular, just... well. She gets along a lot better with her nephew's wife, who is Chinese born. I'm just left out on the edges of conversation, feeling awkward. Having said that, my husband is the eldest and only son, and he's definitely the favorite out of the three siblings. Definitely definitely the favorite. They treat the three of them completely equally, and by most counts are a very modern and American family, eg: they don't intend on being taken care of when they're old(er). But you can still see a thin thread of traditional mindset running through the family for sure. Oof, I’m having a lot of awkwardness with my in laws at the moment re: cross cultural differences (they’re HK Chinese and I’m white/English) and “we’ll understand each other, as long as she’s Chinese.” rings a little too true for comfort. That definitely seems to be the cavern between me and my mother in law, although she’s trying her best to find common ground with me, and there’s no negativity in particular, just… well. She gets along a lot better with her nephew’s wife, who is Chinese born. I’m just left out on the edges of conversation, feeling awkward.

Having said that, my husband is the eldest and only son, and he’s definitely the favorite out of the three siblings. Definitely definitely the favorite. They treat the three of them completely equally, and by most counts are a very modern and American family, eg: they don’t intend on being taken care of when they’re old(er). But you can still see a thin thread of traditional mindset running through the family for sure.

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