• Danny_Ahmed

    I watched a Taiwanese TV program talking about traditional funerals. The show mentioned that depending on the religion, the family should do only one or the other.

    One was that the family should cry, to open up with their emotions so the deceased can sense that connection when leaving.

    The other was that family should try not to cry too much, or else the deceased will have a hard time trying to move on.

    Which one is the Buddhist traditions?

  • timat8asians

    @Danny_Ahmed My family (or at least my aunt who is the most devout Buddhist in my family), told us we were not to cry in the presence of the deceased. This is because you want them to know it’s okay for them to go on to their afterlife, that you don’t need them here to look after you, that you will be okay.

  • http://sherryillk.livejournal.com/ Sherry

    I just found this after doing a search for black armbands and their purpose in mourning. I always assumed it was a Chinese thing and then found out it was a Western one and I ended up comparing this article to the funeral of my grandparents from a few years back. We’re Cantonese and only slightly Buddhist so it’s a bit different. We didn’t get any knives and only the men in the family wore the armbands. The women wore the sprig of evergreen, tied with red string and we had it clipped to our hair. As for the flashlight, we actually let a small fire in the doorway and leaped over that… I almost wish we had done the flashlight since we were all a bit nervous about having to jump over a fire…

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