Why Do People Hate Asian Male/White Female Relationships?

By Ben | Monday, January 24, 2011 | 167 Comments

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So I was actually looking up to see whether or not Match.com or eHarmony had done any commercials with AMWF since it seemed like it’s the new thang to do as far as couples on television. I thought I saw a commercial with a mixed couple on there but instead I ran across this video of EmIlY72912.

In my experience, I’ve ran across very similar types of haters. I’m also going to assume that this is gender irrelevant and works the other way around.

Caucasians: Most of these are more in line with white supremacy. Can’t dilute the line, yadda yadda.
Asian females: Same but these are the ones that are insecure as if there aren’t enough Asian men to go around or something. Emily points out that it could be some sort of jealousy. There’s also mention of dilution of line.
Asian Males: Same as Asian females and still the mention of dilution of line.

What’s with the fear of dilution of line? And, why are there insecurities of whom people date/marry and why must they date within or exclusive to any race? Why does it even matter?

While I can’t speak for everyone, and can only speak on my personal experiences, I have to say that whether it’s physical attraction, mental, both, love, or whatever other reason that two individuals get together, it doesn’t really matter what “line” is diluted. Hate to break it to everyone that’s in the dark, but your line statistically speaking has probably been diluted already. Or the decisions to date exclusive to one race or not. I know plenty of people that date different races and some date exclusive to certain races. Purely a preference thing and who am I to judge whom they choose to love, care about, or just bone? And neither should you: Worry about yourself, your own love life, or sex life, or whatever other type of relationship you have and get your noses out of other people’s business, please. And if you just can’t help yourself? That’s okay — just don’t get all teary-eyed when you get thrown into one of those three categories.

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KoshkaKoh

Don’t know what to tell you. I’m a white woman, and my husband’s Korean (so, Asian)…
VănMinhNguyễn

Funny, because in Russia European women prefer nice (Han )Chinese men over their abusive white men. Stereotypes are regional, and people tend to look more often at a minority female population than at their male’s.
AsiaticGlory

Why are Asians so obsessed with whites? What is it about whites that appeal to Asians? White worship seems to be a problem among Asians worldwide from mail-order brides in Southeast Asia to self-hating overseas Asians to Russified “mankurts” in Central Asia. I wonder if it’s genetic.

Remember to teach your kids that Asian is beautiful.
gabriela sumano

How did you get with your Korean husband? I am like obsessed with Korean culture, and I would love to have Korean friends but, I can’t seem to find any. Sorry if this sounds out of the blue T.T
gabriela sumano

I think mixed couples and such should exist. Why not? I think love is a beautiful thing and it shouldn’t have boundaries. If you love someone, it shouldn’t matter what race or religion and such they are. You love them for who they are, and it’s no one’s business what type of preference you have , or relationship. This is coming from a Mexican-American 14yr old who dated a 14yr old Chinese-American.
girlxi

What a conversation, folks! Sorry if I’m repeating anyone…
From my understanding, the “white” person either male or female is seen as superior. Some who are not white but tend to date exclusively white, is because they think it will advance their social status by marrying a white person. For example, some Asian women would prefer a white husband so she can be seen as superior herself because she feel inferior being Asian. Same for the Asian men who think that white girls are goooood in bed, so they date white girls to complete their fantasy.

This concept of marrying/dating a different race to feel superior doesn’t just pertain to white/non-white relationship. The stereotype in my community is that if you can get a partner who is Chinese, Korean, Japanese, or Vietnamese, then you will be well off because these Asian groups have been in the states longer and had established and accomplished a lot for themselves… so they’re bound to be from well-to-do families and have high-paying jobs… and plus, according to Asian drama, they are good looking, tall, rich, and light-skinned so your babies will be light-skinned Asians, rich, talk, and good looking and that should make you more superior (isn’t that another conversation!?) If your partner is Laotian, Cambodian, Mexican or African decent, then the conversation goes along the line of, “Why are you dating him? He’s so dark. Your babies will be so dark! Does he have a well-to-do family? blah blah blah.”

haters.
Charlene Tauser

I’m a white female dating an asian male and I have to say these stereotypes are so ridiculous! However, my boyfriend was born and raised in the US, in a mostly white town so he is very “americanized”. I am also a quarter Filipino and my mother was raised in the Philippines so I do have an asian background. His parents actually adore me and don’t shun our relationship because we are biracial couple as many people would assume would be the case. But really, don’t judge by looks before you even try to get to know someone. If I had thought this way I never would have met the love of my life. I have dated a few white men and none of them have respected and appreciated me more than my current boyfriend. It deeply saddens me that people show hatred to couples like me and my boyfriend.
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100002251087743 Crispin Callahan

People in general have more hatred for White guy/Asian girl pairings, trust me. Most the Asian community seeks to break them up or ruin their relationships somehow. You two have it easy.
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100002251087743 Crispin Callahan

Also, you cant say that every solitary white guy is a jerk, and trust me, many Asian men are just looking for drunken flings with white women.
WhiskeyJunkie

Really, Callahan?

White men aren’t looking for drunken flings with Asian women?
Naw_Yo

i have to agree with you theres this idol worship going..its because these cultures have been suppressed so much by white people..that they feel as though to be seen as equals they need to be like them..smh its almost like worshipping god and its sad.
Naw_Yo

try having a white grandmother..but you solely look black and indian..and whenever people saw me with her and heard me say grandma they do a double-take..or try having a japanese grandmother and the same thing..i feel your pain but i dont neglect my grandmothers because their identity makes up my identity even if i didnt look like them..i went through my whole life being called half breed..chinky eyes and other stuff because of my multi-racial heritage..but i feel you..sometimes i just want to say black..but im lying to myself..because im not just black
jay nguyen

a friend said white women are taught in their homes not to date or marry outside their race because their “whiteness” would be subjugated. but it’s fine for a white man to date and marry outside their race.
Kenneth

No they dont
Kenneth

No they are not,
jonblaze1hq

Too white worship among Asians period. Let’s not minimize the issue of white supremacy and how it affects us. Being adopted i was never fully aware how all this played a part in my life. I can tell by so many comments there is so much denial in the Asian community.
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